Kids say the darndest things...
Replies
-
Kids are innocent & not usually mean. (If they do say something inappropriate - explain how it could upset or offend that person & also if they see, hear something different to wait until you are in the car or by yourself to ask about it)
It is the adults that we should be speaking of.
I was in a line up and the woman ahead of me asked the cashier how far along she was in her pregnancy. The cashier said she wasn't...the woman said, "You look it" I was embarrassed for the cashier. I said, "Well that was rude" The woman walked away and the cashier smiled at me and said, "don't worry, I've been asked that before." I said perhaps that woman could have just appologized.0 -
Motivation and support??
I didn't really know where else to put it...the reason I was even so embarrassed is since being on this site I've become a lot more sensitive to those who struggle with their weight (more than I do), so I was kinda asking for support that I did the right thing in the situation.0 -
I'm one that has people ask me when I'm "due". (Yes, quite a large belly, for my body proportions)
If I'm in a good mood, I'll laugh & say 18 years ago. (My only child is almost 19... yikes, where has the time gone?!)
Sometimes I just ignore the question, or shake my head no & comment about the weather.(change topics).
If the person is a stranger in the store, I do not think it is completely rude to ignore the comment. Especially if I am saving them some embarrassement.
You could certainly offer a small smile & a "sorry".- Maybe explain that "He's at that age that he is interested in learning about other people".. or "He recently had a teacher/aunt/friend that was pregnant". Then, in front of them remind son that "We talked about that, people come in all shapes & sizes. It's how nice of a person they are that counts".
Providing that you do/did have a talk about people being all different sizes... could lead to a teaching situation about disabilities and such (cruches/wheelchairs).. .. That there are all kinds of people, Nice people, mean people, people who are sometimes sad, sometimes happy... etc. And teaching him that offering a smile to a sad person can sometimes be the best gift.
But that's hard, because you have to balance it with the "stranger danger" talks they need to learn.0 -
I don't have any kids but I say the darndest things.. I once asked a lady how far along she was, she wasn't prego. I was mortified..
LOL...I gotta love it, cause I stick my foot in my mouth all the time. At least kids have an excuse. I was at the doctor's office last year to be tested for menopause, and the nurse brought me back and said, "Are you excited about your ultrasound today". I was ready to shoot her! ;0)0 -
my daughter, when she was 2 was into this silliest names ever thing and we would make up names. One time, she screams as loud as she can as I'm getting her out of her carseat "BONKEESHA!!!" as a group of black people walk by.... Yea, that was AWESOME. I was mortified to say the least, but we laugh about it now, 8 years later, but ONLY because I know she meant no harm.0
-
I have a 5 year old son and about 6 months ago we were sitting at a restaurant together and he looked over at the table next to us and said, "LOOK AT THE LADY WITH THE PRETTY BROWN FACE. SHE IS THE SAME COLOR AS OUR PRESIDENT." Now, my son just made an observation so I was not upset with him, what I was upset was with how the woman reacted.
She came over to the table where my son and I were sitting and told me I was raising a racist child! Before I could even say anything she said, "Makes sense your son is already racist, he has blond hair and blue eyes just like his Dad."
I stood up, smiled at the woman and said, "So you are upset my son called your pretty and compared you to our president? Nothing out of my son's mouth was racist. However, pointing out my son and I are racist due to our blond hair and blue eyes is a stereotype and is sad you pegged us just by the color of our eyes and hair. Sad really."
Her husband stood up, who was a mountain of a man and said, "You are right. My wife was out of line. Thank you for handling this with tact. He then paid my bill for our meal.
His wife complained to the manager that she sat next to racist people and would not be back. How do I know? My best friend owned the establishment.
The more you know....
Wow! I am SO glad her husband stood up and #1 saw what was right and #2 spoke up. Yay for him.0 -
OMG!!! My son says that about EVERY person Man or Women we see who has a big belly! -he will say Whoa! He/She has a big baby in their belly!0
-
Sometimes I like it when my kids make comments that can be heard-- maybe it will be the the extra push someone needs to make a change. But don't get me wrong, I don't like feelings to be hurt.0
-
Yes gotta love it. I have talked to my kids many times about not pointing things out, but they are who they are. My 5 year old asks questions to no end and is blunt. One day he told a guy whose ears stuck out that he had funny looking ears-he just told him it was because his mom pulled on them all the time when he was naughty. It is my firm belief that no matter how many times I talk to him about it, its his perosnality and he will continue to embarass me.-such has adjusting himself in front of the church when singing with his Sunday school class
0 -
My son who is almost 6 rarely says anything embarassing in public about others however if i have to take him into a changing room, quite a lot at the moment as non of my clothes fit he is a horror. He ha a vairiety of things he says nice and loud which always result in chuckles from neighbouring cubicles. He likes to mention the colour of my underwear, my wobbly belly etc.0
-
This is great! I have 4 kids and the three older ones have ALL said something like this - on a repeated basis. Here are some highlights:
My 3 year old - An elderly lady walks out in front of traffic and I say, "Oh *kitten*, that old lady is going to get herself hit!" The windows were down in the car and my son says, "HEY OLD ****, YOU GET HIT IN TRAFFIC!!!"
