Difference in how you are treated

people dont take fat people seriously most of the time... they either view fat people as being the funny guys/girls or just as being losers.... except the majority of adults are now fat hahaha so its really becoming a minority view... now how do fat people view other fat people?

It might be that you are more confident and outgoing now so others are responding to that.

Definitely treated differently in stores.

I am and always have been a pretty confident "fat girl", and rarely have any problem with people taking me seriously. It helps if you're fit enough to stand up straight and walk with confidence. Only a few idiots seem to have a problem with me. And I get hit on... I've even had to turn down a few offers!

I honestly think the only difference in the way I am treated comes from my confidence level. The better I look the more confident I am and people respond to that.

I notice a definite difference in how I'm treated, even in my office. I get picked for teams and projects now that I was totally overlooked for before and I've noticed a huge difference in the way I'm talked to. Now, the thing that seems to prove to me that it is solely my weight is that I work in a call center and customers still treat me exactly the same. The downside is that now I have to deal with a lot of unwanted male attention as well. Which is both unwelcome and bothersome.

I think there is a difference because of confidence. I also think that when people see you change from "fat/large to thin/healthy/skinny/whatever", it looks like you are taking on more accountability, control of life, and just care more. My brother is in the marine corps & his superiors used to get on them about looking presentable & he told me how one time a superior said that civilians are sloppy and have no pride in how they look. I think this is true sometimes. I think that's where the confidence comes into play. You get healthier, become more confident and therefore make an effort to look better and take pride in yourself. Just my two cents.

I have noticed a huge difference in how I am treated. Sometimes it can be really uncomfortable, sometimes it's really flattering :blushing:. Girls are not always so nice about it though, meaning the ones that have not started there own weight loss journey's. Mostly I get asked "what is the magic pill you are taking?". Ummm it's called diet and exercise, oh ya and MFP...:laugh:. Overall it's an amazzzzing feeling and I will never go back!!

Most definately!!! However, it could also be that your viewpoint of the world and people also changed due to an increase in confidence.

When I was 255, I was angry and I made sure my face let the world know... no one opened doors for me, was nice to me, etc..

When I lost all of that weight and was 166, I had voluntarily putting air in my tires for me when I pulled up to do it myself, doors were opened for me, people smiled and said hi, etc..

I'm currently 212 and still have a good portion of the confidence I gained once I lost the weight the first time and I notice that some of the behavior has gone again, but for the most part people are nice, and will smile, say hi and still open doors for me.

I think it's partly due to weight and partly due to how you carry yourself and your overall confidence.

Most definately!!! However, it could also be that your viewpoint of the world and people also changed due to an increase in confidence.

^^this is a big part of it...how you carry yourself. If you glow with confidence, people will pick that up and interact with you differently than if you carry around a negative aura.

Case in point... there are a lot of heavy set people who are well respected .... oprah?

I offer a reverse perspective. 2 years ago, I was 30 or 40 lbs lighter and I gained weight at a stressful job, ever since then people in stores treat me like trash. It has nothing to do with confidence because I am normally bubbly and joking with my mom in public and I try not to show how they make me feel when they are so rude to me. I am trying to lose my job weight AND an extra 40 lbs. Hope I will get treated better. Oh and at work, if a client sees me for the first time, you should see the way they look at me, but their attitude usually changes by the time I am done massaging them.When will people see the beauty in others based on their hearts, not their bodies.

Definitely noticed a difference from when I was 50 pounds heavier. People are nicer, men (of all ages, even teenagers) hold doors for me, men flirt and smile at me and make conversation with me in the produce aisles. That never happened when I was 50 lbs heavier. I get treated differently even by women sales clerks in clothing stores or Dillards or Macys. So yeah, I've noticed a huge difference and I really like it.

I used to be ignored and avoided.
Now I have the opposite happen - recently I was at the grocery store and it was packed. I was in the middle of one of the checkout lines and the manager came up to me, pulled me aside, opened a lane just for me, and closed it after I checked out, because he "didn't want my to have to wait so long."
That was bizarre and probably the most extreme example, but people DEFINITELY treat me a lot different now.

I would prefer something in the middle, to be perfectly honest, since excessive attention makes me uncomfortable, but it has made me more determined than ever not to let my own behavior be dictated by the appearance of others since I know how unfair it is.

I never notice things like this. My husband tells me that men look when I look better but I don't notice. I think partly is because I have a low self esteem and typically look at the floor when I am out and walking around. I don't look at people.

I too have always been a confident big girl. I believe people perceive u in a better light when u are confident. If u feel like ur not as good as others u will be treated that way by others. I have always been with good looking fit men. Men think confidence is very sexy.