I can't believe this lady at my gym.....

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  • 19Gibbs
    19Gibbs Posts: 3
    That is just awful but by the support I am sure you can see that there is no point waisting any energy on getting upset on what that women said and use the energy on continuing you magnificant goals you are accomplishing. YOU ARE AWESOME!
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    Yea, that was very mean and backhanded. I'm hoping she meant to say something else but it came out wrong, but nowadays you just never can tell.
  • k011185
    k011185 Posts: 320 Member
    That used diaper would have smarted if it had smacked her in the back of the head.
    perfect response to gym trolls.
  • Josie_lifting_cats
    Josie_lifting_cats Posts: 949 Member
    When we got to the gym I had to change my baby's diaper before I could take her into the nursery. Well while I was in the locker room this lady walks up and says.......

    "Awww what a cute little girl." I said "Thank you" then she asks me " How long have you been coming here?" I said "Do you mean how long have I been coming to the gym or working on my weight loss?" She said "Gym" I said "On and off since Dec. '11" Then she said "Well now that we're on the subject how much weight have you lost?" I said "Well my daughter's 14 months old and in that 14 months I've lost a total of 60 lbs. I'm still aiming for another 50 to 60 lbs" Then she smirked and said "Well looks like you have a long way to go!!" After she said that she just left.

    I was floored I didn't know what to say and the other lady in there just shook her head and mouthed the words "Are you okay?" I mean do I have the right to be mad?

    I would have junk punched her.

    That's four pounds a month! That is NOTHING to smirk at. And a loss like that, no matter how long it takes, is nothing to ignore or diminish.

    Some women are just.... ARGH.
  • mynewlife_my_motivation_Anna_
    mynewlife_my_motivation_Anna_ Posts: 79
    wow how mean she is just jealous of u !!

    thats what i call a JEALOUS B1TCH
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    Do you have the right to be mad? Absolutely. Will it do you any good? No. So just realize that it is this woman that has the problem and not you. You have made great progress... 60 lbs in 14 months... You are on track and going the right direction.. You are losing it the right way... slowly and methodically. Believe it or not, probably the best way to deal with this one is to be friendly the next time you see her... It will so get under her skin that you have moved on and not let her being an *** stop you or change your attitude toward her.... Just a suggestion... Of course, if that continues... report her. Most gyms don't want that type of stuff going on because it runs off customers.
  • shrkngme
    shrkngme Posts: 3 Member
    I would've thrown the diaper at her too and said 'oops missed the trash bin' if she got upset

    my question to you is doesyour gym has some kind of ethics or behavior guidelines at it? Even if they don't, talk to management about what happened. they usually want to know if someone is being such a cow to other members as it drives away their paying customers. she could be put on some kind of probation where if there is another complaint, she can be booted out

    and congratulations on the weight loss!!!
  • KrisyKat
    KrisyKat Posts: 740 Member
    Of course you have the right to be upset. Sadly, your anger won't change the fact that she's a b*tch.
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    When we got to the gym I had to change my baby's diaper before I could take her into the nursery. Well while I was in the locker room this lady walks up and says.......

    "Awww what a cute little girl." I said "Thank you" then she asks me " How long have you been coming here?" I said "Do you mean how long have I been coming to the gym or working on my weight loss?" She said "Gym" I said "On and off since Dec. '11" Then she said "Well now that we're on the subject how much weight have you lost?" I said "Well my daughter's 14 months old and in that 14 months I've lost a total of 60 lbs. I'm still aiming for another 50 to 60 lbs" Then she smirked and said "Well looks like you have a long way to go!!" After she said that she just left.

    I was floored I didn't know what to say and the other lady in there just shook her head and mouthed the words "Are you okay?" I mean do I have the right to be mad?

    That's a premeditated nasty thing to say. Congratulations on your weight loss and good for you, for going to the gym and working on your health and fitness.

