anyone else having trouble dating?

athinnerme16
athinnerme16 Posts: 14
edited December 17 in Chit-Chat
Im not sure if its me or are other people having this problem with dating. it seems to me that people are just not into getting into serious relationships anymore. what do you think?
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  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I thought it was just because I'm old - but you're young!
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Dating and serious relationships are two different things. Maybe that's your problem. Or, maybe you scare them on the first date by talking about long term stuff.

    Just because I meet someone and go on a few dates for a couple months doesn't mean I will marry them. It takes a while to really get to know someone. If my feelings don't continue to grow, then I'll eventually let them go.
  • salxtai
    salxtai Posts: 341 Member
    Dating and serious relationships are two different things. Maybe that's your problem. Or, maybe you scare them on the first date by talking about long term stuff.

    Just because I meet someone and go on a few dates for a couple months doesn't mean I will marry them. It takes a while to really get to know someone. If my feelings don't continue to grow, then I'll eventually let them go.

    +1. I agree on this standpoint, although I don''t personally go in with a "long-term, marriage" mentality.

    I think my problem is I'm not overly pretty - can't help that :tongue:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I thought 'dating' and 'trouble' were synonyms?

    I agree though...'dating' and 'serious relationship' have very, very different meanings for me. Oddly enough...I'm more the long term type than the dating type. If I'm on the market to date...it's because I'm ready to be in a relationship.
  • maletac
    maletac Posts: 767 Member
    do they still make normal women?!?!? where do you find them?!@?!?
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    I'm having trouble just getting a date. Period. haha but that's a whole other conversation...
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    What's your definition of dating?
  • doughchic
    doughchic Posts: 4
    Lol! What do you consider a "normal" woman?
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    yeah...I have a lot of problems dating.

    But it is because my girlfriend gets really pissed.
  • Skeemer118
    Skeemer118 Posts: 397 Member
    yeah...I have a lot of problems dating.

    But it is because my girlfriend gets really pissed.

    :drinker: I was totally going to say this except about my hubby. LOL
  • cerhodes13
    cerhodes13 Posts: 19 Member
    I think it's cyclic depending on a lot of things such as popular culture and the economy.
  • GroupXZ
    GroupXZ Posts: 196 Member
    Dating is too expensive.
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    yes...

    there are a tons of crazy mofos out there...men and women alike :wink:
  • demonNIИ
    demonNIИ Posts: 187
    yeah...I have a lot of problems dating.

    But it is because my girlfriend gets really pissed.
    roflmao :) good one!!! but true
  • latinabubbles
    latinabubbles Posts: 76
    I've not dated in 2 years. I firmly believe it to be because of my weight. I'm on plenty of fish.com and find that I get the men sending me emails saying if I lost the weight I might could date but being my height and size I'm only good for a booty call. Then they get mad because I won't just have sex with them, even though I don't know them. I'm about ready to join a convent. ugh.... LOL
  • woou
    woou Posts: 668 Member
    lol, I just take my time getting to know someone. I take relationships seriously and don't just jump into one thinking, "oh, I can always breakup."
  • kimmieey
    kimmieey Posts: 87
    I live in a small community and I either know them all and all about them or they know my exes.

    I feel like a fish in an aquarium rather than in the sea when it comes to dating.
  • original_cake_face
    original_cake_face Posts: 131 Member
    I've been with my husband since he was 17, and I 18. I'm 25. I'd say we're pretty serious. :)
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    I think it's cyclic depending on a lot of things such as popular culture and the economy.
    So hard choosing between a hooker or food.
  • Rachelphobia
    Rachelphobia Posts: 60
    I'm pretty young, but in my experiences it's all about being open minded. You find romance in the weirdest places. I wouldn't give up. My current boyfriend I was VERY uninterested in when we met. He was really aggressive and into me when I had 0 interest in him, and now I am crazy about him and we've been together for over half a year. I think guys always act weird for the first month or so, and then their real personalities show.

    Then again I took a good year of dating before I found him....
  • ninaquelinda
    ninaquelinda Posts: 136
    Not just you, dating sucks!
  • Topsking2010
    Topsking2010 Posts: 2,245 Member
    Most women my age come with some type of drama!! Whatever happened to treating a man like a King!!!
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    After 35 years of failed relationships I've just come to expect things to not work out. I just don't try very hard anymore.
  • original_cake_face
    original_cake_face Posts: 131 Member
    I dunno, maybe I just got lucky, or maybe it's just my personality. My husband and I have been together for over 6 years now. When the relationship started, there was no bull****ting, no trying to make eachother jealous like a lot of couples do.. I told him I loved him, he told me he loved me. We have always been honest and open with each other (it's the main rule of our relaionship, and one that's never broken). If one of us is pissed off, we let the other one know.

    I guess I just don't have patience for games. I think it's petty and childish the back-and-forth some couples do. Be together and be real, or move the **** on.


    Edit: I type like an idiot.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I'm new to dating and so far it's been fun.

    It does get complicated when feelings start to get involved when looking for a serious relationship but it's all a journey. Plus, if the guy I'm after isn't after me well there'll be someone else. There always is.

    I don't like games and don't consider myself a game player in the dating world. If I sense a guy is playing the games, I'll speak up and maybe walk away.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Dating has become difficult lately. Not as difficulat as if my wife finds out, though.
  • sixisCHANGEDjk
    sixisCHANGEDjk Posts: 243
    Dating has become difficult lately. Not as difficulat as if my wife finds out, though.

    I agree with you. We've been married almost 16 years. She'd never allow it.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Haven't tried it in over 30 years. DH would not be happy and I think it is too dang much work. LOL
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    I think it's cyclic depending on a lot of things such as popular culture and the economy.
    I think it's always been hard. It's a jungle out there.
  • Geminieve24
    Geminieve24 Posts: 364 Member
    I'm still seeing my ex...complicated. I dated people here and there for awhile. I'm too busy right now to date so I guess seeing the ex (without focusing on the emotions) is fine for me for right now. I do say it's tougher the older you get. Everyone seems to be settling down.
    You have to go into it with no agenda. I think most women do that. They date to find an outcome. I believe in enjoying one's self, and if there is chemistry, you go from there. But in the meantime, date! Have fun!
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