Friends against weightloss??

Yep - and family members too. My husband and son know what I'm up to - but I haven't told anyone else. I just don't want to deal with it.

If you're doing it right you probably are changing. You're not dining out as much, and if you're hanging out you're not eating fries or lousy foods. You're drinking more water, less soda, and less alcohol. You probably also have a little more self confidence and a lot more energy.

Don't let others influence your efforts. It is sometimes hard for people to accept change including change in people around them. They may be jealous that you are doing something they can't .. or insecure that you will find "better" friends if you are thin. Just do what you need to do for yourself. Your friends will either straighten up or you will find new and better friends.

what's funny is my friends and coworkers are the most supportive people... it's my family that isn't. I only have dinner with my mom and sister twice every other week and they laugh when I barely eat anything. They think they make healthy meals, but the meals they make are high in carbs and calories, so I only eat a little bit. My mom will come over with the pan and try to put more on my plate, but I tell her I'm full from a large lunch. I don't think they do it on purpose realizing what I'm trying to do, it's more or less we were never taught how to lose weight before and now that I'm learning what it takes, it's foreign to them. I try to teach them healthier meals, but like a previous person said, their eyes glaze over when I start to talk about healthy foods and my mom will cut me off with some of her 'nutrition studies' from high school/college...

Oh man, every time. I stay next door to my 2 best friends.. and they just can't seem to understand how important it is for me to stick to this. They came round to my flat the other day with cookies... COOKIES! I was pretty annoyed, but I didn't give in. And they also seem to like ordering pizza for when i'm coming round.. But again I just ignore it.

The worst part is when we go out to a club, and they will purposefully buy me a shot, or drink whatever and force me to take it. I've caved a few times, but I just tell them to stop.

It's annoying they cant respect my wishes that way, but hopefully it'll get easier as time passes!

totally knew you were scottish when you said you stay next door.

love me some scottish lingo! x

Luckily my friends and family have all been supportive so far, not trying to feed me pizza etc, but actually accommodating my weight loss efforts by suggesting we make a salad (when cooking together) etc.
I do not think your problem is very unusual though. Read this article, it may explain why:
http://edition.cnn.com/2011/11/14/health/lose-weight-mouth-shut-secret/index.html

Has anyone else noticed that their friends are all really excited for you when you say you are going to lose weight and then the moment you actually DO start to lose the weight they are the ones trying to get you to 'be naughty' or accuse you of 'changing' etc???

Or do I just have rubbish mates? Ha

No I can relate to that one they just don't get it or understand. Sooner or later they will ask me what I am doing and they want to change some do others don't. I try not to let it get to me. But I to have been guilty of it myself when I use to smoke and I had friends who were trying to quiet would ask me for a smoke I wouldn't tell them you quiet I would hand one over and say you twisted my arm. I have been on both ends of it before but I think when it comes to weight people are more jelous of it.

>.< What kind of friends and family do you guys have?!? Am I the only one who dont have people force feeding me fried foods or friends who dont support me and my weight loss???

i didn't tell anyone for the first month, then I only told a few close friends and people that I knew would be supportive. After it was really noticeable that I'd lost weight I started acting like it was normal and people were so "proud" of me.. I'm not doing this for anyone but me. I have to do the work, I have to live if I don't. I appreciate the input, I don't care if you like it, I'm doing this for me.
BUT, by telling people and announcing my goals, I become accountable for my actions. Everyone is watching to see if I'll quit. Now I own my own success.

Everyone that I know now is supportive except my husband doesn't quite know how to deal with this new, self assured, and yes arrogant woman. I love him because he has loved me no matter what size, but I won't tolerate sabotage.

Do this for you. Be proud of you! Gather strength from all the positive people around you. Let us help!

Well, I think some humans just have a jealous nature but true friends work through that emotion and support you in the end. It's up to the person losing weight to put their foot down and tell the friend(s) that they don't appreciate food choices, snickety comments, etc.

I am not eating wheat anymore and it is giving me a lot of other benefits besides weightloss. but people think it's strange and 'too difficult' and restrictive.( yet they think being vegetarian is completely acceptable.) makes it hard when you cook with those friends sometimes. But tonight we happened to have a delicious meal with a friend that had no idea about this, and it happened to be wheat free (well there was bread, but I didn't touch it and no one asked questions).

No matter what you have difficulty with socially, with health, weightloss and everything in between, you discover things about yourself and your friends you never realized before! sometimes it's a little disheartening, but in the end, it's for the better!

oh yeah I cna tell because they are like ill try and lose weight with u and stuff blah blah and then now that Ive lost a lot of weight whenever I talk about my weight loss they dont say anything at all like I wasnt even talking or not even a good job or im proud of you lol I can tell there jelous so I really dont care I have showed them how i am doin it so if they wanted to do it too they could but they arnt dedicaded enough yet

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The other day I went out to eat with my friend to Ruby Tuesdays. I told her about a month ago I was trying to lose weight and had lost 30lbs back then. She congratulated me and everything, but I haven't said anything since.

Well yesterday we both ordered from the light lunch portions and then when the lady came and asked if we'd like dessert, my friend said yes.

I looked down at the dessert menu and thought, "WTH am I gonna get?" They have a fruit and yogurt parfait for 160 cal when combined with my light lunch was only 500 calories for the total meal.

She got two cupcakes which were like 400 calories by themselves.

I ate that yogurt like it was the best dessert ever - and it actually was pretty damn tasty! lol

Scottish accent = win!!!!

I feel I can now reveal my secret obsession to hunt down Frankie Boyle and have his babies!

hahah! brilliant. it's strange though, every time i go down to england they say... 'OH MY GOD, you're from scotland?' and try to copy my accent. quite funny.