Husbands that sabotage.

:grumble: hmmmmph!

me, i would package it up for lunches for myself for the week, and when he decides he's hungry tell him he's on own to figure out what to eat...but that's just me :bigsmile:

hey....
Dont feel bad...mcdonalds and taco bell....think this way let him eat ..........now and you eat your healthy snacks..and loose weight..there will be time when he needs to diet and you can adjust some of mcdonald and tac bell so think in a long run dear....and dont be mad.....

you are doing just fine.

Tell him since he can find his breakfast , and his lunch, then why not keep going and make his own dinner?
my DH is on his own, if he doesnt want to eat what I make, your on your own. I Am not a chef.

I'd package it up to be meals for the next couple of days. and let him figure it out on his own.

I know how you feel...the main thing that makes me angry in situations like that is that he didn't even consider dinner when he was making all those fast food choices. If i know i'm having a specific dinner that night, i'll work my other meals around that during the day. buuuut we are women, and we def think much different than men. mine will eat doughnuts about an hour before dinner and i'll make sure to stare him down when we're eating...just to make sure he eats everything i made for him, haha. Good Luck!

He probably didn't realize that he'd be full. I don't know...I don't think I'd get so angry about it. Sorry.

I agree with that statement. Most of the time guys don't really think ahead. They think in the moment and don't really think that they may not be hungry for dinner if they eat lunch now. I would keep it for yourself for lunch and dinner tomorrow or give it him for dinner tomorrow like everyone else said. Its not that big of a deal, its just food Thank god for fridges and freezers!!

Yup, I totally agree with with this advice, and with Brenda's. (the OTHER Brenda that is! :laugh: )

Umm I would tell him to go *kitten* himself.

But then again I'm not married.

There's no need to discuss his fat *kitten* eating habits. Tell him to stop wasting your family's money on fast food when he could make himself a sandwich everyday. And tell him to have respect for his wife by either eating the dinner you prepare or having the decency to tell you he's too hungry so you can jsut fix yourself a salad.

When I get angry like that I write it down and put it away. It gets it out, and doesnt start WWIII

My husband does the same thing, but now he knows better. He at least try to eat a little bit after I spoke to him about the example he's setting for the kids. When he knows he's going to have a big lunch he tells me not to cook that night or make something light.

Yes... it is all about the communication !!

I appreciate all you answers! Thing is, though, that he specifically asked me to make him this specific meal for dinner tonight, so I spent a good hour preparing it. AND he had agreed to clean up his diet LAST NIGHT and that he would no longer eat garbage. I want to go all Kate Gosselin on his *kitten*, but I'm just keeping it in right now. Argh.

Vent as you need to here - some of us has experienced the same kinds of things. Just curious, if he is going to start eating better too, is he going to create an account on here? Maybe that would help you both have a common ground and he'd be more supportive. I know it's so much easier to fight this weight loss battle when your spouse is going through it with you.

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How am I supposed to feel when my husband comes home from work, and I find out that he had McDonalds for breakfast and Taco Bell for lunch, and he's still too full to eat the dinner he asked me to prepare!? WTF. How am I supposed to feel? What am I even supposed to say to that? I'm so angry right now that I'm tempted to throw this food in his face.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!

:mad: :explode: :mad: :explode: :angry

You have to go to my photos to see what mine did to me today.

I had just gotten started on the treadmill and he walked in front of me and I had him stay there till I snapped the pic. His sense of humor

I'm sorry but I don't get what the big deal is. If he doesn't want to eat its called left overs for a reason.

I also don't get why when people start changing their diets they feel the urge to get everyone around them doing it too! Why is that?
I am doing this on my own my husband still eats the same stuff as he did before it doesn't phase me and he is a fast food junkie he is lucky to be able to eat that crap and not gain but me on the other hand can't do it and I don't expect him to give it up for me.

Or do you have them do it so you aren't tempted? Which again has to do with a persons own willpower. Because temptations are out there. I have a cabinet full of junk food in my house but its my willpower that keeps me from sticking my hand in the cookie jar.

I don't know I just don't get it. It's not as hard as many try to make it out to be.

First off, I made a meal specifically for him so I didn't cook a meal just to call it leftovers. Second, when you get married, you become a team. We're both overweight and we both need to get in shape so unlike your husband, mine can't eat all the crap he wants. I'm not trying to control him, nor am I tempted by the garbage he eats. We both came to an agreement that we both need to get heathly and that we need to do this together, because we got fat together. I care about his health, and I don't want him to drop dead from a heart attack. I'm sorry, but this isn't all about me. It's about the people I love too.

So I'm sorry you don't 'get it', but it IS harder than it seems. At least that's what everybody else on this board feels, otherwise we wouldn't be here spilling out every issue, problem, or concern known to man that we have.

Hi Patty.... I understand where you're coming from and while I have no idea if what I'm gonna say will be helpful or not I'm throwing it out here anyway. :laugh: I think we can agree that him asking you to prepare a special dinner and then not being hungry for it is, at best, him not thinking. I'm sure it wasn't intentional but of course your feelings are hurt because you went to this trouble and now he doesn't seem to be appreciative...

You mentioned that you both are trying to lose weight and get healthy. Then he goes and "sabotages" himself with McDonalds and Taco Bell. You also mentioned being worried about his health. I totally understand where you're coming from because my husband is diabetic and can hardly be trusted to take his insulin regularly let alone eat properly or exercise. His doctor flat out told him if he didn't change his ways he was GOING TO DIE. We have a 6 yr old and a 4 yr old so imagine how I felt sitting in that room hearing his doctor use those words. Now it's been a couple of years and he's done exactly NOTHING to change his situation. I scream, yell, prepare special food, beg, plead, throw away junk, everything I could think of to SAVE HIM FROM HIMSELF! and lose a few pounds myself. Nothing worked. Until....

I finally decided to leave him alone and told him that not only was I going to prepare for his death but I was going to take care of myself so our kids would have at least one parent. I think he thought I was kidding! :grumble: I started being more aware of what we were eating and he could choose to come up with lunch from what I bought (90% healthy stuff) and eat what I cooked for dinner (or he was on his own). I also started doing the couch to 5K program. Wasn't but a few weeks as the inches are flying off and I'm happier than I've been in a LOOOONG time (endorphins and all that I suppose lol) that he starts taking notice. Now he's running with me and is already feeling 100% better.

I know every relationship is different but for me when I finally stopped yelling at my husband and started just being freaking awesome while he's sitting on the couch eating potato chips that's when he decided he wanted to change... however it goes for you I wish you the best of luck and know that your MFP friends have your back!! :flowerforyou:

I would have been upset too if I had made a special meal. My husband will eat like that (fast food half way through the day and ruin his dinner).

((HUGS))
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