Partners with unhealthy diets

Yeah, my family are snack craved teenagers and wife. What I do is cook along with them and make substitutions for what they are having. For example when they have bacon i get the turkey bacon and only cook 2 slices. If going out I order healthy. My wife is supportive and does insanity with me but not really dieting. She is doing great. I cannot pass a McDonalds, smell it without gaining weight.
Just let him know your goal and hopefully he will support it.

That's tough. And I have always had this problem myself. I find that even though I allow myself a cheat day (not entire weekend), I still lose weight. Would I loose more if I didn't do that? Probably. But the way I see it is....if I don't allow myself those guilty pleasures, then I will fail. We have to let it slide once in a while and eat what we want within reason. I do. I have lose nearly 40 pounds doing so. So don't be so hard on yourself. As long as you arent going on long binges, and you are generally pretty good throughout the week, I think you are going to be just fine. :-)

Last year, I watched what I ate while my boyfriend ate whatever he wanted. We live together, and you can ask anyone, we are inseparable. There was temptation everywhere, but I decided that I was going to stick to it. He ate pizza while watching me do Insanity.

Honestly, there's no good way except to just do it. If you want something bad enough, you will make no excuses. Now the tables are turned and I eat whatever I want and he's trying to lose weight. Oh well...Its on him if he lets temptation get the best of him.

I definitely know how this feels. My husband is small, and he doesn't watch what he eats at all. He loves anything with bacon, as well!

Usually what I'll do with my husband on the weekends (which is usually when I have the worst trouble) is I will be the one cooking the meals. I'll make dinner, and i'll let him have say in some of the things that he eats, but I try to make him eat a little healthier. If he wants chicken, I'll make baked chicken (lightly spiced), and vegetables. I tell him that he doesn't have to eat all the vegetables, but he has to at least eat some of them.

I can't completely tell him what to eat, and how much, but I can make small changes to make his health better. Plus, it makes it easier for me with my eating habits, too!

Have you talked with him in regards to how you feel about all this?

My future hubby is the same way. He could care less how he eats. Thankfully though he supports me and the idea of our son eating like me. This doesn't stop him from bringing in horrible temptations. I pick my battles. It does take a lot of effort to stay strong but there are some things I can't do it with so I had talk with him and asked him to work with me and those certain things keep out. (frozen pizzas was a biggie) and if he is going to have it, hurry up and eat it. Then I tackled my strength with the other things. Now he can have those things that tempt me, when he cooks it I struggle but it helps when I'm already full. So maybe try talking to him and seeing if he can meet you half way and maybe the things that tempt you the most he can enjoy in your absense? And of course always eat before being around bad food. It's still tough but much easier to fight with a full belly!

same story at my house...so, when my hubby eats things that look really good, i'll have a bite or two. just enough to get the flavor and not have the craving. it works really good for us;)

That's tough. And I have always had this problem myself. I find that even though I allow myself a cheat day (not entire weekend), I still lose weight. Would I loose more if I didn't do that? Probably. But the way I see it is....if I don't allow myself those guilty pleasures, then I will fail. We have to let it slide once in a while and eat what we want within reason. I do. I have lose nearly 40 pounds doing so. So don't be so hard on yourself. As long as you arent going on long binges, and you are generally pretty good throughout the week, I think you are going to be just fine. :-)

I agree! I do the same!

I just factor all that stuff into my calorie intake. if I plan on having a big greasy dinner with friends I eat light during the day. some days I save all my calories for beer :drinker:

Yeah, my family are snack craved teenagers and wife. What I do is cook along with them and make substitutions for what they are having. For example when they have bacon i get the turkey bacon and only cook 2 slices. If going out I order healthy. My wife is supportive and does insanity with me but not really dieting. She is doing great. I cannot pass a McDonalds, smell it without gaining weight.
Just let him know your goal and hopefully he will support it.

What he said above. Have healthy alternatives on hand that you can eat or just eat some (a few bites or small serving). Make healthy choices when you can. And you can eat bacon--but only have two strips and balance it out with other healthy options. My husband often makes dinner, which can include things I shouldn't be eating--so I'll make a salad to go along with it and load up on that while having a small serving of the mac n'cheese so he feels like we're still eating together. It's really just about portion control and making good decisions when you can.

