When Friends don't eat healthy

i eat with my coworkers all the time..im the only one who ever has a healthy meal on me . some of my family eats healthy and the other half doesnt..none of my friends are health fanatics....ive grown accustomed to it.. i came to realize that i have to worry about me.. usually when i go to a friends house i bring my own food or i plan to eat what they have .. sometimes i just watch what i eat when im at someones house and use it as a indulgant day

Never feel bad!

Any friend who makes you feel bad for not eating junk isn't much of a friend to begin with.

Thanks guys, and yes she knows I eat healthy so she shouldn't have brought all that food round, just because its your birthday doesn't mean "oh ok lets eat crap"

She knows you eat healthy - that's the key. If someone didn't know, I "might" feel bad turning down the goodies, but when someone knows you're working out, eating better, etc. then I would not feel bad at all!

No, you should not feel bad. If you have told her what your goals are, and she still brought the food, don't worry about it. That's on her.

Personally, my birthday is next week. Yes, I do intend on having a little cake and ice cream, but I also plan on going to an indoor trampoline park to do some crazy fun activity that also happens to burn a lot of calories. I try to get my friends involved with new aspects of my lifestyle so they are included, but also the physical activity lets me get away with more things with nutrition that I might not get away with otherwise.

It's going to be fun, and I can't wait!

I had to severe connections with old friends.
That be extreme for some, but not to others here who are like me. I just can't be around others who are fat and getting fatter. I'll join right in. Sometimes we need to close those doors.
Nature abhors a vacuum, so expect that other like-mined people will fill that void.
Like attracts like.

My fat friends all were threatened by my weight loss and new healthy lifestyle - very jealous! They seethed with envy.
And every chance they got to get me to stray, they did.

No more of that!
I have new friends on the same page with a common interest in health and fitness.

Life is GREAT fit - miserable fat, and I don't miss the old crowd one bit.

First .. kudos to you for that awesome will power! I kinda deal w/this with my husband ..he doesn't eat well & goes on about how delicious his un-healthy food is.. I know he's not thinking and its not intentional but its annoying just the same.

My ex bf was exactly the same. He didn't know how to cook, he never ate breakfast, and everything he ate was from a box. He didn't understand the concept of eating healthy and got frustrated when I complained. It was one of the many reasons I broke up with him.

I agree with everyone. If she new ahead of time that you were trying to eat healthy, she should have thought, hey, she wants healthy food, why don't I bring whole wheat chips and a relish tray. kudos too for not going crazy, you are a better woman than me. My will power is crazy non exsistant. I have the same issue with people at work that everyone else has except, I am sit at work and people leave. They bring in food every monday that they bought over the weekend that they don't want sitting in their house. And its all crap!! Chips, cupcakes, pastas....GAH!! And they all know I am trying to stay healthy through my pregnancy and yet...they still bring it in. I would like to shove back in their face. Then they get up set with me when I take it and put it away or throw it away. Hey...no one was eating it, why should I stare at it...? Talk to your friend about it and get things straightened out. You don't want this to cause a gap between you when it sounds like a misunderstanding.

Was she aware that you are strictly eating healthy? If not, then it probably would have been nice to give her a head's up before she shopped/cooked for you. If she spent money on foods it was natural for her to expect you to appreciate and eat, then perhaps an polite but appreciative apology for not letting her know in advance is in order.

If she was aware and brought them anyway, then there's really no reason she should have brought them and no reason you should feel bad for not eating them.

I have this problem with my husband!!!

Dear hubby, thank you so much for thinking of me when you saw those pizza rolls. Yes, they are my favourite.

Please don't ever buy them again

Talk to her. It will be a little uncomfortable at first but you'll both feel better.

I work with a wonderful friend who thinks food = love. She had gastric bypass 2 1/2 years ago. I had mine July 2011. I am sticking to a healthy, clean eating plan high in protein. She has gotten off track, gained weight, and is now attending Weight Watchers. I see M&M's by her desk, a bowl full of chocolate mini candy bars, and she brings in cakes, donuts, and other goodies. I won't eat any of it. Sugar causes dumping syndrome. But I feel like of all people, she should have more self restaint. All of us have asked her not to bring this stuff in. She just smiles and says "I do it because I love you". Don't love me so much

Ok so last night my good friend came round for my bday and she's not the healthiest of eaters, so along with the Margaritas she brought chips, guacamole, queso dip, salsa, and several chocolate cakes, it was so thoughtful of her to do this but I really didn't want to eat all that crap, I had some chips with guacamole and salsa and said "ok no more chips for me" I could tell she got upset and I almost felt guilty like I should eat all this **** even though I didn't want to, I even bought light margarita mix for myself, and when I asked her to use it I could tell that upset her with her comments. The cakes sat there all night until she finally ate one, I really didn't want one, I honestly didn't want it so I said I would eat some tomorrow. When I got up this morning I noticed she took all the cakes with her, I feel bad but should I? would you?

You could have gone without saying the part that I bolded...you only drew attention to the fact that you weren't eating what she brought needlessly. She probably wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't mentioned it. That's what I would've done.

Friends should respect what you're doing. Only thing I could recommend is letting it be known before hand. I could see how she could be upset, probably not upset you're eating healthy rather she went through the trouble of prep and realized afterwards it isn't what you wanted.

You shouldn't feel bad at all

Honestly --- she's probably feeling a little guilty herself. I find that when I am around people who are eating a ton of crap and I choose not to eat it, it makes them feel bad for eating it because they already KNOW it's bad for them. I mean it is no secret most of what we snack on isn't very healthy. I know that when I first started eating healthy it made my partner feel VERY bad about what she ate. It's been about 6 months and she's starting to actually change what she eats because she felt so bad about it. She started picking up some of my habits, like looking at labels and eating things in portions.

At work my co-workers went from giving me a lot of crap to just understanding that I am not at a place where I am to put bad things into my body. BUT they still include me just in case I want to. AND they appreciate when I tell them about healthy options such as quinoa and spaghetti squash. AND they like to share their things they have heard or read (which are generally not very true anyway). BUT when they are being healthy they feel like they have someone they can come and talk to about it.

If it's something new for you or your friend isn't used to eating around you when you are eating healthy especially for special occasions-- just give her time. It's a life change that she also will adapt to. Maybe you could talk to her about it? I would. I would probably tell her you felt like maybe she was upset that you didn't eat a lot of the food. Explain that it's those foods that made you feel the need to correct your nutritional choices. That you were more than thankful she thought about you, but that you were making a whole lifestyle change. It wasn't just a diet. It was changing how you eat for life. That you'd love to talk to her though and try and come up with some great snacks that you both could enjoy together the next time you hang out so that no one feels upset or uncomfortable.

Good luck!