question for the ladies be honest here?

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  • misslissa555
    misslissa555 Posts: 135 Member
    I've been told by MFPals that I have a nice body (and everything you read on the internet is true, RIGHT???)
    I don't have a big butt, but it is round and shaped like a C.
    I haven't met any average Joes lately and no one ever tries to "get with me" BUT....

    My ex was 4 1/2 inches shorter than me, 45 pounds heavier, had back hair and a beer belly, and I found him extremely attractive in a physical sense.

    So yes, looks play a part, but don't assume that everyone's idea of "attractive" is the same.

    Also, you're flippin' adorable, so stop worrying about it so much. Heck, I accepted your FR *purely* to add guy candy to my wall.
    :drinker: Don't be so hard on yourself! I like the part about the eye candy on her wall! :blushing: It's true that looks aren't everything. They can go away at any moment! I don't like the buffed guys. I feel they're too into themselves to be into me. Average Joe has a lot more to offer anyways. You will find your princess someday! :flowerforyou:
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    I like to give people a chance. I didn't date a whole lot before I got married. But I did date a guy that i really didn't find attractive, but his personality was infectious. We were together for a year and a half and we have remained friends since then.
    I know I'm not the best looking person in the world, but people still give me a chance, so why not return the favor. lol
  • aprildawn81
    aprildawn81 Posts: 668 Member
    I just had to throw in, you aren't an average joe at all. You are quite cute....kind of a "Dwayne Johnson" look to you. :)
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    The sexiest part of a man is his mind.

    A guy can walk in looking super hot but if he's a jerk, an idiot who can't form a coherent sentence, and is only thinking about 1 thing it makes him very ugly. Then you can have some other guy who looks like Leonard from Big Bang Theory but if he's smart, kind, intelligent, witty, etc it makes him much more attractive. And yes, I have a bit of a TV crush on Lenoard simply because that character's mind is so attractive.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    part of initial contact is based on looks. however i have meet people i am not attracted to physically, but i want to bang their brains out if you know what i mean.

    humor
    intelegence
    and what we have in common is a must

    appearence is a plus :]
  • cindym29
    cindym29 Posts: 60 Member
    A lot of this answer is going to depend on the type of woman you're talking to.
    Some shallow lovely ladies will probably ignore the "average joe" and be kinda rude..but I have a feeling that those girls are far and few between.

    Others however will probably see what you have to say and hear you out regardless of what the girl looks like. and I mean that because everyone has insecurities and so personally I think that most women would hear the "average joe" out.
  • sebbysmommy
    sebbysmommy Posts: 63 Member
    Looks...yes. But even more so, personality and compatibility.

    When you find the one my dear, you will know.
    Yep! One look at my now husband and that was it for me :heart:
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    If a man approaches me, I don't even have to look at him to turn him down. Right away I know he has low standards and therefore isn't worth my time.

    :tongue:
  • Kristhin
    Kristhin Posts: 442 Member
    Dudes are just almost never attractive just by looking at them. I've like maybe one or twice in my life ever gone out with a guy because I met him and though he was 'hot'. Most dudes just don't catch my eye. but then i get to know who they are, and if that turns out really well, then their personality makes them start becoming attractive to me. for example, my husband. he's super super hot he has gorgeous blue eyes with thick eyelashes, slim and toned, a cute smile, etc. when i met him i didn't think about that he was attractive or anything. then i started hanging around him and he became gorgeous and now i think hes the hottest guy ev.
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    Bump this topic intrigues me.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    I am a very shy and reserved person so I don't let very many people "in." .... so personality has a LOT more to do with it than looks. I need someone who I can get along with and feel comfortable with opening up to. Some of the guys I'm interested in are cute some of them are just ok. Their personalities make them attractive to me. I have shut out some really attractive men just because I didn't like the way they carried themselves and they just didn't make me feel comfortable talking to them. *shrug*

    But I have a boyfriend now so I don't really let anyone chat me up.
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    I don't expect my man to be a supermodel or anything - personality, similar morals and a great sense of humor are the most important things for me.

    However, I do expect a man to take care of himself, in the same sense that I do. He should eat well, be well-groomed, and dress like he isn't a fifteen year old boy. For me, it's more about the way a man packages and presents himself than his actual "hotness".
  • azlady7
    azlady7 Posts: 471 Member
    i could care less about his looks (as long as he doesnt smell and isnt greasy and dirty lol) i care more about what is inside and what he has to say :)
  • RockaholicMama
    RockaholicMama Posts: 786 Member
    I've never thought of myself as...well, pretty. Not so much a nice body, however I do have a big butt. <-- as you can see in the pic. But, did I pay mind to looks? Yeah. I kind of looked for clean cut guys. But, I payed even more attention to personality and compatibility.
  • RestartThisRight
    RestartThisRight Posts: 115
    Looks play a role, but I'll tell you, I've dated "less attractive guys" becasue they had the best personality. Looks generally matter most for hook up. Personality counts long term!
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    I'm a firm believer in giving someone a chance to have a conversation so that I can see what kind of focus they have. I learned a long time ago that looks only get you so far. I was in the military for almost 10 years and I know well enough that those pretty features can become disfigured in the blink of an eye...sooo to sum it all up I WILL TAKE BRAINS OVER BRAWN ANYDAY :wink:

    Brains over brawn, absolutely.

