Friends with a girl

So two years ago, I was dating around and I had a fling with this pretty darn awesome woman.Let's call her Marge. We had loads of fun, great physical connection, but she flaked on me and then went on vacation. The following week, I met the woman I expect to spend the rest of my life with (or the rest of hers, whichever comes first). My fiance and I share a bond I never thought possible. We just fit together. If I hadn't met her, I'm pretty sure I might have managed to make a go of it with Marge and been very happy, just not AS happy.

Now, I think I would like to hang out with Marge as a friend now, because we share certain interests, such as eating organ meats in sketchy ethnic restaurants. However, the only time we have hung out together was in the context of a sexual fling and she is as attractive as ever. It's not that I think there would be any chance of me cheating - I can keep it in my pants, thank you. But I just don't know how to make a good transition from fling/potential girlfriend to platonic friend I want to eat tripe soup with. I feel like she would be like my food girlfriend. Any advice?

Wether u realize or not -- ur curious about what might still be there--don't play that game

dont do it to yourself

My fiance would be totally cool with it - hell, she thinks I should hang out with my ex-wife, and she has several friends she used to date. But as for me, I just don't know if I can be friends with someone I still kinda want to sleep with. I mean, I could certainly hang out with my ex wife... we never had sex while we were married, no reason why we would start now! Come to think of it, I have other female friends I've slept with and I don't even think about it even though they are totally hot. More reason to stay aweay in this case!

I'm gonna be blunt. She's not okay with it. If she is, she was born with an additional copy of chromosome 21. No women in their right mind would be okay with their significant other hanging out with a previous SEXUAL partner. The way you explained it, all you guys did was have sex. What is the point?

i agree with this every girl wants to be ok with it but i think after u start hanging out she wont feel that way. And if it was just a sexual relationship whats the point. Go find a dude that shares your interests or a girl that you did not have a past with

Oh WHATEVER! The next one of you I see calling my friend Formic...Espressoman dumb or dense is going to have a very unpleasant forum life courtesy of yours truly.

I'm telling you right now change the gender of this topic and every response would change. Have a woman ask if it's ok to have lunch with an ex and all you're going to hear is "No man owns me! I'll have lunch with who I want! We're just friends."

I have to agree with this.

I think if you wanted to be platonic friends/food friends with her, that's how it should have stayed. I feel once that line is crossed and there is a sexual thing going on, it's not ever easy going back to being platonic. I would not have kept it at being friends..... JMO

wow, umm ok, something must be wrong with me.

I am happily in a long term relationship at the moment (7 years or something like that).
My man and i have no issue whatsoever when it comes to jealousy,

My best friend is my ex boyfriend. My partner and my ex boyfriend get along like a house on fire.
Yes ive seen them both Naked, so what. All this stuff about people not being able to be friends with ex-partners is complete BS.

If you dated someone, you dated them for a reason, because they meant something to you, at one time in your life they were your whole world. Sometimes things just don't work out, but why should i have to sacrifice my good friendship because I saw someone naked? To me that is not a good enough excuse to completely cut someone out of your life.
A lot of my best friends are guys (i just seem to get along better with them), 2 of them or so i have had relations with, so what? doesn't change who they are as a person, they are still the same person that you originally were"attracted " to, but as youve seen their bad side and their bad traits, all the sexualness from it leaves and there is nothign there but mutual friendship, knowing you can go home at the end of the day and not have to put up with their nagging, or their messyness or the reason why your broke up with them.
know everyone is different, it helps that both me and my partner are to lay to be jealous (i think), jealousy ruins so many relationships, so 100% trust is what makes us be able to do this. He knows he is my world, and i know that i am his, and so why should we even be remotely jealous of other people. Not many couples i know have this trust, (im not talking trust in general, but 100% unwavering no questions asked trust), but it has to be a mutual thing, which sometimes its hard to find in both people in the relationship.
It works for us.
It wont work for everybody.
But i could not imagine giving up my best friends for my partner. if he asked me, i would do it, but we dont need to.
The way its worked for me, most of my ex boyfriends were friends before anything sexual happened, so maybe that makes a difference, i saw them in a friend way, before anything more, then is proceeded from there,
So if you originally saw them like that, go back to seeing them like that.
ts kinda hard to describe how it works in my world, but it works, living proof that you can be friends with someone of the opposite gender, and it annoys me when people say you cant., its just hard to portray in words