ohyeah! i had a real ?... sexual orientation...

I'd say bi curious also... X

I consider myself completely straight, but some women are just hawt, like, fantasy inducing hot.

Exactly what crossed my mind when I first read this post.

I disagree too. I am 100% straight. I can look at a woman and think she is pretty, beautiful or even sexy. I could wish I looked like her, but there is nothing that stirs that lust spark. NOPE, that is the one time that reach out and touch someone doesn't enter the brain.

IMHO.
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This is how I feel about it.

Hmm I guess it it just depends but me myself have never been attracted to a woman so I don't know.

I am straight- but I do think woman are sexy, beautiful or hot. I am not attracted to them- but if I think they are any of the previous stated I will say it. For example Megan Fox in Transformers- what was HOT in that. I could enjoy watching her in the movie. Do I want to kiss her or more. No. I guess maybe I am envious of her ?

I don't like or use labels generally. People are people.

Does your "friend" feel empowered by one label over another? Is there a sense of identity with one label over another? Ultimately the label is just words, but to your friend, and anyone interacting with your friend, the label may alter perception/judgment.

no, not looking for a label really at all. just simply contemplating definitions. No word is going to change a thing.

Your response is a bit contradictory. You must have labels - words - in order to have definitions to contemplate.

I wasn't being accusatory or trying to lead you into an answer with my original post. I was curious about your attachment to the words themselves. Your original question is about the definition of straight and bisexual, isn't it? We can't have the discussion without the labels and our attachment to them.

As we've seen in this thread, this debate often devolves into splintered arguments. A homosexual *act* - that is, sexual behavior between people of the same gender - is different that identifying a person as homosexual. I think that distinction gets lost. Does one act define a person? I guess it might in some circumstances: you give birth, you are a mother; win the super bowl, you are a champion; steal something, you are thief; intentionally kill someone, you are a murderer.

I don't think sexuality comes down to one act. Or even a few acts. I think it is part of someone's "being" - however you want to define that. I think it is an interesting question. I think this discussion is a good one, and I hope it doesn't get locked. I'm grateful you brought it up.

At what point does sexuality get defined? Is it by thoughts, emotions, or actions? Is it a combination of those?

I get the responses of "it doesn't matter", "who cares?", "labels suck", etc. Because people are judged by labels. But something as important as identity may require labels for some people. It's a tricky path to walk.

To your original question:

is it possible for my "friend" to be attracted sexually to another girl and still be considered straight? Or is just the fact that I, i mean, my "friend" is sexually attracted to another girl while still being sexually attracted to boys, mean she's bi?

Yes, it is possible for you or your friend to be attracted sexually to another girl and still be considered straight. A follow-up question of debatable importance might be: "considered by whom?" Are you talking about how you or your friend might self-identify? Or talking about what others might label you?

I suspect there are some who may feel that any thoughts of attraction at all toward the same sex is homosexual thinking. Others may feel that thoughts matter little, but once you act on those thoughts (even once), the line is crossed. Still others may feel that we all exist on a spectrum of sexuality, and even some homosexual experimentation does not make someone homosexual or bisexual.

So not only is there a spectrum of sexuality, but a spectrum of definitions about sexuality. Obviously not a simple topic.

I'd go with "bi-curious" though I don't understand why you're so strung out about finding a label for it. I like women or men, depending on the person (and obviously their looks), my fiancé seems to love this. lol.

I don't like labels. I live by the idea of the sexual spectrum. One end is totally 100% straight and the other is totally 100% homo. I think, unless someone is asexual, they fall somewhere along the spectrum. I think it's rare to be one of the extremes. I definitely am sexually attracted to girls, although, most of my experiences are with men. Sexuality is far more than just who you choose to have sex with. That's my opinion.

Edit: I guess I just basically said the same thing as Cheryl.

Disagree with the falling along the spectrum because I find NOTHING attractive about a dude... absolutely NOTHING!

Same for me except I've never been attracted to a woman. I can admit that they look great, but thats where it ends. Women have never done it for me.

I don't think it's necessary to label. I agree with whomever said there is a lot of gray. Those who know they only like men or women- can label- but those of us who have crossed the line more than a couple times are in the gray area.

I'm bi-curious. very curious if you're bi.

kennethmgreen - extremely well put. I like how you think. Very succinct written.

As Butters would say. . . bi curious

as Tobias Funke would say 'oh, i'm buy-curious'

As the Wright brothers would say... "fly-curious"

As Rosie Odonell has said on the subject of Tom Cruise , I'm gay not dead

I consider myself completely straight, but some women are just hawt, like, fantasy inducing hot.

Yep!!!