Secret Dieting

That is because dieting does not work. Overhaul your life, the way you eat / see food and you will see results. Food is not the enemy. Add exercise and learn to love it (find an exercise program that keeps you interested). It is all about your mindset.

I think most of us have been there. Some newbies are still there. But once you stop seeing eating/exercising as a chore or diet, it will be second nature. You just have to find what works for you. Good luck :flowerforyou:

I agree, I don't tell people I am on a diet, I just say I have changed my eating habits.

I am not telling many people. My hubby and bff and 2 other people "know". it's been 3 weeks for me and I keep thinking, this feels different. When people ask, I'm gonna tell them about my hard work.

Good job on 8 weeks!

After so many failed attempts at dieting over the years, my mom doesn't believe I'm going to stick with this. She constantly asks my fiance'(who is also eating healthy) if we want to come over for burgers, go out to eat mexican, etc. She also never forgets to tell me "yeah you're looking good, but make sure to keep it up this time." I know it's my fault for causing her to doubt me, but it's getting verrryyy annoying. I understand how you are feeling.

I used to tell people I would 'diet' when I was planning to change my eating habits, eating healthier etc.
the responses I got were either pessimistic from the start or overly helpful! You can't really enjoy yourself if you have one or two friends constantly watching you and asking you "Can you eat that? Aren't you watching your weight?"

This time I around, I've been telling people (if they ask) that I'm changing my entire eating habits and lifestyle. I'm not dieting - this is forever! It seems to keep people away from being overly judging. They're mostly impressed and supportive. The few that are already saying I can't do it can just go to.. some really notnice places.

Oh boy, I have a friend who told me right to my face that I'm going to fail because I've made too many quick changes. She also has been trying to get me to eat all of the unhealthy foods that she enjoys. I guess some people THINK they aren't strong enough to make a lifestyle change to benefit their health so they have to try and stop others who are making that change.

Does anyone else struggle with feeling like you're being judged everytime you quit/restart your diet? Do you keep quiet on your eating habits to avoid "should you be eating THAT" and similar comments? Did it work for you?

I never tell people any more when I change my eating habits (lets not use the 'd' word ) It drives me NUTS when people comment on my food choices and this way I can just get on with it without anyone passing judgement/offering advice, etc.

I've been doing MFP since august of 2010 and I STILL get those stupid comments! Grrr! "Can you eat that on your diet?" "Are you gonna put that in your food diary?" Makes me nuts. Of course the answer is always a gentle smile and "yes, I will log it" and "it's not a diet, I can eat whatever I want as long as it fits in my calories for the day". There are people who refuse to believe I didn't give up stuff. I never told these people I was "dieting" but with success came all the "how did you do it?!""What's your SECRET?!" questions.

I tell those closetst to me (and those that i know will be supportive) so they can hold me accountable. But co-workers, acquaintances, everyday joes....none of their business! Good luck!

Does anyone else struggle with feeling like you're being judged everytime you quit/restart your diet? Do you keep quiet on your eating habits to avoid "should you be eating THAT" and similar comments? Did it work for you?

I never tell people any more when I change my eating habits (lets not use the 'd' word ) It drives me NUTS when people comment on my food choices and this way I can just get on with it without anyone passing judgement/offering advice, etc.

I can't stand when someone says dumb stuff. I drink diet soda because I like it and hate regular soda so I get, "oh you're on a diet?" Comments when I order it or buy it.

A former boyfriend of mine was a pro tennis player. Obviously VERY fit and if he had a soda before a match it was diet because he didn't want the sugar (he gave me a much better explanation, but of course I don't remember it now) so there are perfectly valid reasons for drinking sugar-free that don't include counting calories.

So on and off for the past 10 years I've tried many different diets. Each time announcing to friends and family that this is the time. I get going hard and fast and burn out within a week. Then I get frustrated, everyone is asking me about my diet and I have to shamefully tell them I've quit because it was too hard.

Well this time I'm dieting in secret. I want to avoid the embarassment of having tell everyone I've failed again. I'm just eating healthier, smaller portions, exercising when no one is around and wearing the same clothes. This Friday will mark 8 weeks that I've been on the ball. New habits have been formed and I think its getting easier the longer I do it. I'm hoping I can stick with it this time and finally get down to a healthy weight.

Does anyone else struggle with feeling like you're being judged everytime you quit/restart your diet? Do you keep quiet on your eating habits to avoid "should you be eating THAT" and similar comments? Did it work for you?

I used to. Now I simply tell people who comment on what I'm eating that it's NOYB, because it isn't. They then say stupid stuff like "I'm only trying to help," but they clearly are not. If people comment on my weight loss, I thank them. If they ask what I've done, I tell them. Otherwise, I don't "advertise" what I'm eating.

I didn't tell my mom until I'd lost 30 lbs. She actually gave me a pretty good boost when I did, she worked at Curves for about 5 years, helping every woman in town weigh themselves. When I told her I had gotten up to 230 she said "No...I NEVER would have thought you were that big." She also walked 5 miles a day from as early as I can remember until the last few years (she just turned 74 and has started slowing down a tiny bit) and I call her frequently when I'm out walking just to let her know I'm thinking about her. My losing weight and working on it is helping bring us together, she hasn't even critiqued my eyeliner once! (a common trend when I was a teenager)

I am however working with my fiance to keep each other accountable on working out (him at the gym after work, me in the mornings with c25k or walking and evenings with random things I feel like doing, like yoga if I feel tight, weights or calisthenics if I feel like it...on a side note...I never thought in my life I would "feel like" doing crunches.) and we check up on each other on our eating habits. We make sure we're both eating enough, and not too little, on average, and making healthy choices when we can. It'll be a little easier to do that when he swaps to MFP.

When I hit the 30 lb mark, which was also getting back under 200 lbs, I was pretty darn excited about it. I told quite a few of my friends. It had been so easy, so I wanted to share. My excitement was kinda contagious, so I've gotten 2 started on working out and tracking their food on here. I've got a few more friends who are thinking about it, which is pretty gosh darn cool. I've been trying to help my friends get how it works, making healthier choices with their calorie allotments (yes, you could drink icy tea all day, but....) and why they need to hit their calorie goals, not eat way under them. They're getting it, so it is extra rewarding when they take off weight. I think they've all matured enough to the point where they understand there is no magic bullet, and watching your calories and building muscle is the way to go.

This is the story of my life.

Many times i have told my family and friends that im finally going to get serious about loosing weight and then life just throws me a bunch of unavoidable events and because of it i get stressed out and then i tend to fail on my weight loss journey.

I too have decided to just keep loosing weight and getting healthy to myself so then im not acting like "the boy who called wolf".

I find this way then you dont have as much pressure on your back for having to complete what you told everyone you were going to do.