Daughters Wedding, I need to vent a bit...sorry

So sorry you're dealing with this, and as my mother was dubbed "MomZilla" during our planning, I feel qualified to say NO..you're not overreacting here at all.

I got married in 2009, and had a ton of medical drama just before. My father had double bypass surgery 5 weeks before my wedding day and my best friend since kindergarden (who was supposed to be my maid of honor) had a brain tumor and had BRAIN SURGERY just two weeks before, and guess what? They both still came.....and those both trump an 'abnormal blood test' any day of the week. My dad walked my down the aisle (slowly) and my friend came for dinner and left just after, but there isn't anything in the world that would have kept them from it.

I hope his mom comes around and realizes what a selfish thing she's doing before its too late (maybe someone in his family can pull her aside for a reality check!). Keep on being the awesome and supportive mother-in-law that he's lucky to have, and good luck with your daughters wedding. I hope they're able to enjoy a beautiful day regardless of who chooses to be there.

This is indeed very unfortunate! I'm glad you felt you could vent and get feedback! My MIL threatened not to come to our wedding too. I just told her calmly "that is your choice and it is unfortunate as you will miss a very important day in our lives and many more happy times to come." In the end, she came, but she too dotes on all her other grandchildren and ignores our children as well.

My parents more than make up for my MILs short comings. So I too say be the very best MIL you can be to your son in law and your "new" grandchildren. They will appreciate you very much!

Have a great time at the wedding and congrats on the weight loss!

Julie

My sister went through almost the same thing when she got married (no kids at that time though). The in-laws were not happy about the marriage and made things unbearable for my BIL and they even had a mediation with the minister....whose recommendation was for him to move out of his parent's house and move in with my parents a month before the wedding (he stayed in my old bedroom). His parents didn't pay for ANYTHING and even though they came they sat with their backs to the dance floor when they had their first dance. My parents were completely supportive and they realized they had to deal with it.

The story continues and I want to add it as a word of caution to you as you are being completely supportive of your daughter and soon to be SIL. My parents were totally supportive but after a while decided they wanted to try to rebuild the relationship with his parents because they knew they would have kids some day. My parents were completely UNSUPPORTIVE of this and told them they should cut his family out of their lives. They didn't want them visiting his family when they came into town and as their relationship got better they got meaner about his family.....making comments, putting them down, writing on the calendar how much time was spent with each family, etc. It got worse after the grandkids came and now my parents don't have a relationship with my sister or BIL or the kids. My dad calls the kids "collateral damage" in this situation. I worked for over 2 years trying to help them repair the relationship and my mom always wanted me to choose her side. I finally had to tell her for my health and sanity that I couldn't talk about it anymore and I wasn't going to be involved or take sides and I was going to have a relationship with both of them.

They will have to figure out how to handle the situation as they grow their lives together. You just be a support to them no matter what happens!!

Damn Skippy! Hell even if I am dead, exhume my body so I can be there at my kids' weddings. That is actually why I started MFP in the first place...so i CAN be there.