Dating on MFP? Why or Why not?

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  • Vixen0113
    Vixen0113 Posts: 78 Member
    Even though I'm not here to find my soulmate I'd love to find someone or a group of people who live close by that would be my workout buddy lol. Or someone we could call and talk to about our life goals or whatnot..Its not such a bad idea
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    There aren't many asian men on here, but if there were and I was single, I might give it a try.

    They have to be asian? What if someone said they'd only date a white man?

    I only date black guys.

    Its called preference, whats the problem with that?? Lol.
  • coachblt
    coachblt Posts: 1,090
    Never crossed my mind to actually date someone from MFP. Hell, I don't even date women from where I live now. Hell...I don't date at all.

    Perhaps I should give it a try. Who knows...there might be someone I could connect with out there. I doubt it, but it could happen.
  • loseweightjames
    loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
    I would! Maybe it would be better than regular dating websites, as both men and women here are trying to lose weight, so I think men would assume maybe I don't have a perfect body (yet).

    I would PREFER someone that doesn't have the perfect body but is working hard to get it! I would LOVE a workout partner!

    Too many times I've fallen for these skinny girls that each McDs all day and flop in front of the TV and never gain a pound. That's not good! They're usually lazy as hell too, whine about walking across a parking lot

    I think a lot of us just fell a bit in love with you... ;)

    Really?

    I'd take a 200 lbs woman that's doing couch to 5k over any playmate that sits on her *kitten* all day

    i can run with the runner, the playmate i'd just ogle.

    i've had the strippers and the cheerleaders. They're a lot of fun, but that's as far as it gets. They're like a roller coaster, fun to ride a few times but you wouldn't want it in your house.
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    Let me know if anyone sees a 30+ year old guy from Ontario, Canada around here... lol!
    Most men on dating sites are kind of creepy with tons of baggage... and a pot belly to match! :laugh:
    I do agree though, common interests and goals is a great way to meet someone :)


    I'll be 31 next week.
  • JodieElijah
    JodieElijah Posts: 136 Member
    Even though I'm not here to find my soulmate I'd love to find someone or a group of people who live close by that would be my workout buddy lol. Or someone we could call and talk to about our life goals or whatnot..Its not such a bad idea

    Ditto :)
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    OP: You are married. You have no business trying to date anyone on MFP or anywhere else.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    For me personally, if you meet someone on here and date them, that's cool.

    It's the people that constantly post about it, or are constantly hitting on others that can get irritating, because they are using MFP primarily as the meat menu and it can be distracting or irritating trying to find fitness topics and having to wade through dating-site topics which on some days can become unruly.
  • itsjustdawn
    itsjustdawn Posts: 1,073 Member
    Absolutely nothing wrong with it!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    And if you're married already you're a tool.
  • Tashry
    Tashry Posts: 151 Member
    If I were single this would be a great place to hook up. You can find someone who is either at your fitness level or who you admire and they can help you achieve better results. If you actually got together you could help keep each other healthy and exercise together. :D

    My guy is always ordering chinese and pizza. I try to resist but it's so good and he always orders some for me so I feel bad when I don't eat it. :(
    He never works out with me and on days I don't feel like it he convinces me to skip it. I wish when I said "man, I really don't feel like working out today." He'd say something like "It wont take that long, at least do half of it." Just something to make me go.

    This is so true. I found myself more motivated to better myself by associating with someone who was doing the same. I went from a home life with a husband who didn't encourage me and only pointed out my flaws, to someone who told me I was beautiful as is but encouraged me to push myself to meet my goals. What a difference that makes!!
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    There aren't many asian men on here, but if there were and I was single, I might give it a try.

    They have to be asian? What if someone said they'd only date a white man?

    Then you'd be called racists. It is a double standard.

    That is crazy talk. How is that a double standard?

    Because if someone is white and prefers to only date white people, idiots would say they are racist...and that's why they don't outside their race. If someone said they only date asians, it somehow isn't racist in the minds those the SAME people that would call someone racist for only dating white people.

    I didn't say I agreed. CALM DOWN. I'm saying it is a double standard.

    Actually my son is mixed and I STILL get called racist.

    I also get called a few other things from white guys that dont approve of my choice.

    yet, I dont really care what anybody thinks. Im attracted too who im attracted to. Lol.
  • leahalissa
    leahalissa Posts: 88 Member
    I've actually dated a few men that have recently transformed themselves, unknowingly. It's nice because they can appreciate what I'm doing. And it certainly is an attractive quality - shows the ability to work towards a long-term goal/commitment, which is severely lacking in so many people lately.
  • fanceegirl75
    fanceegirl75 Posts: 620 Member
    Hmm...I think like any other online social media or one geared towards dating proceed with caution & your eyes wide open. If it works for you great. Go for it! Since there is a common interest of health & fitness that is a great start. If the two are on the same page. Me personally, I would rather meet someone the good ol' fashioned way. Maybe bumping into someone in the grocery store as we reach for the same item. Haa! (yea...what are the chances of that happening?) :drinker:
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    Single.


    And an Equal Opportunity Dater.


    And would date someone I met at the Exxon so long as we have something in common, he doesn't have a TON of baggage and isn't mother fu*ckin crazy....

    :wink:
  • itsjustdawn
    itsjustdawn Posts: 1,073 Member
    There aren't many asian men on here, but if there were and I was single, I might give it a try.

    They have to be asian? What if someone said they'd only date a white man?

    "white" can cover a lot of races.



    It can cover a lot of *nationalities*, as can Asian... But that's not the point - I was just surprised to hear someone say they'd only date one skin colour.