    That said, I do have a tendency to be attracted to confident men (sometimes way too confident), and because our society is so hyper focused on the exterior, it's hard to find a confident man who isn't also good looking. But when I do find one, I often think he's hotter than a more physically attractive man, because his confidence isn't all based on looks that are going to fade.
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    Of course looks matter. Anyone who says they don't would be a liar. However, once I talk to someone and realize they are either a giant douche, or just have nothing going on upstairs then it's a deal breaker and I don't care how good you look.
  • MandaJean83
    MandaJean83 Posts: 675 Member
    Looks don't make that much of a difference to me....the guys I've dated range so far in looks and build, it would make your head spin.

    While I do have to be physically attracted to a guy to see a relationship forming, personality and compatibility can play a BIG part in how attractive a guy is!

    I met the man I'm with now on an online dating site, and I overlooked his profile a lot of times because it didn't strike me. His pics were okay, but I was not "wowed" and falling on the floor in lust. But he was brave and messaged me, and we started talking and realized we had SO much in common and a lot of intellectual chemistry....and when we met in person, sparks totally flew :) Still do, as a matter of fact, and it's been almost 2 years since we met!

    My point is this...while looks DO matter some, personality/sense of humor/compatibility matter 1000x more! :)
  • TinkrBelz
    TinkrBelz Posts: 866 Member
    First off I have been with the same man for 24 years...

    BUT, if I were single....at first looks do catch your eye. BUT, I like a man that is funny and easy to get along with. I have met men that are not so attractive at first glance, and then as you get to know him, he gets better looking and better looking with his personality.

    And if a girl thinks she is too good, then she is not worth your time!!
  • autumnk921
    autumnk921 Posts: 1,374 Member
    Do you Mr. Average Joe give the woman that just walked with a flat behind but giving you the eye the time of the day?


    This! I am curious as to this answer here... :wink:
  • Luandanielle1979
    Luandanielle1979 Posts: 747 Member
    Make me laugh and im hooked!! I have been out with the funniest men and also a few fitties. The one thing that attracts me is a kind soul and a cracking sense of humour. Oh and politeness x
  • nbsambucca
    nbsambucca Posts: 123 Member
    To date from the get go...yeah, Id say looks matter more than if its someone Ive gotten to know in some other capacity. Friend or other type of acquaintence. Ive found myself attracted to guys Ive known for a while. Wasnt attracted at the start....but it turned into that and they didnt turn into gods ....it was the rest of them. But to walk in and not know someone....Id say more of an attraction is necessary to get the ball rolling...
  • DAMNCHARLIE
    DAMNCHARLIE Posts: 569
    When your real young (dumb,and full of...), looks play apart. The older you get (well at least me), I want some one, who has some type of job, has his priorities in order, funny( a must), easy on my eyes, but the sexiest thing to me is a SMART man.
  • SeasideOasis
    SeasideOasis Posts: 1,057 Member
    Looks are what 'typically' attracts someone for the first time (in a social setting). When I first met my boyfriend (I met him almost 3 years ago and we have been dating for a little over 2 years) I was attracted to him physically. What made me swoon, however, was not his looks but his amazing amazing singing voice.

    The rest is history.
  • abellante_0205
    abellante_0205 Posts: 368 Member
    personality and the chemistry is whats important to me! Guys seem to only like me for my looks... :(
  • ByrdMessy
    ByrdMessy Posts: 94
    Looks have way less to do with it than if he's calling me a 'chick'...
  • LesliePierceRN
    LesliePierceRN Posts: 860 Member
    Looks might or might not attract me to someone initially, but I'm smart enough to not let that be the biggest piece of the pie. I need someone compatible with me, who can laugh and make me laugh, who is secure with himself, and many other non-physical characteristics. My husband ended up being pretty much the opposite of my 'ideal' as far as physical looks go, but he's perfect for me in every way.
  • coconutbuNZ
    coconutbuNZ Posts: 578 Member
    Attraction is important at first but not the be all and end all of a potential relationship. Make her laugh and you will be winning! Make her feel important. Listen and give feedback. Ask questions.
  • deejaycee114
    deejaycee114 Posts: 139 Member
    Do you Mr. Average Joe give the woman that just walked with a flat behind but giving you the eye the time of the day?

    "like" :)
  • deejaycee114
    deejaycee114 Posts: 139 Member
    looks play a role, but looks aren't always everything.. sometimes, the great looking guys tend to be a-holes. or maybe that's just been my experience. :tongue:
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