Long Distance Relationship

BuckeyeBoi
BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
edited December 17 in Chit-Chat
How do you yall feel about this for it or against?
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  • Neliel
    Neliel Posts: 507 Member
    For it! I'm in a fantastic relationship right now with a guy I met whist gaming online. We've met twice and are due to meet again in just 6 days! I live in England and he lives in France. It works well for us :)
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    I did it before and it worked for 15yrs, I dont put anything between love and receiving it!
  • Neliel
    Neliel Posts: 507 Member
    I laugh every time someone asks me '...but... how is it going to work?' and I just reply with 'if you want it to work, it will.' For us, we can't see how it wouldn't work. Of course we'd love to see each other more but we have something far too special to sweep aside just because of a few extra miles.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    How do you yall feel about this for it or against?

    I don`t see you as my type but thanks for asking. :blushing:
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    How do you yall feel about this for it or against?

    I don`t see you as my type but thanks for asking. :blushing:
    Dang it Carl
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    They can be nice if you can make them work. When I was younger, I couldn't handle it. I felt like I needed to be around that person all the time to feel loved and secure. Now that I am older, I think I could appreciate it more. (will someone send my SO somewhere? just kidding). Sometimes when you are around a person all the time, you tend to take them for granted.
  • ToEKnee213
    ToEKnee213 Posts: 1,031 Member
    LMAO!!! Dang it, Carl - you made me snort water up my nose!


    I think distance is not a big deal....if you love/like each other, go for it!

    Met my best friend online 10 years ago...we only see each other twice or three times a year, but she and I are like sisters.

    Had a long distance romantic relationship as well....the distance wasn't the spoiler though.
  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
    Oh hell no. Long distance relationship means no regular nookie, unless you've got mad frequent flyer miles...
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    I think anything is possible if you put enough effort into it. All involved would have to really, really want it to work. The distance makes communication all the more important.
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    You cant ask someone to have a relationship with you unless you can travel! I m in that position
  • ItsMandeeBitch
    ItsMandeeBitch Posts: 159 Member
    I am in one and why yes it is very hard there are ways to make it work :) I am so in love with my boyfriend and I wouldnt trade him for anyone. These however arent for boring people you have to be spicy and do what you can with what you have :)

    Also-It can not be long distance forever so dicussing plans for the future always helps for motivation.
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    I am in one and why yes it is very hard there are ways to make it work :) I am so in love with my boyfriend and I wouldnt trade him for anyone. These however arent for boring people you have to be spicy and do what you can with what you have :)

    Also-It can not be long distance forever so dicussing plans for the future always helps for motivation.
    I think you appreciate each other a bit more
  • DavetheHYNIC
    DavetheHYNIC Posts: 318 Member
    I'm too demanding and need constant attention to be in long distance relationship. Never done it never will.
  • PepeGreggerton
    PepeGreggerton Posts: 986 Member
    I'm in one. I miss her constantly, and it can be very difficult. I love her so much though and couldn't imagine my life without her.

    I think it's important that we hear each others voices everyday. So I always make sure to call her. We talk a lot via text, chat, and skype as well.

    I'm interested in hearing what some of you that have been or are in a LDR have done to help make it work?
  • foxy2311
    foxy2311 Posts: 179
    Oh hell no. Long distance relationship means no regular nookie, unless you've got mad frequent flyer miles...

    lol....agreed!
  • Celtic_Queen
    Celtic_Queen Posts: 11
    It's certainly possible..but, it's very difficult. And both people involved have to want it very much! There is no such thing as "lightly committed" when you're in a long distance relationship. Either you're in it, or you're not in it. And if you can't communicate effectively don't even bother! My husband lives more than 2000 miles away, and has for the last 3 years due to work. We fly back and forth to visit, but it certainly wouldn't be possible if we weren't 100% sure of who we are as a couple.
  • BuckeyeBoi
    BuckeyeBoi Posts: 233 Member
    comittment is what it takes and concentration
  • erikblock
    erikblock Posts: 230 Member
    I live in America, and I dated a girl in Brazil for about 2 years. It was tough, but for the most part, we made it work well. We managed to see each other about every 3 months on average, and we spent A LOT of time on Skype. :)
  • Jade17694
    Jade17694 Posts: 584 Member
    I'm all for it as long as the other person is willing to work as hard as me to keep it going and make it successful :)
  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
    ive had one..they are hard and i think you have to have some type of plans to live together in the future, otherwise i think the distance would become too much
  • MrsLVF
    MrsLVF Posts: 787 Member
    How do you yall feel about this for it or against?