    I only prefer Caucasians. It's a preference thing.
  • cjfitnessme
    cjfitnessme Posts: 97 Member
    Too bad all the women are hot and the men not so! No offence

    none taken.
  • EWAJH
    EWAJH Posts: 22 Member
    I would............
    :smile:
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    If I weren't married maybe....

    There was a couple a couple of years ago that met on here...They are married now with a gorgeous baby girl!!! IT can happen!

    I wont disclose their names for privacy but they are adorable
  • DietingMommy08
    DietingMommy08 Posts: 1,345 Member
    OP: You are married. You have no business trying to date anyone on MFP or anywhere else.

    They are just asking a question.

    Calm down!
  • Kerri_is_so_very
    Kerri_is_so_very Posts: 999 Member
    Now I know some people are not here to meet someone, but what's wrong with meeting someone with a common interest, especially something as motivational as being fit?

    I think it'd be great to meet someone on MFP where I can see that they transformed their body through hardwork and strong will. I've read it transfers over to workplace and school too, that those that lose a lot of weight tend to get higher paying jobs and go further in college. Um, Yes Please! Yes I want someone successful!

    There needs to be a weight-loss dating group. Churches have singles group to meet someone in the same religion as yourself. Other groups have singles groups, why not a weight-loss dating group?

    If there was a part of MFP where you could meet singles and you were looking for someone, is that something you would join?

    EDIT - considering MFP has the largest female membership of any internet website I've seen outside of parenting websites I really wish they did have a dating section. That is something I would pay a few dollars a month to join.

    EDIT2 - someone pointed out there is an entire dating forum for single MFP people -
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/forums/show/299-single-peeps-

    Thanks for posting this!!! I joined right up!!! :drinker: I had no idea this existed, so thanks for getting the word out!
  • Shrinking_Xtina
    Shrinking_Xtina Posts: 478 Member
    It's been my experience you don't need a dating site or atmosphere to meet someone and hit it off to the point where you begin dating. Yeah sure it's easier to know what the intentions are if there's actually a group for it because then you know who's single and willing to give it a go, but it just seems like a lot of pomp in the end. Not saying I'm against the idea because hey everyone works differently on that angle and if it works for them then great, I just wanted to point out that you don't ever really need that sort of setup in order to find someone, and that's just me speaking from personal experience along with knowing other people who met online in other ways than a dating site or any place that encouraged an atmosphere for it.

    This.
  • loseweightjames
    loseweightjames Posts: 360 Member
    OP: You are married. You have no business trying to date anyone on MFP or anywhere else.

    CoryIda - wifey moved out. if you'd stop ignoring my friend requests you'd know that :flowerforyou: :bigsmile:
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    I think it's a great idea. Similar interests/values defined by the fact you're on this site. Call me sexist, though, but I am only interested in women. Who still have a heart beat.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I would! Maybe it would be better than regular dating websites, as both men and women here are trying to lose weight, so I think men would assume maybe I don't have a perfect body (yet).

    I would PREFER someone that doesn't have the perfect body but is working hard to get it! I would LOVE a workout partner!

    Too many times I've fallen for these skinny girls that each McDs all day and flop in front of the TV and never gain a pound. That's not good! They're usually lazy as hell too, whine about walking across a parking lot

    I think a lot of us just fell a bit in love with you... ;)

    Really?

    I'd take a 200 lbs woman that's doing couch to 5k over any playmate that sits on her *kitten* all day

    i can run with the runner, the playmate i'd just ogle.

    i've had the strippers and the cheerleaders. They're a lot of fun, but that's as far as it gets. They're like a roller coaster, fun to ride a few times but you wouldn't want it in your house.

    Swooning here...
  • MelissaT81
    MelissaT81 Posts: 123 Member
    Sure why not. There is already a common interest/goal. It would be great to find someone to share it with, eating healthy and working out. I did not sign up to meet someone but to better myself and if in that process i find someone who would like to join me and be supportive then I'm all for it.
  • kimber0607
    kimber0607 Posts: 994 Member
    Mmmm?

    and just for the record I totally do NOT want a David Beckham look-a-like that is naturally cut and eats crap..no no no!
    heinous idea...bad bad bad
    :ohwell: :ohwell: :indifferent:
  • rammsteinsoldier
    rammsteinsoldier Posts: 1,552 Member
    Too bad all the women are hot and the men not so! No offence

    I totally disagree. There a plenty of hot men on MFP. My male friends are all handsome and great guys. Love them all!!!!!
  • kimber0607
    kimber0607 Posts: 994 Member
    Too bad all the women are hot and the men not so! No offence

    I totally disagree. There a plenty of hot men on MFP. My male friends are all handsome and great guys. Love them all!!!!!
    running to check your friends list..LOL
  • tashaa1992
    tashaa1992 Posts: 658 Member
    I think it's as good an idea as any, I mean you'd have almost the same goals.. to get into or maintain your fitness levels right? I believe everyone has someone they're meant to be with and meeting someone on here is just the same as meeting someone at a club, except there'd be no embarrassing cheesy lines and you wouldn't jump straight into bed within five minutes of meeting. Okay well it takes a little longer than that but you know what I'm saying lol. I'm here to give and gain support through my recovery, that was my most important thing but along the way I've started to make friends too which is always nice, especially for someone who finds making friends difficult. I would love to have the same goals, or near enough, as someone I'm with because if we had a future together, there would be no issues with food and exercise. Like my ex used to say when we have children, he'd let them eat whatever they wanted, and yes I know moderation is key but eating sweets all day will only rot your teeth, ruin your skin and your health, this is completely not what I wanted for my children. Everyone needs proper norishment, and adults can do this for themselves but children rely on their parents or carers for this as they can't fend for themselves. I've gone completely off track, oops sorry! So in answer to your question, I think I would yes lol.

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