Serious bewb question, no pervs please

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  • CountryBoy65
    CountryBoy65 Posts: 908 Member
    To be honest, I would probably just sit in there in some cute earrings............. nothing else.......... just earrings.

    Where is the "like" button for this post???:love:
  • jacquirich
    jacquirich Posts: 105 Member
    Put the new swimsuit and then pop a long t-shirt over the top
  • beckyinma
    beckyinma Posts: 1,433 Member
    remember in a hot tub, whatever's loose is going to puff up with air and make you feel that much worse. Wear the new suit, you're being harder on yourself than your guests will even imagine to be, plus, when you're in the hot tub up to your armpits, nobody can see what you're wearing anyway.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    Why not go naked?
  • katm427
    katm427 Posts: 227 Member
    I make my wife wear a burka while swimming its what makes me the most comfortable

    This makes me giggle. =P
  • AnneGenevieveS
    AnneGenevieveS Posts: 441 Member
    Anytime you (and by "you", I mean "me" also) wear a swim suit around people, especially if they aren't super close friends, its going to be nerve-racking. Wear one you won't feel self-conscious in and don't feel like you have to cover up the whole time.

    gapping is NOT GOOD. swim suit shopping can be a nightmare. Whatever you are most comfortable in - even though wearing swimsuits in general is uncomfortable.
  • LordBezoar
    LordBezoar Posts: 625 Member
    You've gotten a lot of responses here to dress in a way that feels comfortable to you, and that is certainly sound advice. In addition to that, I want to address your point about if you would look like you were grasping or seeking attention. I pay close attention to this myself for how I dress and I pay careful attention to others and how they do or don't pull it off. In my "field research" I've come to the conclusion that what you wear makes no difference, but who you really are always seems to shine through, for better or for worse unfortunately. I have seen people who are dressed modestly who give off the "grasping" vibe, and people who are dressed like nutjobs who instantly make me feel comfortable and seem self-possessed. I think the whole thing boils down to how you feel about yourself. If you are grasping for attention, that'll come through. If you are judging yourself as inappropriate, others will pick up on that and judge you too. If you say to yourself, "*kitten* it, I deserve to enjoy a hot tub and no one ever died from seeing cleavage" then others will likely pick up on that and enjoy you too!!! Live it up!!

    How, exactly, does a 'nutjob' dress?

    Like this:
    nutjob.jpg
  • noahsampeer1
    noahsampeer1 Posts: 29 Member
    Just wear a long shirt over the smaller suit. If you feel comfortable later on, then you can just take it off.
  • saintspoon
    saintspoon Posts: 242 Member
    You've gotten a lot of responses here to dress in a way that feels comfortable to you, and that is certainly sound advice. In addition to that, I want to address your point about if you would look like you were grasping or seeking attention. I pay close attention to this myself for how I dress and I pay careful attention to others and how they do or don't pull it off. In my "field research" I've come to the conclusion that what you wear makes no difference, but who you really are always seems to shine through, for better or for worse unfortunately. I have seen people who are dressed modestly who give off the "grasping" vibe, and people who are dressed like nutjobs who instantly make me feel comfortable and seem self-possessed. I think the whole thing boils down to how you feel about yourself. If you are grasping for attention, that'll come through. If you are judging yourself as inappropriate, others will pick up on that and judge you too. If you say to yourself, "*kitten* it, I deserve to enjoy a hot tub and no one ever died from seeing cleavage" then others will likely pick up on that and enjoy you too!!! Live it up!!

    How, exactly, does a 'nutjob' dress?

    Like this:
    nutjob.jpg


    :laugh: oh that made my day :happy:
  • juliedee6
    juliedee6 Posts: 46 Member
    Consider, also, whether it will make your guests uncomfortable or not.
  • hypotrochoid
    hypotrochoid Posts: 842 Member
    Wear it! Then run the jets so you can hide in the bubbles if you start feeling too exposed. :)
  • KaylanRose
    KaylanRose Posts: 8
    put it on and let your husband make you feel totally awesome about wearing it! But don't skip out on it because you're afraid of how you're going to feel! I'm sure all of your friends know your journey and are supportive of you, because that's what friends do for each other.
  • kculp73
    kculp73 Posts: 16 Member
    Be the first one in and the last one out. Keep those jets going! Honestly, you can't ever see much when you are in a hot tub anyway. Keep a towel by the side and your slick moves in and out of the tub shouldn't require much notice. Enjoy your party...these are friends. If they care that much, you need new ones. They probably will love the new body!
  • NinjaMonkey201
    NinjaMonkey201 Posts: 123
    I think you should get a new suit. Or at least a new top (Walmart and Target always has mix-n-match, so you can find one that will match the bottoms).
    If you're not completely comfortable, you'll be self-conscious the whole night.
    I'm the same way, I like mine covered in a bathing suit or I feel like they're going to fall out.
  • iFeelBrandNew
    iFeelBrandNew Posts: 263 Member
    i think that you should ALWAYS try something out of your comfort zone! this brings change! you have a new body, and gosh darnit, if i didnt have a mommy tummy i would rock the HELL out of it. you WORKED for it! you EARNED it! i say WEAR THAT SUCKER, and stop worrying about what everyone else will think about it. EMBRACE change, i mean, you bought it for a reason. you met your goal. whats stopping you?!
  • sjohnny
    sjohnny Posts: 56,142 Member
    Does your husband's opinion count?

    Funniest post ever. I about peed myself.
  • Lainn
    Lainn Posts: 281 Member
    Like this:
    nutjob.jpg
    For the win....
  • Nicoleo1
    Nicoleo1 Posts: 159 Member
    Does your husband's opinion count?

    Yes! Of course it does but he will never give it. Claims to be "Switzerland" or pleads the 5th. That has saved his *kitten* in the past, but also leaves me wondering what he's thinking!
  • Iloran
    Iloran Posts: 5 Member
    Make everyone go naked. That way you will all be uncomfortable together.
  • lisag2007
    lisag2007 Posts: 130
    wear the new top, but wear a tank top over it- there is no reason to miss your own party fun- just cover the puppies up a bit- you will be more comfortable eventually!

    Good for you for needing a smaller size!

    This.....
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    How about using the slightly revealing bathing sute, with a wifebeater/tanktop over?
  • sunshine__angel
    sunshine__angel Posts: 366 Member
    Just wear whatever makes you comfortable. I don't think it will seem like you are asking for attention unless you are walking around in your bathing suit all day unnecessarily. There is nothing wrong with going into the pool and/or hot tub in your swimsuit and covering up with a towel or top when you get out, or even while you swim (if that makes you feel better about it). I'm sure you've worked hard to get where you are anyways and there is no shame in wearing something that shows off your hard work!
  • elishabeish
    elishabeish Posts: 175 Member
    For those who missed the question, check the OP: "so will wearing something that is in no way porn-starish but still more revealing than usual make me look like I'm out of my mind / grasping / attention seeking / etc. ??????"
    Does your husband's opinion count?

    Yes! Of course it does but he will never give it. Claims to be "Switzerland" or pleads the 5th. That has saved his *kitten* in the past, but also leaves me wondering what he's thinking!

    I was going to say have your hubby tell you what he thinks, mine always says More cleavage no matter what the case (which reminds me of a wet t-shirt contest he begged me to enter... totally regret! lol) But since yours prefers to plead the fifth you need to let him know that what he thinks matters to you, rather it is good or not and accept his answer, Otherwise take the advice of what is comfortable to you!! Good Luck and enjoy!!

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