I lost weight for a guy

SaSSyhasCurls
SaSSyhasCurls Posts: 93
edited December 17 in Motivation and Support
No not me, but that is what my cousin told me on the way she obtain her husband. Is that smart, or is this customary and people just don't talk about it?
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  • Bankman1989
    Bankman1989 Posts: 1,116 Member
    Lose weight for HEALTH REASONS! I mean if that was her motivation to get healthy then it worked. Hopefully she will keep up the lifestyle.
  • TIDDYBEAR
    TIDDYBEAR Posts: 63 Member
    I dont' know......... I was always told that you can't loose weight for somebody else, you have to do it for yourSELF! Although
    my husband LOVES my weight loss, I didn't do it "for" him.
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    No not me, but that is what my cousin told me on the way she obtain her husband. Is that smart, or is this customary and people just don't talk about it?

    Vanity is real.
  • DavetheHYNIC
    DavetheHYNIC Posts: 318 Member
    All those politically correct answer are cool and def loss weight for yourself and your health cause you will feel great , BUT I will say this when you go to the car lot to buy a car, the car is washed, clean inside, New tires and the fluids topped off. If you want a husband be the best YOU you can be. A lot of women out here try being a nickel and want a dime and end up old maids. <jumps off soap box>
  • sublimedoll
    sublimedoll Posts: 17
    The only time that I've ever lost weight "for a guy" was so that I could get skinny and then dump his @$$, which I did =) Then I proceeded to gain it all back about five months later :(
  • taxidermist15
    taxidermist15 Posts: 677 Member
    im gonna get yelled at here,

    but isnt the overall point is that your loosing weight?
    loosing weight means your getting healthy, if that her motivation then whats the problem with that?
    better than not making a change at all

    *this is NOT why im doing it, but i can see her point of view
  • Raiderxx
    Raiderxx Posts: 105 Member
    No not me, but that is what my cousin told me on the way she obtain her husband. Is that smart, or is this customary and people just don't talk about it?

    Vanity is real.

    Couldn't have been said any better!
  • Luandanielle1979
    Luandanielle1979 Posts: 747 Member
    People do whatever they want to do most of the time maybe in years to come you look back and think I shouldnt have done that... But hey this is life and if she has lost weight for her husband good for her as long as she's healthier abd not under weight. :O)
  • Shriffee
    Shriffee Posts: 250 Member
    No not me, but that is what my cousin told me on the way she obtain her husband. Is that smart, or is this customary and people just don't talk about it?

    I was about ten pounds heavier when I married my husband than I was when I met him. This is not customary.
  • sexyrosey
    sexyrosey Posts: 137
    I had already lost like 80lbs but ended but getting into a relationship with a great friend. I don't go to the gym for him but I love when he can see a difference. He has lost a lot too, but this is for me and my health!
  • AUPerry
    AUPerry Posts: 166
    You lose weight for yourself. Point blaaaaank
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I'm losing weight for a guy. I'll take whatever motivation I can get.
  • shodaimetruth
    shodaimetruth Posts: 135 Member
    I know I once tried to lose weight for an ex. An attempt to make her upset over the break up. However, that didn't last long and the efforts. Now that I've made it for myself and to try and be healthy it's actually lasted.

    So, looking at my situation, I would imagine people may try to lose weight for someone and fail. Or they start to lose weight for the person, but then as the efforts start to pay off they stop losing it for them and start to lose it for themselves.

    So yes, it's bad and good. Depending on how it turns out, heh.
  • midnightwhispers
    midnightwhispers Posts: 42
    I've known a few people - male and female - who have lost weight to get the attention of a certain person. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. There was one girl I knew who lost a ton of weight, got with the guy only to slowly gain half of the loss back over the years and he broke up with her because of it. If s/he doesn't want to be with you at your worst than why should they have the pleasure to be with you at your best
  • TheNewDodge
    TheNewDodge Posts: 607 Member
    I'm losing weight for Rahm Emmanuel
  • shirayne
    shirayne Posts: 263 Member
    I think people lose weight and get healthy for a variety of reasons. Case in point: When I got divorced, I proceeded to lose 60 pounds on my own, eating right and exercising. Then I met my current spouse and proceeded to gain 85 pounds in 3 years. Keep in mind this is following a lifetime of yo-yo dieting to please other people (parents, friends, grandparents etc...).

    Notice the trend? I was always doing for reasons other than the most important one: to get healthy.

    Now I'm here and losing the weight for me! This is MY time and I WANT this more than anything. I am tired of seat belt extensions on planes, not being able to keep up with my son, having a sore back, being tired all the time. THAT'S ENOUGH! I want to be healthy... FOR ME! I think it's the only way I'll be able to stick to the lifestyle change.

