I need a reply to this comment I keep getting

I'd wait til she gains it all back and then everytime you lose another pound tell her. Nobody likes the taste of their own medicine.

I have a friend who is super competitive and since I started eating healthier and working out, I guess she had to try and "do better" than me (knowing that while it's coming off slowly, it's still a lot of work).

Yesterday she tells me "oh I just started low carbing again and I've already lost seven pounds! I lost four in the first two days!" I said "oh that's good" and just changed the subject because I found it pretty insensitive to tell someone that, knowing they've been working really hard. Especially when I'm doing it the right way...not by eating string cheese and pepperoni and bunless burgers.

I just know it's going to come up again, especially since today her facebook status was "8 down already!!!" Grrrr. She does low carb at least once a year, loses twenty pounds, loses interest, and gains it all back. I kind of want to remind her of that but don't want to be rude. Any suggestions on how to put her in her place? Hehehe.

I'd just congratulate her on the success she's experiencing and let it go. Different strokes for different folks! The yo-yo diet doesn't work for you, but she doesn't mind it. Let her do her thing and you do yours.

Well said!!! :drinker:

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

This!

Perhaps you're a better friend than I am! I would absolutely say, "Well, maybe you can lose more than 20 pounds this time!"

Low carb diets are extremely difficult to maintain, and I applaud anybody that could actually reach their goal on the diet and remain at that weight once they are officially off of the diet!

She will realize that if she wants to actually get where she wants to be she needs to make a complete life style change and focus on HERSELF and not your weightloss and YOUR goals! I am very fortunate to have many people in my life that are appreciative and supportive of my weightloss, and I'm sorry that your poopy friend is treating this as a competition, when it clearly is not!

I find headbutting useful? Lol, sorry, I have a friend like this so I know how you feel. To be honest I found them too toxic to be around and withdrew from them.

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THIS

I do not suffer fools for long.

Any suggestions on how to put her in her place? Hehehe.

I don't understand... because she's rude you want to put her in her place? Doesn't this fall under "two wrongs don't make a right" or am I missing something?

If she's losing weight just congratulate her and move on....?

Is there something more to this I'm not getting?

you're not a girl...so you wouldn't get it. she's trying to find a nice way to be a b***h.

I find headbutting useful? Lol, sorry, I have a friend like this so I know how you feel. To be honest I found them too toxic to be around and withdrew from them.

^This! if she is bothering you that much you don't need her as a friend. She is an "extra" as I would call it. Or keep communication with her to a minimum.

Sorry if this is a repeat, I didn't read through all of the responses. I do low carb myself as a. it works for me and b. I have Celiac's Disease and cannot eat most carbs. That said, this is not a DIET, it is a lifestyle. She will forever be yoyoing or on the roller coaster of diets if she thinks she's just going to eat like that to lose the weight and then go back to her "normal."

If I were you I'd say "well I'm changing my lifestyle and not on a diet" when she says something snarky to you. Good luck and don't let her bad attitude toward you bring you down!

Any suggestions on how to put her in her place? Hehehe.

I don't understand... because she's rude you want to put her in her place? Doesn't this fall under "two wrongs don't make a right" or am I missing something?

If she's losing weight just congratulate her and move on....?

Is there something more to this I'm not getting?

you're not a girl...so you wouldn't get it. she's trying to find a nice way to be a b***h.

You know, I almost went there, but I didn't want to say "must be a girl thing" since that would be sexist.

Ok now I understand that I am not suppose to understand, thank you for clearing it up

Any suggestions on how to put her in her place? Hehehe.

I don't understand... because she's rude you want to put her in her place? Doesn't this fall under "two wrongs don't make a right" or am I missing something?

If she's losing weight just congratulate her and move on....?

Is there something more to this I'm not getting?

you're not a girl...so you wouldn't get it. she's trying to find a nice way to be a b***h.

You know, I almost went there, but I didn't want to say "must be a girl thing" since that would be sexist.

Ok now I understand that I am not suppose to understand, thank you for clearing it up

I find headbutting useful? Lol, sorry, I have a friend like this so I know how you feel. To be honest I found them too toxic to be around and withdrew from them.

This!!



I have a former friend who was the same way. She still is. Hit a 'fad diet' hard, have instant success and then balloons back up once she gets bored with it. We are still acquaintances, and I see her FB status talk about changing for good this time and making the change permanent. Knowing what we have went through in the past years, I know she's jealous of the success I've had with my lifestyle change. Recently she had posted that she had lost 20 pounds....I saw her talking to someone at the bar about how she had lost so much weight. I didn't think too much of it until someone said that it looked like she had gained 20 pounds.

She asks me every now and then for some tips/advice, but always turns her nose up when I tell her how much I workout/weigh my wood/count cals/drink water/etc.

Nowadays, I don't avoid her to a point where she realizes that's what I'm doing, I just avoid having that type of convo with her because she always finds some way to sneakily put me down.

She's jealous and is trying to sabotage you. Punch her in the face.

This!

I just had that happen to me, an ex sister in law telling me she lost 103lbs in less than a year I doing the right way I have lost 32lbs. All I could reply was good for you , now lets just wait to see who puts it back on sooner.....hihihi I know she will:blushing: :drinker:

Just ignore it. Why do you need a comeback? It actually has nothing to do with you. It's her journey. Just leave her to it. If she asks for your advice, give it gently, but if not, just congratulate her on her losses and leave it at that.

Agreed! She is proud of HER efforts just as you should be proud of YOURS. there is no reason to think she is doing it to be rude or insensative. maybe she is just excited with her progress. If she does this yearly it tells me she has been struggling with her weight for some time and any positive change is a welcome one I am sure. If she is your friend, be a friend and be encouraging to her as she should be to you. It should not be a competition on either side and if it is maybe you aren't as good of friends as either of you may think. Good luck to both of you on your journeys.

LOL!! Love it!!