why do people add you but don't even say hi?

i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?

I like something explaining the request.
Even something like...

"Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

I mean something:embarassed:

This is pure awesome! I agree that this is largely why I delete friend requests without anything in them. Chances are, if they don't take the time to let me know why their adding me, I'll never find out and there won't be much interaction. I am here to support and encourage, but I can't do that if you don't give me anything to work with and I may have to hit you with a great big Strong Bad, "DELETED!!!!"

Sorry! I am one of those people! I have turned down sooooo many friend request because I can NOT be a good supportive friend! I am soooo stinkin busy that I just can't! I do have some awesome friends in some of my threads but I do NOT EXPECT anybody to chime in on any of my "success's" either. I am a loner and I do not use people to reach my goal. I just dig deeper and pray harder!!! I wish you the best in your expectations of mfp friends!!

" I just dig deeper and pray harder!!!"
Awesome!

IMHO ....its silly to expect every person "you" have accepted to your friends list to be able to message you personally...if there is no interaction between you and the other perhaps "you" need to take the first step..maybe they saw a post or something of yours and decided you might help them in their journey....fact remains "you" accepted the request so "you" need to take some initiative...and if they dont reply to your messages then delete them.....I have loads of friends Im not able to respond to but I try my best to catch a few here and there on the updates...and sometimes if I have questions I send private messages BUT I know there is no way I can keep in touch with 300 friends so I leave little comments on the updates part in hopes they read them......i love having a huge pool of friends I can hit with questions but if you like a closer knit group you should be more selective on who you accept..

i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?

I like something explaining the request.
Even something like...

"Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

I mean something:embarassed:

This is my new Hi Message Everyone I add will get this message! It shows I really am Loopy

Or try..."You remind me so much of my cellmate!"

I've never added anyone without sending them a note first, but I will add my two cents. lol
Some people just need encouragement - and I'm one of them. If I'm reading the message board and I'm reading someone's post or someone else's reply and I'm inspired, I will send them a note and ask if I can add them to my friends list. Knowing that I'm not alone in this journey is helpful to me. Yes, I have my family, but they don't have to log what they eat or how much exercise, so being able to connect with someone who knows what I'm going thru is making me succeed.

I almost never say hi when I first add someone. I don't like small talk. I do comment on people's posts though! I'm definitely not one of those people who adds people and then never talks to them. haha

I may add you but not say hi, I do add if that person posted something that is helpful to me and my journey. I also add for the support and / or maybe inspire people if they see or read what I post. I don't have much time to say Hi, but when I am on here and I see a post, I do try to take the time to write something.

maximal.... you added me... but didn';t say hi :-P

Whassup? Hey! Hello. Yo, homie. Howdy

i feel so much better now pal. But i guess with all those hot ladies on your profile... you don't have time for the hot studs lol

I have the time, but the conversation is just...different!:laugh:

you are cracking me up! I talk to people who post on their profile or on mine. people send me friend requests every day. doesnt mean i am going to click with them. if they dont post, it is less likely that i will post on their page. if they have different schedules than I do, doesnt mean I dont want to support them any more than the other guy. And a lot of people who are on my list arent on daily. I figure I dont want to delete them because they made need the support the worst. I do what I can with the time I have. I cant be there for everyone even as fabulous as I am!

i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?

I like something explaining the request.
Even something like...

"Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

I mean something:embarassed:

Lol. You wouldn't be on my friends with a message like that, that's for sure!:D LOL.

At first when I joined I couldn't understand the obsession on some people's profiles like "don't add me with a blank message" or things like that, now I understand it and I'm ignoring blank messages, I think someone else said it all, most of them will never say hi or nothing at all, perhaps they expect you to cheer them up just like that, who knows, I might do if I see something really awesome exercise wise, if i don't see any feedback, then I'll try to find the delete button.

I try to add people who are close to my weight, age, even height. I don't add people or accept people who have one pound to lose I don't think they can help me on this journey especially when I check their profile and their starting weight was so low and they only needed to lose 5 pounds.

I also like people who will encourage me look at my food diary and offer suggestions. Heck I would try anything to get rid of this weight.!!

i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?

I like something explaining the request.
Even something like...

"Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

I mean something:embarassed:

This is my new Hi Message Everyone I add will get this message! It shows I really am Loopy

Or try..."You remind me so much of my cellmate!"

Damn I will have to use both of these they are just too damn good! The one I will be ditching is the one I use at the moment "Do you come here often?"

I hate when you add someone who is asking/begging for friends and then they never log back in!!! Grrrr!!!

I don't really expect a message with a friend request but it's always nice to get one. I do however hope that people take the time to glance at my profile before they send me one. I'm not the normal 'sis boom bah WTG'n on every little thing', kind of friend. And I post a lot of randomness....

I only delete friends when they stop logging in.
That's a biggie with me.

Same here! If they haven't logged in for 2+ weeks I delete them. I did however have to delete the 65+yr old guy who wanted to send me nude photos... actually I blocked him!!! LOL

I would just like to say that I am very new to this and looking around the boards....if I see something that inspires me, I may ask to add the person......I hate that there is not a like button on here like facebook.....would be easier to respond to more ppl....I agee with what someone said take the first step!

I add people withouyt saying anything. I dont always have time for the little people..