Why are bones gross?

SergeantSunshine_reused
SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
edited December 16 in Motivation and Support
I see this posted a lot on the forum. Comments like "If I can see bones you are too skinny" or " EWW. Bones are for dogs!"

But I don't see the problem with bones? I mean if you can see every bone, rib, spine, then well I see the problem xD But my ribs stick out in the morning, my hips stick out like crazy and even hurt from rubbing on my jeans, and my collar bone is visible through most shirts and also very very noticeable. But im healthy weight, strong, and active,

Just curious on opinions of why? Do you think seeing bones are gross/unhealthy?
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  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Bones aren't gross. I cried like a baby when I could see my collarbones again. :smile:
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    I'm with you on this. My collarbone sticks out like mad (it was where I first started to notice my weight loss), my hips bones, my ribs (if I stretch) and my boob ribs(that's totally not the right word, but it's the part below your collar bone, but between your boobs.)
  • ket_the_jet
    ket_the_jet Posts: 1,257 Member
    I don't see visible bones as being disgusting unless it's unhealthy and emaciated [and I know that you are not]. But everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion so I wouldn't worry about it.
    -wtk
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    Bones on thinspiration pics are upsetting but normal weight bone are great. I love my hips bones
  • Faintgreeneyes
    Faintgreeneyes Posts: 729 Member
    I am of the same mind frame- not sure why bones gross people out. I have a rather large rib cage so when I lost my weight, you can see my ribs a little bit, my collar bone, and my hips to stick out. I think some peoples body compositions are just like that, even at being a healthy weight.

    It's when you see someone that is emaciated, you can count all the bones in there chest, back, sides, face- that is a little much and a sign of something terribly wrong- in my opinion.

    I think as a society we are conditioned to believe that "bony" equals "unhealthy" but that is not always the case.
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    Bones on thinspiration pics are upsetting but normal weight bone are great. I love my hips bones

    That is what I think of when I think of extreme bones. I am wondering if this is what comes to mind to some people maybe?
  • Anomalia
    Anomalia Posts: 506 Member
    I've seen a lot of those threads and think they are ridiculous. You can see a lot of my bones and I'm very healthy.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I tend to think people just don't understand that which they know nothing about. One wouldn't look at us and assume we eat 6 times a day, they probably "assume" we eat once a day, if that...
  • andreanicole686
    andreanicole686 Posts: 406 Member
    Bones aren't gross unless your way way under weight. I feel like it depends on the persons body shape. I eat healthy and snack a lot but my collar bones and ribs do show. I'm not underweight, 134 at 5'7, so it just depends on the person. People generalize way too often.
  • budhandy
    budhandy Posts: 305 Member
    !<= this is gross, I wish I could see some bones lol
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Why is fat gross?

    If one is thin to where they can see bones, one will face off against people who are not attracted to think people and feel t hat being thin to the point of seeing bones is not attractive. Some may call it "gross".

    The same as how fat people have to face off against those that feel fat is unattractive and called gross for being fat.
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    I have a family member who is thinks bones are gross, but it is like an irrational fear for her xD I can make her sick if i grab my collar bone :devil: heh

    That i understand, and that it isn't everyone's cup of tea. But doesn't mean we are unhealthy!
  • sofitheteacup
    sofitheteacup Posts: 396 Member
    Bones aren't gross. I cried like a baby when I could see my collarbones again. :smile:

    Same here. Mine don't stick out absurdly or anything, but I like being able to see them.
    That being said, I think we can all agree that when tabloids point out "scary skinny" celebs whose entire spine appears to be bursting through their skin, it's an accurate depiction of when bones are a sign of being unhealthy. But that's an extreme view.
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
    My bones stick out *everywhere*! I have pointy hip bones. Any yoga or pilates that requires me to lie prone usually hurts! My collarbones are really prominent. I can see ribs and spine when I bend and stretch. I can't sleep on my side because my knee bones hurt each other. LOL

    And no... I'm NOT super-skinny - 5'9" and 145. I just have a large, strong frame and this is the way my body is made.

    I think it's normal and healthy to see some bones through the muscle and flesh. But there is definitely a line that some people cross and you just see too many bones.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I see this posted a lot on the forum. Comments like "If I can see bones you are too skinny" or " EWW. Bones are for dogs!"

    But I don't see the problem with bones? I mean if you can see every bone, rib, spine, then well I see the problem xD But my ribs stick out in the morning, my hips stick out like crazy and even hurt from rubbing on my jeans, and my collar bone is visible through most shirts and also very very noticeable. But im healthy weight, strong, and active,

    Just curious on opinions of why? Do you think seeing bones are gross/unhealthy?

    You just have to realize that a lot of people on here think their way is the only way and anyone with a different goal or who looks different than they want to look is going to be the object of scorn.

