friendships in real life

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  • loopybec2002
    loopybec2002 Posts: 313 Member
    When I left school I made the choice to leave friends behind and I started attending every single Nottingham Forest match after a couple of months I started recognising others went to all matchs and that recognised me we suddenly became very good friends and going to matchs togeather they are not some of my closest friends. My other good friends are people I work with just give everyone a chance they may be as lonely as you.
  • Trinketona
    Trinketona Posts: 190
    I've always been ignored by my friends. Even by my family sometimes. I have never been in your position. Ive been at the other end. I have given up on looking for them. :indifferent:
  • Trinketona
    Trinketona Posts: 190
    I completely don't have many friends at all because I chose not too. It's hard finding real, true friends

    Couldnt agree more.
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    Real life sucks.
  • the_jinxster
    the_jinxster Posts: 63
    Im 25 too, I found this text helpful and inspiring: (its from a university website) http://www.esm.vt.edu/~sdross/text/quarterlifecrisis.html Maybe it will help you too. Good luck,
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
    I'm like you. I'm in a long term relationship, not many friends, depression (which is getting better everyday) and social anxiety.

    I started talking to some old friends about a year ago now and since then I've been happier. I also went back to college and it's sooo good to talk to people with the same interests.

    Go to a group of something you enjoy and meet some like minded people. It is nice to just talk to some one, even if it's once a week! :-)
  • robbiejay1971
    robbiejay1971 Posts: 33
    Over the past few years, I've rekindled friendships on Facebook, which has then led to being back in touch with people that I'd lot touch with. Even better for me is the fact I'm in contact with loads of cousins that I hadn't seen for 20+ years. Good luck!
  • xginanax
    xginanax Posts: 333 Member
    Going to Read this later! :)
  • JenCM
    JenCM Posts: 195
    I understand. I personally never had oodles of friends growing up (ya know, the fat kid never does! haha) but I had a few and I gained a few as I got older. Then life happened. I changed...people moved away...My Dad got cancer - half fled then. I got married - a few more disappeared...Then my Dad passed away and that cleared out the stragglers. I was told I had "too much in my life to deal with". =P So I ended up being 25, married and living in a new place, without my Dad and best friend to talk to, fat and my social circle consisting of my husband, MIL, Grandmother and brother. It's still pretty much the same. haha. I've attempted a few friendships over the last couple years and they've gone nowhere...and I'm at a point where I'm convinced it's all me, I'm too odd, awkward, etc...and I have no desire or confidence in situations with people anymore. For some reason it's much harder for me to make friends now that I'm older...
    So anyone lacking people in real life, you're so not alone!
  • shvits
    shvits Posts: 249 Member
    I am the opposite. I had really no friends in high school and was isolated. Now....I have a number of good friends and have had to drop people who were not right for me any more. I have new friends that I meet when I am out doing the things that I like. Don't get me wrong, I find it hard to reach out to people, but is happens slowly as you see people on a regular basis...I volunteer at native plant restoration, I have a swim class at a gym....do stuff I like an meet new and interesting people.
  • Inacay
    Inacay Posts: 47 Member
    Im 25 too, I found this text helpful and inspiring: (its from a university website) http://www.esm.vt.edu/~sdross/text/quarterlifecrisis.html Maybe it will help you too. Good luck,

    Really enjoyed that. I am getting my masters in counseling and will be working with College age and Young adult so I really appreciated the insight!
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