Husband & Family Support???

augghhhh... and I thought my hubby was the only sabotaging partner... he definitely likes thinner women... in fact, when I was 132lbs over 2 years ago he became a little jealous and over protective. He would see me looking at shoes and clothes and actually insist I get them... but right now at my current weight of 167lbs he doesn't say anything (which says a lot if you know what I mean) but not only that... he will buy me treats as a "surprise"... he will come home with krispy kreme donuts, chocolate covered strawberries, and just last night he got me a red velvet cup cake! Just the cup cake with a whole half a cup of cheese cream frosting was 490 cals! :grumble: Just like it was mentioned above... he doesn't shove it down my throat... but it's hard to see it and not want to eat it.. plus my upbringing was "don't waste food, eat it all, there are people starving around the world" so I hate to waste/throw out food. In fact, the red velvet cupcake is right next to me at the computer... with about 20% of it bitten off

My husband is the same, with the not saying anything. He's right into gym himself, but made a comment a couple of weeks that has been playing on my mind. Even though he is supportive, I think it's only surface support eg, commenting and encouraging me on fb status updates etc. But when it comes down to it, he's holding back. His latest his complaining about me having my nose buried in my diet and exercise journal or on my phone doing my diary on here for the that day and the next. I also get the 'surprises' or asks what we're having for dinner, tell him, then get asked later on if I want him to pick up xyz for dinner.

I think it's insecurity on his behalf, and i don't play into it. If anything else it spurs me on to become better each day.

My hubby recently went to Switzerland and came home with 5 1kg chocolate bars!!! Ummmmmmmmmm..... No! But he said I know you love it... True..., but .... you don't want to know what is left of the chocolate... NOTHING. :-(

A dozen or so years ago during my WW journey, I had the best support ever from my spouse. He had some weight to lose, but didn't want anything to do with joining with me for his health...but greatly supportive of my efforts. I respected his choice and he respected mine.

After 50 lbs. down at a nice healthy weight, several months later, a new wardrobe, compliments from all directions, and most importantly a renewed confidence, I'm sure now that he was second guessing the support. I never saw it at the time. Looking back to those days, he seemed to tire of my new found confidence and the compliments, although in public he would praise my efforts to friends and family. Outwardly, he has never possessed a jealous bone in his body. He's never been that way. We've been together a LONG time, think decades.

For me, WW was the best program ever for me, and I never blame the program but MYSELF for letting some of that weight come back now. Over the last few years, I underwent some physical health issues, a couple of key broken bones and became a couch potato of my own doing, so I need to get back on track now. I'm 20 lbs. up and escalating daily, stomach has turned into an apple, what I had for an *kitten* has disappeared, and I detest my jiggly flab, due to no exercise, so now it's time for me to take charge again and feel as good as I once did.

Now on my seriously delayed 2nd round, hopefully having the same support, I find an almost excessive amount of trigger foods coming through the door, and he loves cooking and all of a sudden he will LOAD, and I mean LOAD! my plate. I put my foot down there with a smile, as in "Great looking meal! I appreciate you fixing my plate and cooking that great meal, but I can manage." If I exercise with DVD's, he sometimes mocks my moves. I said "C'mon, YOU can try this!", while I smile.

You know what? I am still plugging away, and I can't let his shift in attitude sabotage my efforts. I am not posting this for any advice whatsoever, but more in being aware of the psychological effects this can sometimes have around the people we love. Some are supportive (been there) and some are not (going there I think). I'm pretty sure he prefers me heavy and (un) comfortable, like he is and he doesn't want to see that outward confidence return.

If you have a problem with it? That's not my problem. I am determined and I will do this! I will fix my own plate, I will do exercises the best I can do as I see fit (pun intended) and I may just take all those chips and chocolate and shove them in the pantry way to the back. You can knock your socks off eating all of that, hon, but this girl is taking charge again, whether you like it or not! And if you care to join me? I would love this! If not, that's your decision and I respect that. Just respect me and my decision to become healthy again.