Deleting people how long

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  • mojox2003
    mojox2003 Posts: 276 Member
    Thank you for the replies and for those that didnt understand or had a go at how I wrote it, Im sorry I cant spell or use the english laungage very well but I wasnt in school very much.
  • BethicaJ
    BethicaJ Posts: 13 Member
    Why would you delete them?
  • CookieCrumble
    CookieCrumble Posts: 221 Member
    I am so creeped out by the idea that you people are keeping close tabs on how long it's been since someone logged in.

    This. I keep my friends list short, I'm very fussy. I enjoy their posts and progress updates but, if I weren't motivated to sort myself out, nothing they could say would keep me going because I wouldn't be logging in, would I?

    I don't personally like whingers much; anyone can have a bad day but when it's nothing but bad days and complaints, I stop commenting. I think people who cut friends seem to do so for odd reasons, maybe they get a little power thrill from it... who knows? Even stranger, I think, is the need for a straw poll on the subject but, as we say here in the UK... "Now't so queer as folk". :bigsmile:
  • katysmelly
    katysmelly Posts: 380 Member
    Someone would have to actively annoy me to get deleted. If they don't interact with me very much, then I forget all about them, anyway.

    There is one friend who is kinda cool - she posts things that I find interesting, like about literature - but she never talks to me. She never responds to my comments to her posts and she never posts on my profile. That may eventually begin to annoy me as it sort of makes me feel snubbed if I think about it.

    I just almost never think about it. LOL
  • CookieCrumble
    CookieCrumble Posts: 221 Member
    About 2 hours. If you aren't committed to this journey, and if you're not supportive, you don't deserve to be my friend.
    2 hours... why if I don't get a reply within 2 mins to my messages I purge my list and start anew!

    There are some very witty people on this site... :bigsmile:
  • talzybob
    talzybob Posts: 80
    i take them off if they have been inactive for two months or more. the only long term non active person i have kept is my sister as she due to pop on friday this week, so shes the only one i have kept on.

    i tried motivating them but found that many of them never tried motivating me.
  • Diana35bha
    Diana35bha Posts: 292 Member
    I'd probably leave them there anyway, it's just a social thing, but I always try to catch everyone's posts although am sure I miss some too, especially with the time differences!

    Add me if you want & I'll do my best to help you along :-)

    Di
  • talzybob
    talzybob Posts: 80
    I too had someone delete me whom I thought was a "friend" and when I asked her why, she basically told me that I didn't live up to her ideas of what I SHOULD be doing.\

    SO OBNOXIOUS!

    ummm what sher idea of what SHE should be doing then? that was a bit harsh of her to say that.
  • tabulator32
    tabulator32 Posts: 701 Member
    So, how much time should one spend each week pruning their MFP friends list? just trying to get a rough average so I can make sure I'm doing it right.

    I am surprised their is not a FAQ or pinned thread somewhere on MFP for this topic, It is so critical in my weight loss goals to ensure I have a properly pruned friends list.

    Wait, I'm not ready for this. I need to stare at some more cute bunny pictures to mentally prepare myself for this.

    If someone can give any personal pointers on pruning participants, please profess your presupposed and perfect plan.

    And add me on your friends list...ya know, if it fits into your personal online communications theory.

    :huh:
  • traceyjayne64
    traceyjayne64 Posts: 262
    I have deleted one person because basically i couldn't stand reading her constant spamming about her personal life, how much money was being spent on her, what she was buying next etc etc... she just really wasn't my kind of person.
    Other than that i wouldn't consider deleting anyone, especially for not replying to my updates, or because they weren't around much.:noway:
  • mojox2003
    mojox2003 Posts: 276 Member
    Im sorry I dont know why some people are being a lil nasty, It was just a question thats all I didnt mean anything by it was just wondering what other people did.

