My parents have both died because of poor health.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have not lost either of my parents so can't imagine what you are going through exactly but try to keep your head up and will say a prayer for you to give you strength to get through this unimaginable hard time. I have had Type 1 Diabetes for 20+ years and it has been my greatest fear to not be around to watch my children grow up. You have come so far in your weight loss journey just try to keep on keepin on. You can do it!

Oh honey, you have my deepest condolences. I am so sorry.

Wow, girl. My heart certainly goes out to you. Your wounds and grief are so fresh...you must be in agony. I lost my step-mother and father to poor health as well (in 1996 and 1997, respectively).

My father, was much like your mother....smoker, sedentary lifestyle, and my father had a very stressful job in addition to being naturally high-strung and a family history of all heart disease, hypertension and eartly death.

Your weightloss already is amazing and you should be VERY proud of yourself....as I'm sure your parents are as well.

Stay strong (breakdowns are more than okay, your father died DAYS ago) and try to keep your eyes on the long term and what good and wonderful things you are doing for your future and your family.

Feel free to add me as a friend and/or message me if you want to chat/vent/cry/scream to someone who has been there too.

I'm so sorry for your loss, my condolences. Both my parents are (thankfully) still alive, though I'm getting increasingly worried the same thing will happen to my dad very soon. He was diagnosed with MS, is obese and smokes nonstop. The doctors have told him he can’t expect another five years unless he changes his lifestyle, but he refuses. He’s said he’d rather be happy smoking and eating what he wants for five years than miserable eating leaves for twenty. How can his family make him understand how much we want him to be there for the next 20, 30, maybe more years. He’s only 50 years old!

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 40 and have lost my mom, dad and brother. I lost my mom in 1983 at the age of 49 to diabetes and my dad in 1999 at the age of 69 he had a blockage in his neck had surgery and the next day died from a blood clot. (Which is when i really started putting on my weight) When i thought it couldn't get any worse in April of 2005 i loss my brother at the age of 49, he had an infection that got into his blood stream. Then to top everything we went through Katrina and lost our home and everything we owned. I honestly think the only thing that kept me together was that I was 7 1/2 months pregnant. It's still hard at times because i miss them so much but it dose get easier just give yourself time to grieve and keep focus on your goals. It took me along time but I'm now determined to get this weight off because i know i need to be here for my son and husband.

Good luck and feel free to add me!

You have the courage to achieve anything, this you have already proven to yourself and now in memory and to honour your parents, soldier on. BUT first, take whatever you need from your support network to grieve as others have suggested. This is your first priority.

You will know when it is time. Hugs to you.

I am 31 years old and have lost both of my parents to health related issues. My mom died in 2005 of a heart attack. She was 47 years

I'm right there with you. My mom died of a heart attack when I was 15 years old. She was 46 and did not take care of herself at all. She had untreated high bp, smoked, was obese and never exercised .

I'm flying up to Sacramento on Friday because my father is dying of congestive heart failure. He actually died on Saturday but the medics didn't know he had a DNR order and resuscitated him. At this point, its just a matter of time.

My cousin is my age (34) and has to have a triple heart bypass.

With my family history, I knew I HAD to start taking care of myself.

I am 31 years old and have lost both of my parents to health related issues. My mom died in 2005 of a heart attack. She was 47 years

I'm right there with you. My mom died of a heart attack when I was 15 years old. She was 46 and did not take care of herself at all. She had untreated high bp, smoked, was obese and never exercised .

I'm flying up to Sacramento on Friday because my father is dying of congestive heart failure. He actually died on Saturday but the medics didn't know he had a DNR order and resuscitated him. At this point, its just a matter of time.

My cousin is my age (34) and has to have a triple heart bypass.

With my family history, I knew I HAD to start taking care of myself.

Oh my. I am so sorry for your losses as well.

*hugs*

Adding my sympathy and empathy to those who've already posted...

Amy, you've been doing an amazing job! When you're able to, reflect on how far you've come - that's a major achievement!

I guess my other advice would be to try and wrap yourself in as much love, nurture and support as you can. Reach out to family and friends, church, whoever and tell them specifically what you'd like (people often don't know what to do). Don't be afraid to receive care from others at this time - and in an ongoing way - people are often good for the first week then kind of expect you to get over it. What about attending a grief group?

My mother died of cancer aged 64 last year (I'm 35) - about a month later I nervously attended a grief group. The other folks in the group were all normal people who'd experienced a range of tragedies. It was helpful to get together and hear about everyone's different and similar experiences and support one another and take time to grieve.

The first few weeks after Mum died, I was like a zombie- just really tired all the time, like I had the 'flu. I started tentatively with MFP as a way to control something in my life that had been out of control. It really helped! I could have small successes and something to think about other than all the icky stuff.

Anyway...be kind to yourself and God bless.