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    why do people add you but don't even say hi?

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    edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
    why do people add you but don't even say hi?

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    • Posts: 140 Member
      Well, I don't add people. BUT, I did and it was too much work. I really just want to be focused on my goals. I know sounds terrible right? I don't mind supporting a real friend, but to add people (strangers) just to add them was a little overwhelming for me. I guess I didn't answer your question. That was just my take on things. *shrug*
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
      I wonder this all the time.
    • Posts: 926 Member
      Im new here so I dont completely understand the etiquette of adding. I guess i should have relied on my own common sense. I will now say hi from now on! being new its awkward to friend people still, i hope to get better. thanks for reminding me to be nicer when adding
    • Posts: 420
      i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?
    • Posts: 127 Member
      Good question! Delete 'em :wink:
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
      Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.
    • Posts: 2,247 Member
      why do people add you but don't even say hi?

      Or those that add you but never say ANYTHING on your profile, no comments of support or congratulations or anything. That one confuses me lol.
    • Posts: 3,459 Member
      I hate this, and decline them. If they can't be bothered writing hi, then are they going to support me when I submit food\exercise? Lol x
    • Posts: 6,349 Member
      Why do you accept their friend request if they dont meet your standards?
    • Posts: 140 Member
      Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.

      Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

      ETA: Well you know, for" hundreds" of people. :)
    • Posts: 2,447 Member
      i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?
      I like something explaining the request.
      Even something like...

      "Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

      I mean something:embarassed:
    • Posts: 451 Member
      i always add a message if im adding someone new just to let them no who i am and how much i gotta lose etc its only polite i think x
    • Posts: 2 Member
      Its a community , and support and advice is always helpful, and its nice to make good friends.
    • Posts: 28
      I add people every once in awhile. And then I get off track of using MFP or I get on quickly to check something and then get off. I do try to leave comments for people.

      By the same token, I don't get upset if people don't leave me comments. But I add people sometimes just to watch them change because they're doing awesome jobs!

      All in all, I'm a horrible social networker, LOL
    • Posts: 420
      maximal.... you added me... but didn';t say hi :-P
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
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      Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

      It is hugely time consuming. I try to open my friend's eating diaries at LEAST once a week, usually more and add something insightful or other comment. I always comment on exercise, too. If you can't do that for me every few weeks, you aren't worth my time.
    • Posts: 2,447 Member
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      Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?
      No, high maintenance people who need a WTG, NICE BURN, great job on every little notation need not apply.
      I enjoy one to one interaction through PM or forum banter.
      It's just a preference.
    • Posts: 420
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      Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

      ETA: Well you know, for" hundreds" of people. :)

      well it is a good tool for just measuring what you eat and work off...

      i like the community spirit... but some of these people remind me of people in real life... they just don't make conversation. I do get p!ssed off when i make an effort with someone yet they don't bother with me!
    • Posts: 313 Member
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      I like something explaining the request.
      Even something like...

      "Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

      I mean something:embarassed:


      This is my new Hi Message Everyone I add will get this message! It shows I really am Loopy
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
      Why do you accept their friend request if they dont meet your standards?

      I give people a chance first. Sometimes it can be daunting or weird to say "I saw you on the forum" or "noticed you comment on a mutal friend a lot and have similar goals..."

      I delete within two weeks if I haven't seen them posting a lot or if they haven't managed to comment on me. Like I mentioned earlier, I am on MFP a lot and try to add thoughtful comments on my friends' progress.
    • Posts: 420
      I add people every once in awhile. And then I get off track of using MFP or I get on quickly to check something and then get off. I do try to leave comments for people.

      By the same token, I don't get upset if people don't leave me comments. But I add people sometimes just to watch them change because they're doing awesome jobs!

      All in all, I'm a horrible social networker, LOL

      Your intentions are good however.
    • Posts: 47 Member
      why do people add you but don't even say hi?

      Cause you're hott!
    • Posts: 420
      people. please feel free to add me as i will comment on your 'work' and get to know you :)
    • Posts: 1,111 Member
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      No, high maintenance people who need a WTG, NICE BURN, great job on every little notation need not apply.
      I enjoy one to one interaction through PM or forum banter.
      It's just a preference.

      Well, not every thing but even a profile check in once and again would be nice. :)
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      Cause you're hott!

      i don't get it...
    • Posts: 845 Member
      I don't add someone unless they leave a message with it.
    • Posts: 8,779 Member
      Sorry! I am one of those people! I have turned down sooooo many friend request because I can NOT be a good supportive friend! I am soooo stinkin busy that I just can't! I do have some awesome friends in some of my threads but I do NOT EXPECT anybody to chime in on any of my "success's" either. I am a loner and I do not use people to reach my goal. I just dig deeper and pray harder!!! I wish you the best in your expectations of mfp friends!!
    • Posts: 2,447 Member
      maximal.... you added me... but didn';t say hi :-P
      Whassup? Hey! Hello. Yo, homie. Howdy:wink::wink:
    • Posts: 199
      I appreciate a message saying why they added me, that's what I always do, but even if they don't I still add them. They don't have to say anything to me, I'm mostly content with just watching their progress in that case.
    • Posts: 313 Member
      I have recently come back and found a friend who I went through the journey the first time around we messaged each other everyday, I really cared about her journey and life even though she was round the other side of the world. Most people who have added me this time haven't even replied to the message I send them I do get annoyed and think if you don't really want support whats the point in having all these friends? Just to be popular? Nosy? I'd rather have a few people who are similar to me who actually want to interact :)
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