Does You Spouse Motivate Or Complicate Your Weight Loss?

mine is supportive with loads of compliments etc but it's so hard sometimes when he will go out and buy fast food for dinner or steak and cheese pies for breakfast... or goes shopping and brings home chocolate biscuits and chicken crimpy shapes (my favourite!) or when he pours a massive sugary alcoholic drink and nags me to try it. He tells me "oh you're doing well you deserve a treat!"
I'm not a freakin dog don't reward me with food! lol

I'm not a freakin dog don't reward me with food! lol

lol

My wife is amazing, her support is really helping me.

mine gives me a pat on back wen I lose weight bt wen it comes to being helpful well he's just not very helpful, wen i'm aving bad days and want chocolate or a taleaway he offers to get me them which is then hard to say no I can't have them, plus he also eat chocolate infront of me, also he has th cooking ability ov a three year old so I have to cook him his unhealthy fatty meal because of course he has eat and eat and eat and not put a pound on, which I want to kill him over

My husband while he is supportive (he told me yesterday that he loves the way I look now, not that i was "fat" before. ) he is happy with being how he is. Last night he made peanut butter icing and baked apples. I was leary on eating it, because ever since I started tracking calories, it has made me more aware of what goes in, but i did eat some. I was also like this when I was pregnant. Well, i know I am going to pay for it, and i exercised like no tomorrow and still kinda fell short. Its kinda hard when he doesn't work out with me, but he is a reason (along with my son) as to why i am trying to get healthier and weigh less.

When I started losing weight my husband and I both weighed over 230 lbs. it was so hard to lose by myself because he just wanted to eat and eat crap food. Eventually I stopped cooking two separate dinners, and let him fend for himself. He ate chicken nuggets every night for dinner haha. It hurt me though because as I was getting smaller and learning new things, I saw how unhealthy he was.

Eventually he saw that he was getting out of control and started losing weight as well. He is now 25 lbs down (yay) and he helps me continue my journey every day.

My husband motivates and complicates my weight loss, or rather weight maintenance now. Having and active and healthy life with him is my best motivation. And he loves the healthy meals I cooks and luckily has never liked sweets. But he also was constantly telling me that I looked good and didn't need to lose, the entire time I was losing. Which is very sweet, but not very motivational.

My fiance (who is also on MFP) is very supportive. I'm lucky that he's on board and likes to cook. He was a professional ballet dancer and is try to get back down to close to his performance weight so we're in this together.

Very supportive..occasionally he cracks jokes at my expense, but it's all light-hearted and I giggle along with him. Funny this thread has come up as I was just saying yesterday how great he's been. He rings me mid-morning every day to see how my exercising is going, reminds me gently that perhaps dessert two days in a row isn't the best idea etc.. He doesn't eat crap either so we eat together and he isn't all that big on huge portions, which is great (it's shown me I was actually eating nearly double his portions before starting here!)

My partner is overall really great. He congratulates me on my accomplishments and tells me I feel smaller now when he puts his arms around me. I do almost all the cooking and he loves everything I make, even though I don't eat (or cook) meat, and he doesn't have the audacity to request it from me. He joined my gym and goes with me sometimes and he lost a ton of weight when I moved in a year ago because he started eating so much healthier. He tells me I'm beautiful every single day and he loves my curves.

The part that demotivates me isn't even his fault. He's 6'0" tall and really thin - only 165 pounds. That's easier for me to stomach at 149 than it was when I weighed 159, but when he pats his belly and says he feels fat, I want to smack him. I've told him it makes me feel fat when he does that, since he is so skinny, but I think he just forgets. He's obviously not trying to hurt my feelings, I'm just THAT good at doing it on my own. Haha.

Anyway, the best part of all of this is that he is going to quit smoking on 3/31, which makes me suuuuper excited. And he'll eat anywhere I want when we go out and he will eat anything I make. I just wish I wasn't so inclined to drink with him or share his nachos when we're out, but I don't expect anyone to be perfect.

My husband of 35 years is both my main support and a large part of my motivation. He has weighted the same and looked as hot as he does throughout our entire dating/married life. We are going to Hawaii for our 35th anniversary and I want to look as good as he does when we're on the beach.

He has encouraged me throughout this, has built equipment an equipment racks for me, has moved the guest room furniture countless times, eaten what I eat at dinner (well, maybe I add a few things for him - he works hard all day). He is never judgemental and never presses me if I just don't want to exercise that night. He eats his chips and drinks his beer, but is good about not leaving temptation in my path and never offers things he knows I shouldn't have. He has loved me through menopause and weight gain, and shows his appreciation and pride in the new me in wonderful ways. He even took the bikini pics I have posted here!

Could have done it without him, I guess, but its been so much more fun doing it with him!

My DH is super supportive, but on the other hand makes me want to drop kick him onto Mars! We agreed for a New Years resolution we'd work out, watch what we eat, etc. He lasted A FREAKING DAY on the working out. THEN after it was so apparently obvious he bailed, he was going to sit and "give me advice" on my Jiliian Michaels workout. I can say, at least he knew when to beat a hasty retreat!
He eats crappy, has no energy, promises EVERY DAY tomorrow is THE DAY he will start. Scary thing is he HAS to lose the 30 or so pounds he packed on. He has hereditary high cholesterol and triglycerides and had quadruple bypass surgery almost 11 years ago.
We met 6 years ago this April, and he packed that on since then. I too, gained weight after meeting him, but to me he is just blowing smoke to keep my quiet at this point.
Has anyone else had even a remotely similar issue, and if so what do you do to drop kick their *kitten* into gear again!
I love him, but would love to sucker punch him at the same time!
OHOHOHOH, the other thing he is doing!!! His 21 yr old daughter moved in after getting out of a bad relationship. She scarf eats her food like he does, and yet he is on her about it? GGRRRRRRR Bad day at work is spilling over. SORRY!!

Vadiane1,

I totally feel your pain. My husband needs to lose about 30 lbs (compared to my 60). His father had a sextuple bypass. He himself is on blood pressure meds, cholesterol meds and something else I don't even know what it is.

I have done my bestest to convince him to go to the gym with me, walk the dogs with me, anything. Nothing.

I really worry about the struggle you and I both have, but I have resigned myself to thinking that in the end, I can only be responsible for me. I can try to prepare healthy meals for the two of us, and provide healthy snacks in the house. But if he's going to grab tortilla chips in the middle of the night after I've gone to sleep - there really isn't too much I can do about it.

Ann

She's definitely the biggest help we're both junk foodies, but we're really good at trying to motivate each other to do better. We shop for food together and make good (or bad!) decisions together. Knowing that someone else is watching what I eat as well as I am, and celebrates my weight loss when I do, has made this a million times better.

My Ex-Girlfriend literally did not care about my Eating Habbits at all. She always wanted to go to CiCi pizzas, or some itallian place. Needless to say, she gained about 20 lbs. We are no longer together :-D