    My two cents...
  • lik_11
    lik_11 Posts: 433 Member
    I know I once tried to lose weight for an ex. An attempt to make her upset over the break up. However, that didn't last long and the efforts. Now that I've made it for myself and to try and be healthy it's actually lasted.

    So, looking at my situation, I would imagine people may try to lose weight for someone and fail. Or they start to lose weight for the person, but then as the efforts start to pay off they stop losing it for them and start to lose it for themselves.

    So yes, it's bad and good. Depending on how it turns out, heh.

    ^^ This ^^

    I lost weight to show an ex what he was missing. He didn't care....and I gained it all back.

    Now it's for me!!!!
  • Jellyphant
    Jellyphant Posts: 1,400 Member
    I did too for a guy in highschool. Throwing everything up + hardcore working out. Got everyone else's attention BUT his. haha He turned out to be a dumpster fire later on after highschool so its whatever. But I still lost alot of weight, the wrong way. :/
  • Kris0109
    Kris0109 Posts: 177 Member
    I look at the additional attention I get as an added bonus to my triceps.
  • CalJur
    CalJur Posts: 627 Member
    Do it for self. Period. If it benefits you in other areas of your life that is a bonus.
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    I think losing weight for anyone but you is stupid. If a guy didn't like me at my heaviest, he does deserve me and my hot, post weight loss bod.
  • bakerr1975
    bakerr1975 Posts: 64
    Some women do lose weight to attract a guy and vice versa. My first husband was attracted to me because I had a six-pack and the guys were eyeing me. Then I got pregnant (twice) and gained weight, then he left me. I still have the gained weight plus more. My current husband loves me even with all the weight, but I'm "trying" to lose weight for ME!!! Each person has a different idea on how they should look or act to attract the opposite sex. Just be yourself. I was taught that "true beauty" is on the inside.
  • hiker282
    hiker282 Posts: 983 Member
    Not the best reason, now just hope she keeps it off for herself.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    All those politically correct answer are cool and def loss weight for yourself and your health cause you will feel great , BUT I will say this when you go to the car lot to buy a car, the car is washed, clean inside, New tires and the fluids topped off. If you want a husband be the best YOU you can be. A lot of women out here try being a nickel and want a dime and end up old maids. <jumps off soap box>
    agreed
    i think there's a difference in doing it as a way to self improve as opposed as being a way to catch a man, even though the results might often be the same.
  • ckmama
    ckmama Posts: 1,668 Member
    I'm losing weight for 2 guys...one is 9 years old and the other just turned 1....:heart:

    And i do think many many many people lose weight to impress or attract someone whether by request or implied.:wink:
  • thekarens
    thekarens Posts: 254 Member
    All those politically correct answer are cool and def loss weight for yourself and your health cause you will feel great , BUT I will say this when you go to the car lot to buy a car, the car is washed, clean inside, New tires and the fluids topped off. If you want a husband be the best YOU you can be. A lot of women out here try being a nickel and want a dime and end up old maids. <jumps off soap box>

    BS..........................I found my SO as an overweight person. You love the person, not the weight. The weight loss is frosting on the cake. I know plenty of women and men who are overweight and have a "skinny" SO.

    Losing weight so someone will want/like you is stupid. They need to like/love what is inside of you. You should want to get healthy for yourself, because you want to live longer and feel better. It has nothing to do with a PC answer. If you're only losing weight for someone to like/want you eventually you'll resent that person and there won't be any motivation to keep it up.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    I lost weight for a guy too.... ME! People need to do it for all the right reasons.
  • mrschappet
    mrschappet Posts: 488 Member
    but what happens when her motivation leaves.. I mean not saying that her husband will leave her but relatively speaking here. If someone were lose weight to catch a guy or a girl and then it doesn't work out with said guy or girl.. they would probably turn to food for comfort, or they would then start to question what they did wrong. did they not workout hard enough, did they not lose enough weight... or did they lose too much weight. I mean that just messes with your mental state.. Losing weight and getting in shape should always be for yourself and the your health IMO
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    I lost 25lbs back when I was 19 to attract my ex bf...it worked for a while.

    I ended up gaining all 25lbs and more several years later though.

    This time, I have been doing it for ME. I like the strength I feel, not just how I look in my smaller clothes. I actually feel strong and powerful. That's my motivation!
  • Adrienne_bone
    Adrienne_bone Posts: 15
    I think if you lose weight for any reason it's good but I'd be afraid to lose weight just for a guy. If he doesn't like you fat then I'd be scared of what would happen after I had a child and gained baby weight. It'd be stressful to always have to look top shape for someone else but if you do it for yourself then you're more understanding of your circumstances and you understand your gains and losses.
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