What's some advice you would tell your 16 year old self ?

Don't let that one you meet in about 9 years from now ever go!!! fight for her! You will save her!

Dear 16 year old self,

Don't let anyone else influence your thoughts, no matter if they seem to have your best intention at heart. Think for yourself and don't ever lose yourself. Also, please start working out so you can turn down Jim and feel confident about it. Just because he's totally hot does not mean he's smart enough to respect you after... what he did. Punch him in the balls instead, please!

Sincerely,
The inevitable future self

Just put that damn cigarette out already!!! You won't be skinny forever eating like that. You really need to get off the couch and exercise.
Quit expecting perfection... Stay in school and ENJOY it.

bump for later!

Dear 16 year old self.

Stop skipping classes. By senior year you are going to get so caught up in the boys and the fun of skipping school that you are going to get expelled. Oh yea those 3 guys?? Stop hanging out with them, they do something horrible to you...

At 18 your gonna fall for an amazing guy but because your so insecure your going to lose him because you wont settle down and show him how much he means to you.

When your 19 your gonna meet this guy on cpixel, your first instinct is to not message him back... listen to your instinct!
If you dont you will end up spending 7 years with him getting beat up physically and mentally and constantly cheated on, you will NEVER be the only one.

Go to college as soon as you can, dont wait until you are 26 and a single mommy (can you believe it? We have a son, hes amazing). He did however make us gain 100 lbs and I am still struggling to get it off.

Your gonna struggle for a long time because of a lot of "mistakes" you make between the ages of 16-23 but you will always pull thru it.

My best advice to you, keep up with your education, follow your instincts, and dont let anybody else bring you down.
Your smarter then you think, you just need to take the time to relize it before its too late!!

Dear Dumbass,

Rebel. Don't feel obligated to be hyper-good because your parents' marriage is falling apart and your sister's self-absorbed. You're not your parents' therapist, you don't have to keep it all together, and it's not your responsibility to smooth everything over...it's your parents' job. Let them worry about you instead of placing it all on your shoulders. Make waves...they can be fun to ride.

Go to college in PA. Get away from Jersey for a while. Pursue that degree in Biology instead of English. Become an animal behaviorist. Follow your dreams and don't let your parents sway you otherwise. William Paterson is a craphole.

Don't rely on boys' opinions of you to justify your self-worth. One will rape you and punch your car. Another will hurt you constantly. You're worth more than that. Move slower in relationships.

Your dad's an *kitten* and you'll never understand what's wrong with him. Just accept it and move on.

Be more understanding of your sister. She's in pain. She needs you more than she'll admit and you'll be her lifeline when the men in her life turn on her.

Stop being shy!

Embrace your nerdiness. It's okay to be a chick gamer. Just don't let WoW replace your social life because you're too scared of rejection.

You'll meet an amazing man who - despite his faults - loves you more truly than you thought possible and will not complain one bit when you need a break from work. Hold out for him. He's worth it.

Love you,
Jess

Pay attention in school. You'll regret it!

When your 19 your gonna meet this guy on cpixel, your first instinct is to not message him back... listen to your instinct!

Don't you HATE when you knew... but didn't listen to your inner voice? Those are the worst mistakes. I'm so sorry it took you 7 years.. Mine was my second marriage. I was older 40+ .. so I was a little stronger and have been around the block a few times... But it still took me two years to escape!

I am 16 :laugh:

-Don't rush growing up. You'll miss being carefree.
-Spend more time with your dad, he won't be around much longer and you'll miss him terribly.
-Enjoy more time with your friends, you'll all go your separate ways pretty soon.

I am 16 :laugh:

Then read what people are telling themselves... and don't make the same mistakes. You only get one chance to get it right.

I am 16 :laugh:

Then read what people are telling themselves... and don't make the same mistakes. You only get one chance to get it right.

^^^ Agreed.. and I will add in my own sometime soon.

Dear 16 y/o self,

Well it did happen to you didn't it? you'll spend most of this year pregnant by that *kitten* who said he loved you. He'll be gone in 3..2...1. But jsut know that no influence is better than a bad one! You're going to have a tough year ahead but don't give up, finish school, and know that the couch surfing will end soon.

Also, your mom is going through some **** of her own and she split not because of you, I know it doesn't hurt any less, but still wasnt your fault. Also dont get mad later at Dad he was lonely and he loved her so he took her back. You'll spend too much time being angry at these two and it will eat you up.

And FFS eat something! 5' 6" and 110 lbs is NOT a good look for you! And no you were not fat!

Sunscreen! your a red head for crying out loud...you will not tan!

Follow your dream, move away to go to this college and take your VET degree. Mom will live without you, she's just using you. and doesn't care about your future plan. She just doesn't want you to live, otherwise she won't have anybody to clean the house, do the shopping, do the meals, etc.

Tell that first big love of yours that always remained a secret how much you love him; you'll learned many years later that that's exactly what he was waiting for.

Birth control is not 100% and getting pregnant at 16 is not ideal.