I had the exact same problem when my husband and I were dating. We didn't live together so during the week I did fine and then on the weekends I was surrounded by temptation. When we got married and moved in together the temptations were there every day. I do the grocery shopping but I have and will always buy him whatever he asks for (well, within reason and budget). So we always have ice cream in the freezer. I have learned to pick my indulgences and make them fit into my calories for the day/week. Good luck!

This one is easy - He's cooks! Let him cook what he wants for him, and you make what you want for you!

You can also try to make your together time less about eating and drinking and more about things that won't affect your health. This has been hard for me, but we now focus more on what we're doing when we're social vs. where we're eating or drinking.

My husband is terrible! His typical day's food is:
Breakfast: cup of tea (at weekend a cream cookie and two rolls on sliced sausage)
12pm: Multi pack of crisps (normally 6-8), 2 chocolate bars, two munch bunch yoghurts and a carton of ribena!
Dinner: Bowl of his own homemade Macaroni Cheese involves around 5x quantity of pasta I would find a appropriate and half a block of mild cheese.
Snack: Large Bar of Galaxy Chocolate or similar junk.

There is no fruit or vegetables in his diet at all. I don't cook for him as he is such a fussy eater and I eat very little meat and live on fruit and veg. I once asked him to join MFP with me but his daily calories came to between 3000/4000 calories a day. The best part is you would imagine him to be seriously overweight but he isn't although does have a tummy.

I figure we should all be held responsible for our own descisions of what we put in our body and I know if I ate a portion of that I would be very seriously overweight, but some mornings I could kill for his cream cookie lol!

I think I inadvertently found a way to motivate my husband to change: scare him.

I needed my blood pressure reading for a school assignment, so I drug him along with me to a retail pharmacy on Sunday. After watching me (the significantly overweight one) get a normal reading, he took his own out of curiosity. It was very high. Enough to visibly scare him, and he actually went for a short walk with me later that evening, and says he might come again.

The majority of our diet problem comes from increasing the amount we eat out or rely on processed foods. In his case, because he works 55 hours a week and doesn't want to take the time to pack himself a lunch. Me, because I went back to school this semester and am not cooking as often.

My goal starting this week is to find and actually cook healthy things DH and I like four nights a week. The new slow-cooker thread in the recipe section should help.

My husband probably needs to lose more weight than I do - but he doesn't seem to care! He has piled on the pounds since he stopped smoking - we had to buy him a new suit for a job interview last month and the biggest (long) trousers they had are actually 2 inches too small in the waist!

He names his two staple food groups as beer and cheese, and although I try very hard to restrict the supply of these (and crisps, and chocolate biscuits!), if they're in the house they don't last long!!

I do most of the cooking and usually cook in a low-fat way, but he eats HUGE portions - more than double what a "normal" adult would eat.

Part of the issue is his routine - he never eats breakfast (goes to work at 5.30am); comes in from work at about 2.30pm and eats 4 slices of bread, spread with butter, and thickly sliced cheese (first choice!) or a huge quantity of sandwich meat; goes to fetch the kids from school and buys a pasty and/or some chocolate at the corner shop. Eats a massive dinner at about 6.30/7 pm and sits in front of the tv till bed time at 9.30/10pm. He walks several miles a day whilst at work, but does very little other exercise. When you work out his calorie intake, it's a little high, but nothing that an active individual shouldn't be able to work off, but his pattern of eating has his metabolism messed up!

Just to compound the issue, both my kids register as "underweight" and the older one is one medication for ADHD which suppresses appetite, so their meals need to be "calorie laden". Life would be so much easier if one could remove the weight from the parents and transfer it to the children!! (But maybe not all of it!)

Agh I'm in the same situation! My fiance just eats whatever he wants (and has gained weight) while I'm struggling to lose the same weight! I do most of the cooking and grocery shopping so on my days to cook we eat really healthy. It's my days off that things don't well. He rarely cooks and prefers to order in which means - super temptations to order unhealthy or binge on sushi. Unfortunately for me, my body is SUPER resistant to weight loss. I've been encouraging him to go to the gym with me or get healthy (he wants to but isn't ready yet). I can't cook every night (I'll go crazy!) so I've just been trying to lessen the damage when it's his food choice. We had a brunch at home the other day and while he ate tons of them topped with nutella (omg yum), I ate 2 small plain pancakes and had a greek yogurt with honey & blueberries. When I logged it, I was under 400 cals for the meal! It felt great to finally find some balance where I can still eat some bad foods with him, mixed with good ones too!