My daughter - We had these little Home Depot toy men that the kids were playing with at the park and for some reason they got the nickname, 'the redneck men'. When we were going to leave I told the kids to get their stuff and my daughter says, "Don't forget your little rednecks."
My oldest son - We were in the grocery and there was a man missing his legs and he comes running down the aisle and yells, "MOM, MOM, THAT GUY DOESN'T HAVE ANY LEGS!!!" The guy was right behind me so said, "Well what do you think he's gonna do, kick me?"
We all got a good laugh.0 -
At the swimming pool, my daughter pointed to the fellow on the diving board and yelled, "He's hairy like Daddy!" I hoped he didn't hear, but I didn't try to apologize. Who knows, maybe he was proud of being hairy. I can only hope.
Everyone's who's been around children knows they're curious, honest, in the early stage of learning social graces, and they speak their minds. A couple of years ago, I had a teenager tell me, "You're pretty for your age." I only hesitated briefly before replying, "Thank you." I had to laugh it off, even as I wondered, "How old does she think I am?" I had to remind myself I was, at least, 40 years her senior. :ohwell:
On the other hand, one of my boys threw his arms around the legs of a homeless-looking man and hugged. I just smiled, because the smile on the man's face told me it made his day.0 -
My son hasnt said anything yet but he likes to point at ppl and I always have to tell him how rude hes being.
Hes starting to say things randomly to me so im sure the day will come.
My sister and her family live in a prodiminatly white neighborhood and so my niece who was probably 5 at the time had never seen a "black" person.
I had brought my boyfriend over one time and my niece said "Hes not black, hes brown!" All i could do was laugh.
Parents understand that we have no control over what comes out of our kids mouths, ppl who get angry obviously dont have kids. Lol.0 -
I have a 5 year old son and about 6 months ago we were sitting at a restaurant together and he looked over at the table next to us and said, "LOOK AT THE LADY WITH THE PRETTY BROWN FACE. SHE IS THE SAME COLOR AS OUR PRESIDENT." Now, my son just made an observation so I was not upset with him, what I was upset was with how the woman reacted.
She came over to the table where my son and I were sitting and told me I was raising a racist child! Before I could even say anything she said, "Makes sense your son is already racist, he has blond hair and blue eyes just like his Dad."
I stood up, smiled at the woman and said, "So you are upset my son called your pretty and compared you to our president? Nothing out of my son's mouth was racist. However, pointing out my son and I are racist due to our blond hair and blue eyes is a stereotype and is sad you pegged us just by the color of our eyes and hair. Sad really."
Her husband stood up, who was a mountain of a man and said, "You are right. My wife was out of line. Thank you for handling this with tact. He then paid my bill for our meal.
His wife complained to the manager that she sat next to racist people and would not be back. How do I know? My best friend owned the establishment.
The more you know....
that's pretty awesome that you handled it so tactfully and that the husband paid for your meal.0 -
To be honest with you, I don't really get embarrassed when my kids have asked about other people. Kids are curious! My son has asked me if an overweight woman was pregnant, and I simply tell him," you know what? I am not sure. But before we ask someone a question like that, we should probably get to know them first, don't you think? And we don't get to know them unless mom/dad says its ok right?" He says, " yes, because we don't talk to strangers." Another time he asked about a man in a wheel chair," Mom, what is wrong with him?!" I told him, " Nothing is wrong with him, he is just different than you. Everyone is different aren't they?! I'll bet he doesn't have the same nose as you! And I'll bet you don't have the same fingers as him!" "he says ohhh! So he just rides in a chair because everyone is different" When he is bigger we can elaborate on disabilities etc. I don't like to tell him his observations aren't nice or that they are rude simply because is discourages curiosity, which I feel is a lost art now a days.
