Does it work both ways???

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  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Every stretch mark, scar, blemish is sign that you have lived and are part of your story!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I have a LOT of stretch marks - you don't carry a 9 pound baby for 9 1/2 months or then spend 6 years being obese and escape unscathed.

    My ex hated them and it made me even more self-conscious; however, the guys on here, at least, don't seem to think they are all that gross.

    Of course, they could just be saying that to be nice, but I think that most (not all, but most) men don't mind them all that much - especially since, by the time they have you undressed enough to see them, they probably aren't worried about the appearance of your tummy skin.

    Of all the men I've dated, only one ever even noticed my stretch marks. And he was an all-around jerk, anyway. It was just one more thing to criticize.
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    Every stretch mark, scar, blemish is sign that you have lived and are part of your story!

    :heart:
  • mnishi
    mnishi Posts: 419 Member
    Thank you! I love MFP men, this is one less thing I have to be self-conscience about now.
  • SnakeDarling
    SnakeDarling Posts: 352 Member
    I'm more curious about men's opinions on cellulite :p
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    If I'm to the point where I'm seeing stretch marks, I'm not thinking about stretch marks.
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    Fortunately, I don't have the cellulite. I have a hard time just dealing with one!
  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
    I've had 3 babies, one set of twins. I went 37-weeks with them. I had a 54' waist. Baby boy was 7lbs 7oz baby girl 6lbs 5oz. Our oldest asked about the marks on my tummy and my husband answered, "Aren't they beautiful? She kept you safe for 9-months in there. Prettiest home I've ever seen."

    There will be guys who will look at stretch marks and cringe. They are boys. Ignore them and move on to a man.

    :heart: Awww your husband sounds amazing!

    Yea, I think I have more of an issue with the single mom thing and having stretch marks than any guy I talk to. meh
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    I've had 3 babies, one set of twins. I went 37-weeks with them. I had a 54' waist. Baby boy was 7lbs 7oz baby girl 6lbs 5oz. Our oldest asked about the marks on my tummy and my husband answered, "Aren't they beautiful? She kept you safe for 9-months in there. Prettiest home I've ever seen."

    There will be guys who will look at stretch marks and cringe. They are boys. Ignore them and move on to a man.

    Me too- twins- boys- 37 weeks. It's not a nice look. However, they are so worth it!!!

    This is really nice to read from all of you (especially Binary).
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    I'm more curious about men's opinions on cellulite :p

    Oh that stuff is just gross....:wink:

    Don't care...you girls give yourselves so much grief for stuff that we guy's really dont notice.

    One of my favorite quotes "There is no exquisite beauty without some strangeness in the proportion"...
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    If I'm to the point where I'm seeing stretch marks, I'm not thinking about stretch marks.
    LOL!!! So very, very true!!! :laugh:
  • supermom2002
    supermom2002 Posts: 180 Member
    I don't even think about the stretch marks... that's just the result of growing 7" in one year followed up by carrying a 10lb baby for 40 weeks.

    Now the cellulite on the other hand. That be some nasty *kitten*!

    ugh. i was blessed with zero stretch marks from pregnancy...I'd be willing to trade tho. nobody says nice things about cellulite. damn genetics.
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    Really..we don't notice!!
  • ki4yxo
    ki4yxo Posts: 709 Member
    If I'm to the point where I'm seeing stretch marks, I'm not thinking about stretch marks.

    Ding! Fries are done.
  • antoniosmooth
    antoniosmooth Posts: 299 Member
    Stretch marks are the "marks" of a real woman in my personal opinion. I can honestly say I love my wife's stretch marks. It's one of those supposed flaws. No body is perfect, it's only perfect after PhotoShop. Quite a few celebrities have stretch marks.

    Trust me galgetsthin, when your man see's you naked, THE LAST THING he's thinking about is some stretch marks. All he's thinking about is "MY WOMAN IS NAKED IN FRONT OF ME"!!!! ALRIGHT!!!!!!!!!

    Cellulite... now that's another story..... Seriously though same thing goes in terms of celebrities and women who have cellulite is simply another supposed flaw that simply shows you aren't perfect and most of all don't NEED to be perfect.

    Ladies.... trust me, you are more critical of your own bodies and those of your peers than we men are. I blame the media for this.
  • MissAlexxMarie
    MissAlexxMarie Posts: 171
    I had my son 3 and a half months ago and they make me insecure at times...well a lot of times. But men who love you don't see you for your stretch marks...
  • LMHinson15
    LMHinson15 Posts: 201 Member
    Thank you! I love MFP men, this is one less thing I have to be self-conscience about now.

    Right? I agree!!:love:

    Now... if only there were some of THESE kinda guys in my town... :grumble:
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    I have had two human beings crawl kicking and screaming from my vagina:

    If anyone DARES talk **** on my beautiful, pearly belly stripes,

    I will gut them with a wooden spoon. That should give them a bit of perspective.
  • liftingbro
    liftingbro Posts: 2,029 Member
    I think this really depends on they guy, most older guys who are married and have kids will say it does not matter. We have wives who have them and they are hot.

    Younger single guys will probably be as accepting of them.
  • GoldspursX3
    GoldspursX3 Posts: 516 Member
    Honestly in my younger days I thought they were gross. I'm 28 now and about to get married to the woman in my picture. We both want a kid right after we get married and I'm going to love every stretch mark she might earn because of that. Guess as you get older other things become more important.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    Don't give a crap about them. Never really did either - they're natural, it happens, and they're nothing to be ashamed of.
  • cms6300
    cms6300 Posts: 163
    Some guys probably care - i don't. Line of the day, "I am getting pretty hot." Love the fact that you didn't bother with the usual qualifiers, aka: i think i'm.... or i feel like i might be.... Nope, went straight for,"i'm hot people, drink it in."
    Good for you and.......you're right.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    I like my wife's, I think their cute like a treasure trail. and they just show that you have lived and conquered life. and like what was already said, women are beautiful. and cellulite doesn't bother me ether
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    I see women posting about how it was inevitable to get stretch marks carrying around 9-10 lb children, but I carried two (separately 9.10, 9.14) for 9 1/2 months each and the only stretch marks I got were on my a$s from it getting so muscular. Its in genetics. It had nothing to do with the size of your child. Sorry, just had to say that. Its a pet peeve of mine.

    That being said, my husband doesn't mind my stretch marks. (He also has a weird infatuation with my butt) I've even seen him check out a womans that had stretch marks and he didn't say anything negative when I made fun of him for it. He also told me when I got pregnant that it woudnt bother him if I got stretch marks. My father told me he never minded stretch marks. As well as most of my guy friends have girlfriends that have had children that have stretch marks and they don't care.

    I don't think guys care unless they are douche bags.
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