    And, really some people have no manners. What business of hers, is any of it? Someone like that, the only response is, "Why do you need to know that?"
  • Sul3i
    Sul3i Posts: 553 Member
    People can be such jerks! Be the bigger person and let her ignorance roll off you're back.. U have done amazing in a short amount of time! Great job!
  • msdarklore
    msdarklore Posts: 1
    60 pounds is awesome congrats....people like that just have to make others feel bad to make themselves feel good....its really quite pathetic....keep up the good work....and yes i believe you have every right to be mad....but remember she is the ugly person inside and thats way worse than any of us could look on the outside
  • maggiemay365
    maggiemay365 Posts: 181 Member
    That used diaper would have smarted if it had smacked her in the back of the head.
    ..Oh that's exactly what I was thinking!! Bravo
  • oliveoil87
    oliveoil87 Posts: 141 Member
    She is jealous!
  • acs4162
    acs4162 Posts: 99 Member
    I doubt she's ever had kids or knows anyone that has. It's not so easy to keep the weight off when you're pregnant with hormones and food cravings and insomnia and exhaustion, etc! It's hard to explain that to someone that hasn't experienced it.
    60 pounds off in 14 months is FABULOUS! Keep up the great work and f*** her! My son is 2.5 and I'm still 5 pounds from my goal.
  • sfoxy219
    sfoxy219 Posts: 103
    Who says that?
    Great job on the first 60 :D
  • Meg177
    Meg177 Posts: 215 Member
    Just weird really. I can't imagine what she would have been thinking. Maybe she just has trouble that way – everybody isn’t skilled socially. Sounds like she’s done that kind of thing before and the other woman had witnessed it. I really would write it off as having nothing to do with you.
  • SnTsMum
    SnTsMum Posts: 90 Member
    Totally rude! I can't believe people can be so mean! Good on you for making the effort to go to the gym! Maybe she was jealous you had such a cute baby!
  • saragato
    saragato Posts: 1,154
    Well first of all it wasn't really her business to know how long you'd been a member or how much weight you've lost, she's another member not a trainer. Secondly it sounds like she was looking to feed her vanity ego by mentally comparing her own weight and fitness level to yours, bonus because you still have a bit to go.

    It's something I know I would've been upset over because no one gets the right to judge my progress. I'm me, they're them. If they have a butt that can crack walnuts and I don't so what, as long as I'm making progress on my goals and am happy with it then that's all that matters. She can take her attitude and use it to clean out her pipes so her head will finally get out her *kitten*.
  • Thesarahmonster
    Thesarahmonster Posts: 44 Member
    Just wait, I bet in 14 months that lady won't even be around and you'll be in there, 60lbs gone, still working hard and bettering yourself!! You've done so well so far, don't let someone with a bad attitude get you down!!!
  • caramkoala
    caramkoala Posts: 303 Member
    That used diaper would have smarted if it had smacked her in the back of the head.
    :laugh:
  • HBL2012
    HBL2012 Posts: 31
    Congrats on your weight loss so far :D amazing!!! and as for that lady, she just sounds like a syuck up *itch, I could never imagine saying that to ANYONE!!!
    I would ignore it.. what a %^*@$* &^%$# grrr
  • Mandypt
    Mandypt Posts: 173 Member
    I would have put the diaper in her locker if she was just rolling in... lol
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    Ok first off...congrats on your WL.

    Second...I really don't think some people have the common sense chip in their brain. She either is a raging ***** or just didn't realize she said something so stupid. Don't let it get to you or permanently mark her as being that way all the time.

    Onward! :)
  • janet6567
    janet6567 Posts: 129 Member
    The "old lady" comment was really rude and offensive. I am 62 and would NEVER say anything like that.
  • jlt1968
    jlt1968 Posts: 77 Member
    Sounds like you have a lot more to be happy about than she does.
  • furrina
    furrina Posts: 148 Member
    socio.
    path.
  • melbaby925
    melbaby925 Posts: 613
    Congrats to you on your progress. That woman has an empathy problem. Too bad the dirty diaper didn't accidentally fall on her and splat open!

    Try not to let her bother you.
  • SwimTheButterfly
    SwimTheButterfly Posts: 265 Member
    I hope you laughed in her face! I call mean old lady comments like that "granny gaming". What a terrible,terrible,terrible person. I agree with Melbaby, too bad the dirty diaper didn't get squashed into her open mouth, by accident of course. :laugh:
  • seizethefray
    seizethefray Posts: 109
    Haters gon' hate.

    But seriously, EW! What a snatch. If she didn't mean it to be cruel (although I can't imagine how anyone could say something like that with positive intentions), just chalk it up to her being the most socially awkward girl in the gym.

    Congrats on your MAJOR accomplishments. :)
  • nicoleeliza4
    nicoleeliza4 Posts: 40
    Wow obviously she's not happy with herself and putting others down makes her feel better. 60 pounds is AMAZING, don't let it get to you!

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