Deleting friends?

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  • driaxx
    driaxx Posts: 314 Member
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    If they didn't log in or post I wouldn't notice, so the only way I would delete someone is if they were abusive.

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    Yeah, same. Or if they clogged up my news feed with irrelevant things waay too much.

    One girl deleted me once because I think she thought I was developing an eating disorder. Instead of warning me or trying to help me before I got worse, she just deleted me. It was probably for the best though, her 800 calorie diet was influencing me to do the same, so good riddance!
  • soon2bhotmom
    soon2bhotmom Posts: 108 Member
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    I've only deleted inactive ones but I am gonna go thru and delete those who always post but never reply or support others.
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,305 Member
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    hrm ... i'm in the middle of a deleting period right now.

    ~ i support as many as i can in my news feed who's posted within the past two hours of me logging in. So I obviously don't get everyone, which means I don't expect for every single person to support me - BUT, if I don't see some type of participation - pm/response/support/hell, anything - what's the point of being on my friends list? Just so I can have a high number? I find that utterly stupid. If I don't even recognize your name - delete.

    ~ the MEMEMEs. The ones who post all the time about this and that but ~never~ respond or ever take a moment to reciprocate. - delete.

    ~ the overachieving undereaters. The ones who don't listen to good advice about their unhealthy eating habit. Not the ones who are trying - the ones who think drinking a bottle of OJ in the morning is awesome and then they complain about feeling sick. - delete

    ~ the immature. No, not in the funny kind of way. The real way. I'm too old to deal with it. - delete


    If you make me laugh and we either pass ways on the boards, private messages, news feeds - you have a place in my heart.
  • kleavitt1992
    kleavitt1992 Posts: 592 Member
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    Long periods of absence
    i dont like their views on weightloss
    they are rude to others in the forums
    i dont remember anything about them because
    they never support me/ i haven't talked to them since last year (meaning a year ago not a month ago lol)
    I start with oldest friends first then go through the pages that way
  • cthoma70
    cthoma70 Posts: 228 Member
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    I havent deleted anyone. I'm afraid they may come back and not have friends on their list and give up again. I dont see the problem keeping them as friends as they dont log in and post stuff so they arent any problems
  • ahunkofmexican
    ahunkofmexican Posts: 199
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    It will always be a personal choice as to who and why. I prefer to keep a small list of friends for a few reasons. For one, i cannot keep up on 50-100 plus friends and really give them my attention, so 15-20 is enough for me ! Some friends i like to laugh with:laugh: and some because they need some kinda support :ohwell: and some because they achieved their goals and maintaining like they should and are a good example to follow :drinker: . I keep a few who haven't logged in for months cause i miss them and you never know whats going on in their life for them to not log in for a month or so. One of my favorites just disappeared off the face of the Earth and i fear that This person might of died. :cry: I'm hoping This person will come back safe and sound.:heart: Dont always be 2 quick to delete unless your sure 4 yourself. Good luck on your journey. :drinker:
  • KayteeBear
    KayteeBear Posts: 1,040 Member
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    Usually a friend will be deleted if they haven't logged in for over 15 days. If I don't recognize your name (aka you never post) then I'll also delete them. If they don't post then I can't support them so no point being friends. Usually I just sort through for people who haven't logged in for a long time. It's to the point that last time I checked my friends everybody except for 2 or 3 people had logged in that day or day before.
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    I've only deleted inactive ones but I am gonna go thru and delete those who always post but never reply or support others.

    And I second all those who are starving themselves or having pity parties all the time. I also delete if I continually see you put up big absences-- a week here, couple days there, etc, etc. I'm kind of heavy handed with the delete button. :)

    I should add that I spend a lot of time actually viewing my friends' diaries, making comments, talking about exercise, recipes, and the like. I feel I am worth at least a little support from my friends, so if I check your profile and you haven't commented on any of your hundreds of friends' updates in weeks, then good riddance.
  • Kymmu
    Kymmu Posts: 1,650 Member
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    I deleted someone who was out and out abusive and swearing at me when I voiced my opinions and they were in contrast to his. it was nasty. I blocked him. I still have friends who are 'pals' with him though (?).....
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
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    > 3 Days absense - Delete.
    > Abusve - Delete.
    > Annoying 'I'm going for a poop' type updates - Delete.
    > Eating under a healthy amount and not willing to listen - Delete.
    > Struggling for a couple of days - Keep.
    > Occasionally being glum - Keep.
  • CavewomanCoby
    CavewomanCoby Posts: 253 Member
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    Days absent - generally if they are in the red and haven't posted a reason on their wall I will delete
    If they are here to cause drama - delete
    If I start to think they are disingenuous - delete
    If they don't encourage me or return my support - delete
  • april522
    april522 Posts: 388 Member
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    I will usually delete them if they haven't logged in for 2+ months.
  • spottedlee
    spottedlee Posts: 372
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    ~ the MEMEMEs. The ones who post all the time about this and that but ~never~ respond or ever take a moment to reciprocate. - delete.
    I have one of those and I hate it,,, this person would go on and on and on about this and that,,, so what!
  • Lambiii
    Lambiii Posts: 321
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    If they haven't been online for 3 days or more, if they do not make an effort to encourage friends, thats the point of being friends!
  • rockerbabyy
    rockerbabyy Posts: 2,258 Member
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    i recently cleared my friends list by half - got rid of some that hadnt logged in for a while (weeks to months), some i had nothing in common with, some who ate too little and wouldnt listen to reason (im sorry, 0 calorie net a day is not good). others i just had no interaction with.
    i still have kind of a hard time keeping up with all the posts on my feed, but 27ish is much easier to deal with than 40+
    i might clean it up some more in the future, but in the mean time im being more picky about who i accept as friends.
  • witheredorchid
    witheredorchid Posts: 164 Member
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    I deleted someone that was constantly complaining about their weight...starving for a day....then binge eating the next and would cry about binge eating. I could only be so supportive and try to help for so long before I found it discourging.
  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
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    Whats up with the three days crap? So, if I choose to take a vacation and not bring my smart phone I will come back to no friends?
  • Xtina_Beba
    Xtina_Beba Posts: 218
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    I've only deleted inactive ones but I am gonna go thru and delete those who always post but never reply or support others.

    And I second all those who are starving themselves or having pity parties all the time. I also delete if I continually see you put up big absences-- a week here, couple days there, etc, etc. I'm kind of heavy handed with the delete button. :)

    I should add that I spend a lot of time actually viewing my friends' diaries, making comments, talking about exercise, recipes, and the like. I feel I am worth at least a little support from my friends, so if I check your profile and you haven't commented on any of your hundreds of friends' updates in weeks, then good riddance.

    All of the above for me!
  • brianpride
    brianpride Posts: 27 Member
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    The only time I've deleted friends is after 3 months of being absent. If they're still checking in, even intermittently I try to give what support I can.
  • dalgal26
    dalgal26 Posts: 781 Member
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    Whats up with the three days crap? So, if I choose to take a vacation and not bring my smart phone I will come back to no friends?

    I agree. There are all sorts of reasons that someone may not be able to log for even a week or so. I would rather delete someone that hasn't logged in for a couple of months.

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