Couples who love together?
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Yea, I just poke fun at him when he eats the last of something so he feels a little guilty. :bigsmile: We go to Sam's Club every two weeks and spend a couple-hundred bucks and split it halfway. It's not incredibly expensive and we don't really keep track of who eats more because it's obvious that my bf does. So he usually will go buy flavored waters or something from the local grocery.0
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When you go to a restaurant and you both order the same thing...does he pay more if he eats his entire meal and you don't????0
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we usually buy our own veggies and food. he is pretty happy with his basic tuna pita for lunch nd dinner everyday... oh hell no i couldnt do that. although his groceries are much less expensive than mine.. dammit.0
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We do our own grocery shopping, for the most part. We do split the cost of meat and pasta (the only things we share, I think), and he eats more than I do, but it's fairly insignificant in the long run.0
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When you go to a restaurant and you both order the same thing...does he pay more if he eats his entire meal and you don't????
No, one of us pays and it's kind of a present for the other. Not a systematic increase in living expenses. And I actually do think that splitting evenly is probably the best way to do it. But it does strike me as interesting and so I was curious how people handle it. Splitting groceries evenly will actually prob be cheaper for me because we stay at my house more than his now.0 -
ummmm....yeah.....of course.
I could eat more if I wanted, if you are in a relationship then that is the most nit picking question I have ever heard, if you are sharing with a flat mate, then you need to do your own shop and keep food separately if you feel that aggrieved.0 -
What about when one is a vegetarian and the other one not? Splitting 50/50 or not?0
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My guy (when home) eats ridiculous amounts but I always do the food shop. When he's home i spend twice as much but I don't really care. We pay for different things and I don't keep count0
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pretty much split. fairest way to do it. means i have to spend a fortune on his biscuts though!0
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do you make him pay more for gas because he weighs more than you?
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I guess it depends on the level of your relationship. I am engaged ( getting married this year) and we have been living together for 2 years. We pool all of our money so its not like one person pays for this and one pays for that. We share it all0
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im married but when we lived together just dating we shared everything, what was mine was his and what was his was mine. he was my boyfriend, not my roommate...0
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Nope... We've been together 3 years and have the same bank account (combined them at 6 months in) so he "pays" but it's both of our money. And I make more money than him.. but I dont care.0
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If this is an issue for you know I'm sad to say that looks like this relationship is doomed. You can't look at everything under a microscope just go with it or get out you can't change a person. I think this is such a minor issue.0
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Yes, we do anyway. My bf eats enough for three people (I'm not kidding and he doesn't gain weight, he just has a super fast metabolism) but I have food allergies so some of my 'specialty' foods are expensive, I figure it evens out in the end. Even if it doesn't he picks up the slack when we eat out or its time to pay rent. If you're in it together and one person isn't a complete mooch just assume that even if the food bill doesn't seem fair it's balanced out in other areas of your life together.0
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No, I pay for all groceries in our house. He does eat most of them, but he pays for more things than I so it works out.0
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ummmm i eat more than he does but only because i make proper meals where as he just eats pasta or beans on toast or i cook him dinner at work! i eat 5 meals a day the other 2 being snacks so i need more food but i generally eat more food than he does he just eats more junk and then complains about his potbelly and why the gym isn't shifting it! but i generally pay for all the food and he buys whatever else he needs, its only fair when he pays the rent and i just pay the bills tbh!0
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We pool our household expenses and groceries fall under that, generally we both contribute the same amount, but if one of us is short the other will pick up the slack (and we dont keep track of that for future referene lol) or if say I want something special for a work snack i will just go buy it myself because it's not for us it's just for me.0
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we split food costs pretty evenly. we take turns buying groceries and about 70 percent of the food is always mine. :x0
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Hmmm, I've had similar thoughts - I'm trying to lose weight, and my partner is a powerlifter who eats about 4000 calories a day :-S We just tend to take it in turns to buy the groceries, every other week. I just shove a bottle or two of nice wine in the shopping cart ( he doesn't really drink) and my body lotion/shampoo/conditioner, etc (he's more the wash and go type) - all evens out!0
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If this is an issue for you know I'm sad to say that looks like this relationship is doomed. You can't look at everything under a microscope just go with it or get out you can't change a person. I think this is such a minor issue.
Agreed! I had a friend who was with her guy for 5 years before they got married. I was over at their place for a girls night out and they were talking about the money he paid for some concert tickets and she said something about paying him back... I just looked at them both and said "You STILL haven't combined your bank accounts? You've been married for almost a year now!" Yeah... I knew they wouldn't be together much longer... and now (not even a year later!) they are getting a divorce.0 -
Before we were married, he gave me roughly 1/2 of his share of the bills, which included food. I adjusted his according (I made 2 times as much).. so its always been fair.0
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It's funny because I'm a feminist, but me and my bf have a real old fashioned sexistish relationship when it comes to money :L
We don't live live together, but he's here 5 days a week, and I do all his cooking/cleaning/laundry while he's here - including paying for groceries for him (and they are specific to him, like pizza/pasta - cheap high cal foods I don't eat). And in return he takes me out places for dinner n stuff (:
It's not a strict system, I don't get mad at him if he doesn't take me out one week, and he doesn't get mad at me if I'm running low on money and he has to chip in for groceries.
