Having Babies, for the women.

I am 26 and also recently married. I have what most people call "baby fever" and I am in your boat with you. I haven't been on birth control since I was 20. And as of a year ago my boyfriend and I haven't been too careful either. I worry so much because we haven't even had a "oh no" moment. So I have an idea how you feel. My doctor says I am 100%, but I walk away always saying "what it".
My goal is to lose the 30 lbs that have me over the healthy weight range and get my body is its best form ever, then I take it from there. I wish you the best of luck.

I'm 29, also recently married and it's something that worries me. I try not to let it rule my life, though. Whatever happens is fate at this point. I know I'm in for trouble because my mom had 6 miscarriages.

Yes, I was worried right from the start that I would not be able to conceive. Never used any birth control, and we were not able to conceive. It has been 19 years, but it still makes me sad.

You know, I didn't worried at all before and when we started TTCing because I was 27, I was young. Then almost a year went by, I was worried. I went to my doctor, and got a referral to infertility specialist. I ended up getting pregnant before I made an appointment.

Try not to worry about that now, especially since you are not even trying. Stress is never good.

I feel this way because I will be 26 in April and I still dont have any children and all I can say is "my clock is ticking!" All I hear is no worries it will happen so just try not to think about it as much and you will be blessed!

I'm 25 years old, a doctor and I know that it takes a normal couple actively trying to get pregnant (not on contraception, having intercourse regularly around ovulation and being physically and mentally healthy) up to 12 months to fall pregnant. DESPITE this, I'm in the same boat as all of you, worried that something will be wrong with me and I won't be able to get pregnant.

I see young women every day who've accidentally fallen pregnant and I think "Well if it happened to them, how come it hasn't happened to me in the 8 years my partner and I have been together?" My emotional brain forgets that I was methodical about my oral contraceptive pill and also used barrier methods for ~5 years.

I know that there's nothing I can say to take the worry away (because I can't make my own doubts disappear!) but I encourage you to optimise your health, know your cycle, know when you should be having intercourse and if you like, keep a diary. I've had a patient come to me distressed that they weren't pregnant after a year but when we sat down and looked at things, her husband worked away and they would have been lucky to have been sexually active at the right time 3 out of the previous 12 months. Within 6 months they were pregnant.

All the best.

I was worried for a bit and realized that what will be will be. There are only so many things that are within my control. I try to do what I can, ask for help when I need it, and DON'T BORROW TROUBLE.

One day, when you are ready, it is a whole new world of depth and love and fear and excitement... and more worries than you could possibly imagine at this stage in your life. Everyone is different. Life is too precious to waste it worrying about something that may be a non-issue in the future.

The best thing you can do is build a healthy lifestyle for yourself. This will be the best for you and any babies in your future.

Congrats on your marriage and this exciting new aspect of family and all the good, bad and ugly that comes with it.

So I am 29 recently married and all I can think of is babies, we are not ready financially or emotionally but I have this constant worry that I will not be able to have kids, cause I have never been pregnant.

I have my yearly physicals and everything is fine but I am just worried, they don't always find everything in physicals. I need to stop worrying.

Does anyone else feel like this? How can I stop worrying?

Calm down, honey! It will happen for you when the time is right. You're newly married and it is natural to start thinking about kids. Cuddle your friends' kids, offer to babysit (your friends with kids will love that!), and focus on getting into the groove of your new life.

If you smoke, quit, eat healthy and get into a healthy BMI range if you are not already, take your vitamins if you are into that and exercise to prepare your body for having kids when that time comes. That is all you can do!

Congrats and good luck.

Sorry.. you're on your own with that one. I've never wanted kids, no desire to get married, and just see marriage as a business transaction. However, I hope someday you get what you need and desire

I am 28 and was married when I was 21. We had our first child when we were 23 ( a surprise from God). I had lost some weight from my heaviest, but wasn't working out. I gained 30 lbs and I lost it all within 6 weeks. Well, I wanted to get done with school (my bachelors) and get a job and sustain it. Well, I decided to start on my masters, but I wanted to be done having kids by the time we are 30. So we stopped birth control in May of 2010. I seriously didn't think I was going to get pregnant. In 2009, I had lost 40 more lbs and started running. My family and I had adopted a healthier lifestyle. I was still watching my diet extremely and running like crazy, but not getting pregnant. I decided back in 2011 to gain some of my weight back because I felt I was stressing myself too much about my weight. So I let it go a bit and gained 20 lbs back. Still no pregnancy. We prayed in June to get pregnant and found out July 24 that we are going to be parents again. What a blessing. I have gained 25 more lbs...not something I am excited about due to all of the hard work, but I know I want this baby to be healthy. I haven't ran since October (boo...my bladder can't handle it, LOL), but I am still working out. Best of luck, it will happen when it is supposed to happen. I know God laughed at me when I told him my plan (this pregnancy now would be our first), but I love my first son to death and wouldn't trade him for anything. If you believe you will receive:)

I know that worry, stress and baby making don't mix. I am on the complete opposite spectrum of all the ladies here but I think it is because of this is why things worked. First of all if you have a regular cycle (I recommend tracking in mymonthlycycles.com) that definitely increases your chances. I got married at 30 and really never thought about or wanted kids. My husband had the baby fever. We TTC 7 months after we got married and I had no worries that I really wanted to get pregnant or that it would work out. I had cervical cancer in my 20s and they said I may not even be able to carry a baby. I figured we would try, I would have a miscarriage and maybe eventually we would get pregnant or we wouldn't. I was fine with that. I was not stressed, I was not worried I was fine with whatever happened. That first month we tried during my fertile days and we got pregnant.. with TWINS!! The point of my story is don't stress and don't worry!

So I am 29 recently married and all I can think of is babies, we are not ready financially or emotionally but I have this constant worry that I will not be able to have kids, cause I have never been pregnant.

I have my yearly physicals and everything is fine but I am just worried, they don't always find everything in physicals. I need to stop worrying.

Does anyone else feel like this? How can I stop worrying?

I was the exact same way when I got married. I was 28. I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). I wasn't sure if was going to get pregnant...ever. But I had that fear, that worry.

I talked to my husband and expressed my concerns. He understood. But he always tell me that things will always work out. I had to trust him or I would go bonkers. And I am glad I did. He is such a planner and men have a way of looking at things without so much emotions involved.

After 3 yrs of marriage, I was right, because of PCOS I can not have kids without fertility pills. After 2 rounds, I was pregnant with B/G twins. Bought our house and the twins were born.

You have to trust that things will all work out. Because, yes... they always do. And you will never be financially and emotionally ready for kids. We thought we were... then bam! Twins! But then again, things will always work out. Good luck.

Relax. There is no reason worrying about something when you don't know if there is reason to worry.

Have you ever tried to get pregnant, or have you always been diligent when it comes to preventing pregnancy? If you have not tried and failed, I don't think you should worry. However, once you are in your thirties, even early thirties, it becomes harder to conceive your first child. I do not recommend having a baby that you cannot afford, but I also think it unwise to go on the assumption that there is a perfect time to start a family. If it is important to you, make it a priority, and do what you need to do so that you will be ready soon.

I also worried about not being able to have children. Having been married before and not trying, but not preventing, I never got pregnant. That was when I was 21. Now fast forward 10 years, I am now remarried. We started trying right away, it took 9 months of trying, then I got that hopeless never going to happen feeling. Then I was a week late, and wouldn't you know...I was indeed pregnant with my first child at 31 years old! Having been on birth control since I was 16, and going up to 6 months with no period, I thought it would never happen. That little guy in my profile pic is proof it does happen.

Just be patient, don't stress, and have fun trying!