Passive aggressive much?

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  • BurkeshireFarms
    BurkeshireFarms Posts: 45 Member
    Time to put someone's favorite remote in a lock box chained to a cinder block.

    Or you could just suspend their golf clubs in the highest tree.
  • tabulator32
    tabulator32 Posts: 701 Member
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  • Alexstrasza
    Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
    Sometimes family does some messed up stuff with good intentions. I don't know how your relationship is with your folks but maybe they thought they were helping you by doing it.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I want to know the rest of this story!
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    We padlock the fridges at the school I work at.. Otherwise the kids would be stealing things left and right.

    To have family padlock it though... geeze. Tell them all to f-off and go about your business.. if they want to act like children, then treat them as such!
  • coconutbuNZ
    coconutbuNZ Posts: 578 Member
    I have three sons. They eat everything in sight (which is really good for my goals, how can I overeat if there's nothing left?). Sometimes I have felt like padlocking the fridge just so I can save some money! But I wouldn't have the heart to do that, no. If the food runs out then so be it. We always manage somehow.
  • herownkindofwonderfull
    herownkindofwonderfull Posts: 307 Member
    bump to hear the outcome!
  • DalexD
    DalexD Posts: 236 Member
    Bump! Want to know the rest!
  • prism6
    prism6 Posts: 484 Member
    ok, if this is a group of people sharing space, there needs to be a 'community' mtg. to voice concerns. If this is a signifigant other,then they have control issues and I would have trouble controlling myself....could it be a mean spirited joke?
  • joankpoirier
    joankpoirier Posts: 281 Member
    Oh you had better believe you sweet patootie I would be PEE'D OFF
  • joankpoirier
    joankpoirier Posts: 281 Member
    LOVE IT!!
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  • JamieDoane
    JamieDoane Posts: 9
    Call a famillly meeting and ask what's going on. Then maybe you'll have some answers to your situation and you can make decisions on what you should do.
  • Kirsty_UK
    Kirsty_UK Posts: 964 Member
    bump because I want to know the result of this!

    can't believe they didn't talk to you about it
  • slyder432
    slyder432 Posts: 475 Member
    Simple...buy your own little college fridge. Put it in your room. Keep your healthy food in it and dare someone to mess with it.

    Problem solved.

    Still have the WTH talk though!!
  • izzydino
    izzydino Posts: 254 Member
    :grumble: Not liking this:grumble:
  • Tink_889
    Tink_889 Posts: 244 Member
    Oh bless you. That would really upset me.
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    *waiting to hear the end of the fridge saga*
  • MrsLVF
    MrsLVF Posts: 787 Member
    I have three sons. They eat everything in sight (which is really good for my goals, how can I overeat if there's nothing left?). Sometimes I have felt like padlocking the fridge just so I can save some money! But I wouldn't have the heart to do that, no. If the food runs out then so be it. We always manage somehow.

    :smile:I know the feeling, that's why I have a mini fridge in my bedroom, so when I buy strawberries I can actually have some, before the kids eat them all.
  • Lozze
    Lozze Posts: 1,917 Member
    I'd be moving out.

    Me too. All the **** my parents gave me, they never did this. I'd be waking up the house in a FURY.
  • BaileyKat52
    BaileyKat52 Posts: 461 Member
    bump....want to hear the explanation for this.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    Thanks, all! I help provide food and we have community food. I live at home with my parents so I'm not sure what the deal is.... They know how sensitive I am, so I don't think it's a joke. The only thing I can think of is that me and my parents are the only ones in this house who pay for food! Maybe they did it so that food doesn't go so fast. I just wish they'd have said something so I wouldn't feel depressed and angry over this. I'm not gonna let this derail all my good efforts!

    Rather than being depressed and angry, why not simply ask why it's there? Strange as it may seem, there may be a logical explanation.

    If the explanation is as you suspect, buy a dorm fridge, put it in your own space (bedroom, whatever), and keep your food there. You're doing great on the weight loss, you don't need "help", especially demeaning help like that. But it might not have been intended that way, and it might be there for a different reason.

    And, as others have said, if you have the means and opportunity, it might be time to explore living in your own space.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    I'm not sure how to say this politely, and it's not meant to be rude, but...

    If you look up "passive-aggressive" in the dictionary, there has to be something about having an issue with someone you are close to and complaining to everyone BUT them about it. You aren't helping things getting yourself riled up about it, tempesting an Internet teapot over it, and not talking to them about it. You're getting upset without finding out whether you SHOULD be upset.

    Talk to them about it. Calmly, clearly, and now. Sit down with them over a cup of tea and ask, politely, why the lock is there. If the explanation is because they think you need help with weight loss, point out that you ARE losing weight and are on a path that is working, and explain that it upsets you and risks the plan that you, as an independent individual, are working on.

    If the explanation is anything else, work it out like adults. Don't get angry. Work it out.

    If both of you go passive-aggressive, things can get ugly very fast. I've seen relationships end in very nasty ways when neither will talk TO the other and they both do passive-aggressive things like talk ABOUT the other to everyone else (or on Internet forums).
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    I'd move out.
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Bump!
  • snarky
    snarky Posts: 262 Member
    Honey - don't take crazy personally.

    Great line! I wish I had learned THIS growing up!!
  • tbetts23
    tbetts23 Posts: 303 Member
    bump
  • rchambers2072
    rchambers2072 Posts: 227 Member
    Want to hear the end of this too! I would pissed!
  • geckofli
    geckofli Posts: 155 Member
    Wow that's nutso, what a weird thing to do
    I'd be tempted to unplug it before I went out shopping for my own little bar fridge
  • DSCLBD
    DSCLBD Posts: 40
    When we were kids our fridge had a padlock on it ... I always thought it was because there were 5 kids and no money ... talking to mum about it a couple weeks ago when I joked about putting a lock on the fridge to keep my 2 year old from getting into it and saying how it was such a good idea when we were kids, she was horrified that is what we thought ... the hinge broke on the door and the only thing holding it on was the padlock :laugh:

    Sometimes things are not as they seem ;)

    But if it is what it looks like then just know they are douche bags !!!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    When we were kids our fridge had a padlock on it ... I always thought it was because there were 5 kids and no money ... talking to mum about it a couple weeks ago when I joked about putting a lock on the fridge to keep my 2 year old from getting into it and saying how it was such a good idea when we were kids, she was horrified that is what we thought ... the hinge broke on the door and the only thing holding it on was the padlock :laugh:

    Sometimes things are not as they seem ;)

    But if it is what it looks like then just know they are douche bags !!!

    That's too funny!

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