    Makes me not want to post anything on here again thanks to the people that just replied to my post without the horrid comments.
  • staps065
    staps065 Posts: 837 Member
    I'll usually wait at least a month, maybe longer if it was someoen that posted regularly and then dropped off. If it was someone that I had recently added and they stop posting or even logging that they completed their diary after a month, I'll remove them.

    I don't do it to be mean, but if they are not there and cannot be bothered to log in, why keep them on my FR? Just saying!
  • christinesadrina
    christinesadrina Posts: 5 Member
    I actually only have one friend and she's a real friend, so I wouldn't delete her at all. She does help me to keep on track (a bit) but the main reason I like having her there is how I can see how well she's doing. And then I want to do well too.
  • MelanieAG05
    MelanieAG05 Posts: 359 Member
    I have deleted the odd "friend" who has not been active for 2 or 3 months if there is no explanation. I would say that the most important thing to monitor is who you add rather than who you delete......I generally only accept FR's from people if we have other friends in common or with whom I would have something in common with (age, goals, have kids, from same geographic area etc). If I get an FR from someone who has not even filled in their profile I don't add them.
  • Dtho5159
    Dtho5159 Posts: 1,054 Member
    I too had someone delete me whom I thought was a "friend" and when I asked her why, she basically told me that I didn't live up to her ideas of what I SHOULD be doing.\

    SO OBNOXIOUS!


    Ive gotten that too.... So funny... I guess we aren't our own people and should be robots to what our friends do? Oh well Im better off without those types of people.
  • YummyTpn
    YummyTpn Posts: 334 Member
    Im sorry I dont know why some people are being a lil nasty, It was just a question thats all I didnt mean anything by it was just wondering what other people did.

    Makes me not want to post anything on here again thanks to the people that just replied to my post without the horrid comments.

    I'm really sorry that some people were nasty and disrespectful to you on here. There's no excuse or reason for this behaviour. Unfortunately, when the communication isn't face-to-face, some people use this as a reason to be less than respectful.

    There was nothing wrong with asking the question you asked. To the people that criticised you for asking it in the first place: If they thought it was such a stupid question to post, then why did they bother to read it and then take the time and effort to respond, and unkindly at that? Why go out of the way to be unpleasant? I just don't understand that, or what is gained from it, for anyone.

    You just keep you chin up, sweetie, and post as many times as you want, on whatever you want! Last time I checked, this site supported free speech and if you say something inappropriate, the moderators will shut you down anyway. Nobody other than them has the right to tell you otherwise!

    Basically, if you don't like it don't read it! And if you don't have anything nice to say, keep quiet! It's my opinion that manners shouldn't go out the window just because we aren't face-to-face. There is no excuse for bad behaviour.
  • NancyNiles
    NancyNiles Posts: 145 Member
    I don't delete anyone for disappearing. I figure if they do decide to come back, they could use some friends and they're certainly not doing me any harm by not logging in.

    ^^^ This!

    I don't understand this practice of deleting people if they aren't commenting or supportive enough. Since when is support a one-way street. When/if they come back, they're going to need support, too. And I want to be there for them.
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I don't delete for inactivity because it doesn't affect my feed when someone is not logging in. I'd be bummed if all my friends were gone if I went through a bad slump. I for some reason feel too bad to delete people who never interact with me but I provide support to them, but I did just discover "hide their updates from my feed" and I've started using that.
  • REET420
    REET420 Posts: 160 Member
    I deleted 1 person I know in real life because they refused to put effort and just made excused for her failures. It irrritates me when someone logs in for 2 or 3 days then is off the wagon for a week then logs back in for a day or 2 then back to their old habits over and over again. I don't know why it drives me insane. There isn't any reason for the inconsistencies unless you really don't want to or aren't ready to make the changes. I know some people in real life not on MFP try and don't have the self control. They encourage me till they give up then they will start telling me **** like "eat you don't eat enough" I eat 2000 calories a day goddamnit. or "it's just today" or "only 1 bag of chips it won't kill you" The bag of chips may not kill me but it's like telling a recovering alcoholic it's just one beer they have the beer and everything is ****ed up again.
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