    Eventually someone will need to move, or it's break-up time.

    *I started my relationship long distance, and we just got to the point where we didn't want to go a day without being together, so I moved in.:heart::heart: :heart:
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    For me it really doesn't matter as long as there is sincerity, sacrifice & extra patience between the two of you. I'm into one right now.
  • o0IrishEyes0o
    o0IrishEyes0o Posts: 82 Member
    I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years.

    We are getting married in 3 weeks :)
  • k_sharp
    k_sharp Posts: 100 Member
    I'm not a fan but I do it because I love my husband and can't imagine life without him! Do to his job we have spent a majority of our six year marriage living apart. We have two kids now and it is hard because he misses out on so much! My daughter is three and my husband has only been around about 9 months of her life :( the kids know that daddy loves them and will be home when he can! We make it work because we love each other! I support him and his career and just know that one day we won't have to do this anymore!
  • SinIsIn
    SinIsIn Posts: 1,865 Member
    They usually don't workout in the long run, unless one or the other decides to move closer to the other.

    But that's just MY opinion, I like having someone to cuddle with, hold hands with.. etc etc. Not just someone to talk on the phone or skype with. :smile:
  • mickeygirliegirl
    mickeygirliegirl Posts: 302 Member
    If I met the right person, I would deal with it. Would I be entirely happy? Nope. But I'd strive to make it work if I wanted to be with the person and if I knew there would be an end to the distance in the future.
  • RisyaLifsheTova
    RisyaLifsheTova Posts: 305 Member
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years. In August he took a big step and is attending Law School in California. We decided that his first year would be incredibly busy and that it would be easier for us to have him live out there and me stay here in Colorado while he attends his first year. But we make it work. Since August I drove out there to help him move then flown back, went out there again in October, we meet up at his moms for Thanksgiving in November, he was out here for winter break in December/January, went out there again at the end of Jaunary, March went to visit him. Now im flying out there again on Sunday to look for OUR new apartment. So I believe if we can survive the first year of Law School, and a long distance relationship anyone can! We talk on the phone at least four to five times a day lol. The best part is it never gets old. We always have something to say, even if it's not a full conversation but a quick hello and I love you. That's enough for us. He calls me when he's headed into class, and calls me just to say good night :) So yes I am all for long distance!!! But like someone said above there should be talk of a future moving together and so forth :) Im moving out there next month :) even though he will be attending an externship in El Paso, which we discussed and I could have gone out there for. But decided it was better to get moved out there and work since I will be transferring. Instead of taking a 2 month leave of absense to be with him in El Paso :) I will get to see him for 2 weeks when the court system has a summer break. Man I love my man! Wouldnt change it for the world. It has made our relationship a million times better then it already was....Sorry for the long rant! Im just really excited about how him and I made this work. It deffintly takes two to make it work.
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    Im an attention *kitten* and a sexual being....I need constant loving. Wouldn't work on my end
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    It depends on who need each person is. My boyfriend lives an hour and a half away from me. Between his early 4am-10am work schedule, two full days of classes every week and my 8-5 job, we only get to see each other on weekends. IT SUCKS! This week I got sick and he wanted to come comfort me, I wanted him to come take care of me but it just wasn't an option without him missing 4 classes and work. Also, only getting sex two days a week kind of sucks.

    5 more weeks until he transfers and we started dating the end of last summer. If it were any longer, I don't know we could make it last.
  • JanieJack
    JanieJack Posts: 3,831 Member
    Since I am military and travel a lot, the ability to maintain a long distance relationshp is a must. Sure, I would rather have someone here with me all the time but that's not realistic until I retire.

    I have no problem with long distance relationships as long as we maximize use of technology to keep in touch and constantly re-affirm our affection for one another.
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