We don't worry too much about it because we know neither of us is trying to rip the other off, we want to share equally (:0 -
nope... we pool the money and resources together to get what we need. I have control of the kitchen except on nacho night... and most of the time it doesnt matter as long as we stay in budget for groceries.0
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He makes me do most of the shopping but then complains about the things I buy. He's very easy to satisfy though. He survives on white rice, pork chops, and seasonings like adobo and sazon. All are very cheap. So I get the good split of the grocery money :bigsmile:0
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My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year. I pay for 90% of the groceries and he pays the mortgage. He makes more than me and my name isn't on the deed. He usually pays most of the bills but I pay some too. We fill up each other's gas tanks if we borrow the car and I usually end up buying the household supplies. I will pay for our 10K sign up and he will buy me a concert ticket. It really doesn't matter that much to either of us, as long as we are paying our bills and getting things done, we are happy to help out where we can. And he knows that he makes a lot more than I do, so he pays for more. But we never calculated a "fair split" or anything.0
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All money is communal, more like a marriage than anything else, so yup, we split it. Whe I shop for food, I buy more of his stuff, but that's just because he's pickier, so he usually chooses the food, since I don't care.0
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If this is an issue for you know I'm sad to say that looks like this relationship is doomed. You can't look at everything under a microscope just go with it or get out you can't change a person. I think this is such a minor issue.
Agreed! I had a friend who was with her guy for 5 years before they got married. I was over at their place for a girls night out and they were talking about the money he paid for some concert tickets and she said something about paying him back... I just looked at them both and said "You STILL haven't combined your bank accounts? You've been married for almost a year now!" Yeah... I knew they wouldn't be together much longer... and now (not even a year later!) they are getting a divorce.
I completely disagree with this. Some people (myself and my fiancé included) just prefer separate bank accounts. Different things work for different people.0 -
Well, my bf and I have been together over nine years. In the beginning three to four years I was a full time student and didnt have a job so he paid for everything while I went to school. About three years ago we got pregnant and during my pregnancy he got laid off. We decided it would be better for him to be a SAHF because I have a great high paying job. It costs alot for childcare here so if he got another job (hard thing to do in this economy in Hawaii) the cost to hire childcare for an infant would be almost as much as he would make! We decided he would stay home a year and we could get childcare after that because its cheaper after the baby turns one here. Well, we ended up getting pregnant again! So for the past three years he has been a SAHF and I pay for all our expenses. BUT, we have been together so long and combined our money (whats his is mine, whats mine is his) that no one keeps track of anything and he has full access to the the money if and when he wants to use it to buy something. I love this arrangement because I dont have to worry about our babies and can encourage him to use this freetime to go back to school and finish a degree. Sometimes, he says he feels like he is not a "man" and doesnt feel okay with the fact that he isnt earning an income but I think he has a much more important job raising two babies at the moment and will have the rest of his life to work his butt off (he just made 33). I also say since he took care of me the first few years, karma has stepped in and reversed the roles!0
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If this is an issue for you know I'm sad to say that looks like this relationship is doomed. You can't look at everything under a microscope just go with it or get out you can't change a person. I think this is such a minor issue.
Agreed! I had a friend who was with her guy for 5 years before they got married. I was over at their place for a girls night out and they were talking about the money he paid for some concert tickets and she said something about paying him back... I just looked at them both and said "You STILL haven't combined your bank accounts? You've been married for almost a year now!" Yeah... I knew they wouldn't be together much longer... and now (not even a year later!) they are getting a divorce.
I completely disagree with this. Some people (myself and my fiancé included) just prefer separate bank accounts. Different things work for different people.
agrreed^^
weve been together going on 7 years now. not even thinking about marriage or anything, cause its jst nto the type of people we are. I work away (away for two weeks, and home for one), if we split our food bill, then well, id be paying for the majority of the food im not consuming. HOWEVER, i dont this reflects anything about about the status of our relationship or that we are DOOMED to fail in our relationship. Both of us are extremely independent people and that's just how its is. everybody is different. we dont nit pick over certain things (if he paid for the movies, then its my turn next), but if i borrow $5 , he doesnt expect it back, and its the same with me in return. we help each other out when we need it, but my money is still my money and his money is his. It also emans when he wants to go out and buy something stupid and blow his cash.. i cant say anything. and it works 0
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