I was, however, embarrassed beyond belief when I asked my husband, who was a short distance away at the grocery store, if he wanted "hard salami, or cotto salami". My daughter, then 4, shouts "yea dad, do you want hard slimey, or cocko slimely". . . the whole store was silent at that exact moment and I am positive everyone in there heard it. . . I don't know how many shades of red I turned. . . .0 -
I havent had my daughter say anything like that yet but i was at walmart one time, literally days after i had my daughter, & some little girl pointed to my belly and said there was a baby in there. The mom felt awful. it really didnt bother me though because i really just had one. Had i not just delivered my daughter days ago i probably would have been mortified. But we just laughed about it and i told the little girl "No Baby in there! babys at home!"0
-
These are making me LOL
I've definitely had my share of these moments with my boys and they do leave you feeling mortified..but being on the receiving end also has helped me feel better about these awkward moments because... kids are kids and their filter isn't so great.
I was waiting for a seat a a restaurant and there was a little girl just staring at me. Finally, she looked up at her mom and asked, "What is all over her face?" Her mom was mortified, but I just smiled and said, "They're freckles...kisses from the sun."0 -
I will never forget when my daughter (now 10) was learning her colors, we were checking out at a store and she pointed and annouced (as proud as can be) that the woman in front of us was brown! The woman was very nice about it so that was nice. My girls (I have 4) crack me up!
Haha. I think it says more about adults that we're so horrified when our kids point out a persons skin colour.
In fact it probably makes them more racist, seeing us react in horror if we said "shes black!" (or white, or yellow, or brown, or orange)
It should be no different to pointing out someones hair colour or something. It would obv be different if they were like "eww look how brown that person is" or something :L
But yeah, I guess it's just the world we live in where mentioning the colour of someones skin is a huge taboo!
A lot of problems like racism, homophobia etc could be improved in future generations if we were just more honest and plain with our kiddies0 -
There are so many funny stories in this post. Kids really do say the funniest things. I think it's a kid thing.
My younger daughter was sitting on the coach and I was having a delivery made at my house. She must have sensed the delivery guy liked me because out of no where she says "I have a daddy and his name is Harold Foster" we both looked at each other and giggled (me more of an embarrassed giggle). Me and her dad weren't together at the time for many years, which made it even funnier. after the embarrassing moment passed. Guess she was trying to make sure he didn't like me.:laugh: :laugh:0 -
Haha. I think it says more about adults that we're so horrified when our kids point out a persons skin colour.
In fact it probably makes them more racist, seeing us react in horror if we said "shes black!" (or white, or yellow, or brown, or orange)
It should be no different to pointing out someones hair colour or something. It would obv be different if they were like "eww look how brown that person is" or something :L
But yeah, I guess it's just the world we live in where mentioning the colour of someones skin is a huge taboo!
A lot of problems like racism, homophobia etc could be improved in future generations if we were just more honest and plain with our kiddies
Very astute observation! I agree wholeheartedly. :flowerforyou:0 -
I don't have any kids but I say the darndest things.. I once asked a lady how far along she was, she wasn't prego. I was mortified..
LOL Something similar: I worked at a Dairy Queen when I was a teen and I addressed the person on the other end as "sir." When they came around, I still addressed the person as "sir." At the end, the WOMAN with a deep voice, very short hair and flat chest interrupted me to tell me she was a woman.
Imagine my face and how vehemently I apologized!0 -
When my brother was little (around 3) he asked my mom if an obese woman was a "big lady"? And apparently, I asked if an African American man was chocolate......I was probably about 3 also.
At least you only asked!
Where we lived when I was little, there was a coloured family living down the street. Apparently when I was about 3, I saw one of the boys climbing over a wall and bit him on the leg because I wanted to find out if he tasted of chocolate... :blushing:
Then, to make it worse, I was out shopping with my mum and she started talking to this guy. She turned to me and said "Do you remember xxxx? He's the one you bit when you were little!" I could have died! :blushing:0 -
My daughter has had her share of stating the obvious and embarrassing me in public. The worst one was when she was about 3 (she is 6 now) and she had gotten really into Dora and I guess she thought she could speak Spanish and she walked up to these random Hispanic people at Walmart and started speaking giberish at them and was so proud of herself for speaking "spanish" to them. Yea, I could have died!!!
She also likes to say embarrassing things to ME in public. We were in the rr together and she started to loudly comment on the color of my panties, the fact that my butt covered the entire toilet seat and then said "Good job Mommy, I knew you could do it!" when she heard me peeing. Nice....0 -
When my brother was little (around 3) he asked my mom if an obese woman was a "big lady"? And apparently, I asked if an African American man was chocolate......I was probably about 3 also.