    Personally, while I want to be toned (i.e. not jiggle anymore!), I don't want a six pack. I don't want hard, defined muscles. I don't want a body fat percentage so low I can't have a period anymore. I want to be toned and soft and what *I* consider feminine. But to many here, that's "skinny fat" and there's something wrong with it.
  • kimtpa1417
    kimtpa1417 Posts: 461 Member
    Some people are naturally big boned. My collar and shoulder bones stick out and i bump my hip bones on everything these days... but i am far from being too skinny. I am 5 9 143 lbs and wear a size 11. I do believe there is to skinny though
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    I have a family member who is thinks bones are gross, but it is like an irrational fear for her xD I can make her sick if i grab my collar bone :devil: heh

    I would be doing that at every single family gathering... just for ****s n' giggles...
  • TheBigYin
    TheBigYin Posts: 5,686 Member
    Bones are only gross when they actually break through the skin, I've had that a couple of times - must try hard not to crash the bike again ;)
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    I like to chew on bones. IMO Bones are good.
  • katysmelly
    katysmelly Posts: 380 Member
    I see this posted a lot on the forum. Comments like "If I can see bones you are too skinny" or " EWW. Bones are for dogs!"

    But I don't see the problem with bones? I mean if you can see every bone, rib, spine, then well I see the problem xD But my ribs stick out in the morning, my hips stick out like crazy and even hurt from rubbing on my jeans, and my collar bone is visible through most shirts and also very very noticeable. But im healthy weight, strong, and active,

    Just curious on opinions of why? Do you think seeing bones are gross/unhealthy?

    I know what you mean. If you look at my avatar, you can see my collar bones. (I look quite thin, but, I still have a belly.) When I was in my 20's, I was naturally skinny as a rail. (5'10" 130lbs) I used to get so annoyed by the comments "Oh, gosh, girl! You're a skeleton!" or "Real women have curves."

    I was normal. They were stupid, rude, and probably jealous.
  • katysmelly
    katysmelly Posts: 380 Member
    I'm with you on this. My collarbone sticks out like mad (it was where I first started to notice my weight loss), my hips bones, my ribs (if I stretch) and my boob ribs(that's totally not the right word, but it's the part below your collar bone, but between your boobs.)

    Sternum. :)
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    I'm with you on this. My collarbone sticks out like mad (it was where I first started to notice my weight loss), my hips bones, my ribs (if I stretch) and my boob ribs(that's totally not the right word, but it's the part below your collar bone, but between your boobs.)

    Sternum. :)

    Hah, thank you.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    Some bones are $exy, within reason...but it is also nice to have a bit of meat on the bone too. Not to mention, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. My fiance saw this picture recently and said that she was too skinny.

    anorexic-model.jpg

    He said she was still beautiful, but she didn't look healthy and it was too much bone because he could see her ribs. He then said that his perfect woman would have meat on her like Beyonce, Shakira, or Kate Upton. However, not all men like a woman like that.

    For myself I want some meat on my body, and as I age I defintely don't want any bones popping through. I think as we age women look better with a little meat.

    It really is just based on personal preference. I personally think if you are healthy and happy then that is all that matters...your confidence will shine through.
  • katysmelly
    katysmelly Posts: 380 Member
    I am of the same mind frame- not sure why bones gross people out. I have a rather large rib cage so when I lost my weight, you can see my ribs a little bit, my collar bone, and my hips to stick out. I think some peoples body compositions are just like that, even at being a healthy weight.

    It's when you see someone that is emaciated, you can count all the bones in there chest, back, sides, face- that is a little much and a sign of something terribly wrong- in my opinion.

    I think as a society we are conditioned to believe that "bony" equals "unhealthy" but that is not always the case.

    I agree with you.

    I think it's normal for naturally thin people to have some visible bones. Hip and collar bones and maybe the bottom couple of ribs. If you can see more than a couple of vertebrae in the back - if you see bones that are not normally visible on other thin people - then there's maybe a reason for concern.
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    Excessive bones, maybe. like too much rib or vertebrae. But clavicles and cheekbones are gorgeous in my opinion.
  • polrbear
    polrbear Posts: 31 Member
    Bones aren't gross. I cried like a baby when I could see my collarbones again. :smile:

    I did the same thing yesterday. Sobbed uncontrollably, like I forgot I even had them and they were some long lost friend.
  • youknome
    youknome Posts: 63
    Bones are definitely not gross, I can not wait to see my collarbones properly. They're starting to appear though =D
  • HittingHerStride
    HittingHerStride Posts: 82
    everyone has a personal opinion, it's not worng or right just a simple opinion. No different then people who think obesity is unattractive.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I haven't seen any 'bones are gross' posts, but I guess it's just personal opinion. If a person is at a healthy weight it's almost impossible not to see some bones. At my heaviest my collar bones still stuck out. I have wide hip bones and mine stick out though my hips still measure 39 min! Some people's bones just show more than others.
  • tinyrah
    tinyrah Posts: 32 Member
    Bones aren't gross. I cried like a baby when I could see my collarbones again. :smile:

    Same here!
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