Re: V-Day. Men, come down off your high horse

UponThisRock
UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
edited November 10 in Chit-Chat
Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.
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  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    :heart:
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I love you uponthisrock ^^

    I honestly think stingy people use these holidays being "company made" as excuses for their stinginess.
  • peacek
    peacek Posts: 211
    awwwweeee!!! :smile:
  • hope516
    hope516 Posts: 1,133 Member
    here!! here!!!! :love:
  • valerietoxii
    valerietoxii Posts: 93 Member
    Awwwwwww, you're pretty awesome.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    :heart: :smooched: :heart: :smooched:
  • shanlynt
    shanlynt Posts: 718 Member
    Amen
  • cleoleigh
    cleoleigh Posts: 76 Member
    Well said!!! :)
  • tidmutt
    tidmutt Posts: 317
    Was your significant other standing over you as you typed that Rock? :)
  • cgrout78
    cgrout78 Posts: 1,628 Member
    Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

    But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

    Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.

    :heart: how sweet to say
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Blatant attention seeking post. LOL
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    I like to give stuff all the time. Just have to try harder to find stuff that's not red on V day.
  • PercivalHackworth
    PercivalHackworth Posts: 1,437 Member
    Nice said man, now you said that I wish I had a GF to make her the day pleasant :)
  • ImSoPerfectlyFlawed
    ImSoPerfectlyFlawed Posts: 127 Member
    Who made you post this, lol
  • Bentley2718
    Bentley2718 Posts: 1,689 Member
    Thank you! Doing something nice for someone you care about shouldn't be a major chore--if it is, it's time for some introspection.

    Also, keep in mind that you don't have to spend much money to do something nice for someone on Valentines Day. I made my husband cookies (early, the dough is in the fridge), and I asked him if he wanted anything special for dinner that night. I already had most of the ingredients for the cookies, and we would have bought groceries for dinner that night anyway, so the extra expense was a few dollars for chocolate chips. The point is, I am doing something a little special for him, without having to spend a ton of money--which seems to be mostly what people gripe about.
  • MissVCI
    MissVCI Posts: 277 Member
    So I guess if your wife or gf doesn't like v-day, you hit the jackpot.

    I never celebrated v-day with any bf, found it pointless and forced, but i'm weird I don't like being spoiled or showered with gifts.
  • BoxingCoachMo
    BoxingCoachMo Posts: 420
    Well said man, i think us men should do this more regularly apart from just Valentines day.

    More romantic evenings :)
  • AngelEyes127
    AngelEyes127 Posts: 113
    UponThisRock,

    I believe someone hacked into your MFP account and is posting some crazy talk on the community forum. You might want to check this out or change your password! :laugh:
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    Awwwww you're getting some tomorrow night!
  • EdithClark
    EdithClark Posts: 12
    Well said. It is made up, and all that. But I like to get into it, sometimes I think my boyfriend even more so! When I suggested not doing anything, he gave me a look of shock and disbelief...lol. I'm going to turn the tables though, and so something for him. Since he's in the hospital right now, I'm going to bring him a v-day suprise today, a day early. I have balloons, some of his favorite candies (all red or v-day candy of course), big pack of pokemon cards (he's still an avid collector), over priced roses (I thought to myself he gives me flowers all the time, why can't I give him some), and I'm going to stop by Wendy's on the way and get him the biggest baconator they have. Which is ok for him to eat, he has to eat a lot of calories to keep his weight up (4,000 a day). Should be awesome!
  • PercivalHackworth
    PercivalHackworth Posts: 1,437 Member
    Na, he's right in fact.
    Valentine's day : you pretext it's too commercial
    If you need a "too commercial day" to move your *kitten* off and show of much you love her, I say
    GO FOR IT!
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    Was your significant other standing over you as you typed that Rock? :)

    It's my v-day gift to her. See how I did that?
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    < agrees, completely.
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    Well said man, i think us men should do this more regularly apart from just Valentines day.

    More romantic evenings :)

    True. I was just talking with some friends about this. It doesn't really take much, just small things that break the routine.
  • bprague
    bprague Posts: 564 Member
    Ah, yes, I wish this were the stance my boyfriend took on V-day. I always hate when people say it's a made up commercial holiday. Last time I checked thanksgiving wasn't exactly a universal holiday either... *sigh* I celebrate v-day, but I refuse to get a gift/cook/bake for a boyfriend who hasn't reciprocated in the past two years that we've been together
  • Miss♥Ivi
    Miss♥Ivi Posts: 461
    Lol @ the replies...That's very sweet though :heart:

    V-day should be errrryday! lol But it doesn't hurt to get extra attention on V-day :tongue:
  • PercivalHackworth
    PercivalHackworth Posts: 1,437 Member
    Way more easier to say "Of course I love you" rather than proving it :)
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

    But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

    Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.

    So.... if you don't want to support "The man" then do something special for her that DOESN'T involve money. Make her breakfast in bed and take her hiking or something that she enjoys.

    I can't post what I am doing for her because shes a member ;)
  • MarilynGrube
    MarilynGrube Posts: 75 Member
    Now there's a man!.... I like sweet things everyday, but for HEAVENS sake....do not skip Valentine's Day:heart:
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    I just ordered my husband flowers and chocolates...I'm sure he'll be a little embarrassed at work (he hates the attention), but I'm hoping he'll like the surprise!
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