At least you only asked!
Where we lived when I was little, there was a coloured family living down the street. Apparently when I was about 3, I saw one of the boys climbing over a wall and bit him on the leg because I wanted to find out if he tasted of chocolate... :blushing:
Then, to make it worse, I was out shopping with my mum and she started talking to this guy. She turned to me and said "Do you remember xxxx? He's the one you bit when you were little!" I could have died! :blushing:
It's apparently racist to use the word coloured these days, some footballer got in **** over it a few weeks back...lol0 -
When my brother was little (around 3) he asked my mom if an obese woman was a "big lady"? And apparently, I asked if an African American man was chocolate......I was probably about 3 also.
At least you only asked!
Where we lived when I was little, there was a coloured family living down the street. Apparently when I was about 3, I saw one of the boys climbing over a wall and bit him on the leg because I wanted to find out if he tasted of chocolate... :blushing:
Then, to make it worse, I was out shopping with my mum and she started talking to this guy. She turned to me and said "Do you remember xxxx? He's the one you bit when you were little!" I could have died! :blushing:
OMG! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
When my brother was younger, he was in the store with my mom when they say a bigger lady in a green dress and he laughed and yelled "Look mommy! A Christmas tree!" Another time he saw a black man and yelled "Ewww! He's dirty!" Both time my mother was mortified!! Ahhh...Kids.....
ha.0 -
My daughter has had her share of stating the obvious and embarrassing me in public. The worst one was when she was about 3 (she is 6 now) and she had gotten really into Dora and I guess she thought she could speak Spanish and she walked up to these random Hispanic people at Walmart and started speaking giberish at them and was so proud of herself for speaking "spanish" to them. Yea, I could have died!!!
She also likes to say embarrassing things to ME in public. We were in the rr together and she started to loudly comment on the color of my panties, the fact that my butt covered the entire toilet seat and then said "Good job Mommy, I knew you could do it!" when she heard me peeing. Nice....
my kids are identical to me, spitting images, mini me's. I like to ask them if they are lost in the store and ask them if they need help finding their mommy. I like to make sure its a crowded aisle, too, lol. The looks I get are down right funny.0 -
My niece came up to me at a family gathering (she was about 4 or 5), and patted my belly and said "you're fat!!)
My sister was so embarrassed, she called her over to her and said "we don't say things like that, that's not nice!!" , and to me she was "I'm soo sorry" it was embarrassing, and I turned red, but I got over it.
Also that was when I was only 200 pounds, I've since gained another 60 so I can only imagine what a kid would say now :P0 -
When my brother was little (around 3) he asked my mom if an obese woman was a "big lady"? And apparently, I asked if an African American man was chocolate......I was probably about 3 also.
At least you only asked!
Where we lived when I was little, there was a coloured* family living down the street. Apparently when I was about 3, I saw one of the boys climbing over a wall and bit him on the leg because I wanted to find out if he tasted of chocolate... :blushing:
Then, to make it worse, I was out shopping with my mum and she started talking to this guy. She turned to me and said "Do you remember xxxx? He's the one you bit when you were little!" I could have died! :blushing:
It's apparently racist to use the word coloured these days, some footballer got in **** over it a few weeks back...lol
* black/coloured/of African descent/whatever terminology is now preferred
(My post was not intended to offend but was just to lay open my embarrasment for you all to laugh at me ) 0 -
This is great! I have 4 kids and the three older ones have ALL said something like this - on a repeated basis. Here are some highlights:
My 3 year old - An elderly lady walks out in front of traffic and I say, "Oh *kitten*, that old lady is going to get herself hit!" The windows were down in the car and my son says, "HEY OLD ****, YOU GET HIT IN TRAFFIC!!!"
My daughter - We had these little Home Depot toy men that the kids were playing with at the park and for some reason they got the nickname, 'the redneck men'. When we were going to leave I told the kids to get their stuff and my daughter says, "Don't forget your little rednecks."
My oldest son - We were in the grocery and there was a man missing his legs and he comes running down the aisle and yells, "MOM, MOM, THAT GUY DOESN'T HAVE ANY LEGS!!!" The guy was right behind me so said, "Well what do you think he's gonna do, kick me?"
We all got a good laugh.
ROFL!0
This discussion has been closed.
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.6K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.3K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.5K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 431 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.6K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.8K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions