MFP Friends That Aren't Being Very Healthy.

I think it is always best to surround yourself with people that support you in a healthy way. In real life and on the internet. So if they are not willing to make healthy decisions then you can to make a healthy one and unfriend them. You don't have to hate them or say anything mean but you need all the help and support you can get and if that is not what they are about then you can do better.

Everyone is entitled to track their exercise and eat the way they want and they're free to join MFP to track their progress.

But just because someone's your MFP friend on the site doesn't mean they are looking to change their lifestyle. A lot of people join this site just to feel like they're doing something positive in their weight loss, but the reality is that their first step is taking stock of their lifestyles in the healthiest way possible.

If they feel what they're doing is right, let them feel that way. You're on this site to better yourself and as selfish as that sounds, it's the same goal for anyone here. MFP friends make it 'that little bit easier' but you are still doing all the work.

My advice: Let go of the friends that aren't motivating you. But keep in mind that they're just doing what they feel is right and your motivation should be coming from within, not from your MFP friends.

These people are not friends.

They won't help you move. They won't hide bodies for you. You didn't go to University with them, you didn't name your children after them, they didn't come get you when your car breaks down.

If they aren't being healthy to themselves, they are not being good friends to you. Surrounding yourself with destructive people leads to destructive habits.

Anyone on my friends list who is eating under 1000 calories a day gets booted, with one exception.

I read diaries. No fruit? No veggies? No friends.

Not supportive? GONE

Don't sign in? Gone for a week? BYE BYE

I am serious about this, and I want to surround myself with serious people.

My suggestion is to only comment on their progress, when you feel comfortable doing so. I try not to post "negative" comments, however sometimes I feel that I must express my concerns if I think that somebody is not eating enough.

If your friends feel that you aren't contributing to their journey through life, then they will drop you.

Just want to chime in here. make sure you know what is going on with them before you cut them off. Over the last couple of weeks I have not been healthy AT ALL. But, that is about when my wife told me that she is thinking of leaving me. I am struggling to get back to a normal calorie amount. I would hate to be written off by some MFP friends for my rough spell.

Also though, I know what you mean by the "I ate a cookie!" people too. The kind that make you wonder about whether they are even serious about this or if this is just facebook for fat people.

I agree, you have to find friends with similar goals and motivations. I have deleted alot of people I added because their drama/lack of knowledge was too much for me.

Reach out to them once or twice. Then delete. Surround yourself with people who are inspirational, people who "get it", and people who are willing to learn.

Don't be a judge or critic and all that problem goes away. Offer support where you can and want to. Cheers to your for your caring point of view. But sometimes you have to serve yourself first.

That's where I am deleting people...I feel I try to support all my friends and they dont always do the same for me that is frustrating...You know what they say if you can't change the people around you change the people around you!! and DELETE

I completely know what you are talking about. People set their calorie goals WAY too low and they work on being low on that. They eat only 1 meal a day or 2. Never 3 meals. I have watched some and they are exactly what you say. I'm sorry but a piece of toast or a carrot is not a meal. When I wasn't able to eat I was pushing myself with soups and protein shakes and barely making 800 calories. I didn't loose a single pound. Now that I am able to eat again I am loosing weight. I try to put the message out there secretly but they get offended on little things. Saying something as little in a status about how you need to make sure you eat sends a frenzy. I am doing me and supporting my great motivators and when I see good out of some I will support that. I have finally got the WTG stopped when I was under my calories. It was really bad when I was only able to get the 800 a day. Too bad you can't be assigned a REAL nutritionist on here..

I also struggle with this, as well. I hate to be negative but at the same time I want to help them and I also want to have friends that are equally as supportive as I am for them. I think that if it is a constant thing with them and they aren't being supportive of you, I don't see any reason that you should feel guilty about deleting them. However, if it's not their regular pattern and they are just going through a rough time, then I wouldn't want to delete them. However, if it may effect you to also start being unhealthy, then I don't see anything wrong with deleting them and surrounding yourself with more positive influences.

If you'd like, feel free to friend me! I am always looking for more friends that are supportive and healthy!

If they are new give them sometime. Sometimes it can take a person months to actually get going down the right path. They stop then here they come back to give it another try. They are probably your friend because you are leading by example! Some people need stronger people to help motivate them. So it really just depends on when they start doing this. Eating under 1000 a day they will soon find out the body will get used to it and stop the weight loss. Not good to freak your body out and put it in starvation mode. Also not good to eat a bunch of junk one day and healthy the next, this only leads to little to no results. I know I have done it, in my younger years!

I actually have food allergies so I cannot just go and buy and eat what everyone else is eating. So my food diary looks all weird. But I try to stay around 1200 calories a day but sometimes it's really hard. You just get those days where your body just doesn't feel like eating. Or you get the same people who eat the samething almost everyday like me. Because I am limited. But if you are sick of them and they are annoying you, then remove them from your friends list. Because this isn't about them! This is about you, and what your goals are and what you are trying to accomplish. If they are distracting you, it's time to get friends who are really trying to achieve their goals.

There are tons of people on here following a healthy diet. I have many on my friends list! They are on here it's just a matter of where you find them.

i'm friends with two girls that were both eating 700 calories or less a day. one is doing great and has upped her calories and has started feeling a lot better about her eating habits. she's improved with a lot of help and support.

one is still struggling with eating anything over the 900 calories, talks about purging all the time. i'm ready to cut ties with her. its just... there is only so much i can do.

You shut up and myob

I'm having some struggles with some of my MFP friends. So many people have really unhealthy habits. They are often eating REALLY low calories each day, wanting to go on silly fad diets, posting on their status how they ate a cookie and now they want to purge.

It's really hard because I know I'm no expert in weight loss but it's also frustrating too. I've tried to offer some helpful advice, but no one wants to listen to other opinions. I mean, I know I'm not perfect, but when people are eating only 600 calories a day and working out for an hour, I know that cannot be healthy!

I don't want to not be friends with anyone on MFP just because they aren't being completely healthy because I know I'm not doing everything completely right in this whole weight loss journey. It's hard though because I want positive inspirations and motivation around! During this journey, I really want to be surrounded by positive people!

Sounds like its time to clean up your friends list!

I don't know, what does everyone else do in these type of situations? Keep your mouth shut? Try to be supportive as you can? Only be MFP friends with the positive, healthy individuals you want to see on your news feed? Lemee know.