How has your weight journey effected your relationship?

My Fiance can eat anything and struggles to put weight on, but he is being so support with me to be honest, he told me at the weekend he felt so proud of me that I was loosing weight and doing a great job at it. Really helps and makes it worth while when you have great support at home.
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Hi

I am separated from my husband he left me a couple years back but when I was with him it was a nightmare he always sabotaged my dieting. We had far too many take aways, eating rubbish most weekends we would go into town I would want to either go before lunch or after but we went during lunch and ended up eating out! Did my diet no good and i piled the weight on. When I went to the gym he would complain when I got home that dinner wasn't ready - wasn't sure why he couldn't use his hands and head to cook but hey ho! He also hated vegetables so they were a rare thing on a daily basis.

Now I am happy and single it has been a lot easier for me to diet I can eat what I want and when I want and exercise whenever I feel like it!

I think you need to get your husband on board you haven't got a great deal to lose so should be a temporary thing and when you go out try and stick to the healthier options. When you have reached your goal you can just maintain and that should be a lot simplier! Talk to him about it tell him how important it is to you and that you aren't objecting to going out just maybe not as much. The other thing you can do is plan around your meals out so you eat less calories during the day or save some up over the week.

Also you are human so splashing out on the calories once in a while isn't going affect the overall picture! Remember life is too short to count calories everyday and that you are having a lifestyle change not a sprint!

Good luck xx

My husband is overweight but not by much (I say not much but its like 60lbs) and he is muscular. Food is something we both love. We also love going on walks together. We enjoy having "date nights" and going out. He is learning how to be more supportive for me, but he usually lets me pick the restaurant so that I can enjoy something that is waist friendly. I also LOVE going on walks with him - we talk about future vacations, future kids, and it makes the time and distance fly by! Try adding something like that into the relationship - it works wonders.

And today is the 4 year anniversary of our 1st date

But as a side note - he needs to change his eating and exercise habits because I want him to be healthy. He doesn't like fruit, rarely has vegetables, and loves meat and fast food. I got him to give up fast food for lent at least. He needs to start taking vitamins and watching his food. At least he has an active physical job which helps but this makes him think that he can eat anything without worrying about it. He is very stubborn and it's hard!

I had the best experience the other day. As a family we were talking and my husband said, in front of our 4 kids up to age 14, that I was his idol. I didn't know he felt THAT proud of me for getting up at 4:30am, 5xs a week since January. I know I"m proud of myself, but that just made my jaw drop. He's slowly getting motivated to loose his extra weight and I just think he's the best for giving me props in front of our kids.
AND, I feel like a million bucks in so many ways from changing my lifestyle to put myself on the top of my To-Do List every day, which in turn has made me a better person/spouse/mom.
Working Out is my Therapy.

I would say I have noticed a difference he's trying to be a little more healthy. He will eat my salads with me and making a bigger effort to eat the veggies I cook.

But I don't let my calorie counting affect my date or dinner time with him. If I go over by a little it is better to be over and have enjoyed my company then to have an unhappy date with my man.

Ironically it has made it better, but there's a reason for that. Before I took gluten out of my diet, I was having horrible mood swings, bouts of severe depression, and anxiety attacks, along with always have sore muscles, pounding aspirin as soon as I woke up in the morning and drinking... well more coffee and caffeine that I'd like to admit. ^.^

However, since I've taken the gluten out, the only thing I have to watch out for when we eat out is what restaurant we are going to and what I can have there, but that's all. He's so impressed with my change in attitude and the amount of energy I have that he now wants to try it as well, but not to the point where he's not eating it at all.

It definitely helps if they want to jump on board with what you're doing, because then you don't have to worry about staring at the prepackaged cakes in the kitchen that just call out your name.

However, I also know that many people have issues in their relationships due to jealousy or the other person getting annoyed with the "obsession" over calorie counting. I think I had to show him first how much it has helped me and now he is fully on board with everything.

At first, my husband felt that he didn't have to cut back because he works a strenuous job that involved alot of moving and exercising. It was also a little hard trying to prepare different meals for him and a healthy meal for me and my daughter. But now that I have lost 11 lbs in a little over a month, he knows how serious I am on this weight loss journey. He is now on my team towards being healthier and fit. It actually makes our relationship alot of fun because we have a nightly routine now of doing 125 crunches per night before bed on Sunday - Thursday. .

my boyfriend loves to cook... so sometimes I feel as if I can't find a balance between enjoying his food and keepingmy calories under control. I try not to offend him, but I think he got used to me enjoying THE WHOLE PLATE which I cannot always do now

drinking is also something we don't see eye to eye on anymore. not that we were getting drunk every night, but we were definietly getting silly off wine a lot more before I started this... just enjoy a bottle and a movie... etc...!! but now I think too much about the calories so I'll have ONE glass, and he ends up drinking a LOT. then I'm sober and annoyed that he's drunk... downward spiral.

but on the positive side, I think I've got him to make some healthier choices of his own

I don't think it's had any effect. I can go to any restaurant and make healthy choices and eat a reasonable amount, so it really hasn't gotten in the way of anything...

DH is thrilled with my weight loss but he does comment from time to time on what I eat. He is one of those lucky people who has never had to diet in his entire 67 years so doesn't understand that I can't just eat anything I want now that I have lost the excess weight. He has expressed feeling sorry for me that I can't eat the "good stuff" I cook for him. I say, Don't be. You should have felt sorry for me when I was 150 pounds overweight and in a wheelchair! There is no food on earth worth going back to that. If I have to live on cottage cheese forever, so be it. I don't know if he understands but he does accept my choices.