Ladies: Three Day Rule?

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  • eelane
    eelane Posts: 27 Member
    sooner is better. If you leave her waiting she will think you aren't interested and will therefore be uninterested in you
  • cjpg
    cjpg Posts: 433 Member
    In dating, does the three day rule apply or is it ok to call or text her sooner? Never gave it much thought but now I'm curious what you think.

    What about the SEVEN DAY RULE!

    Day one - you'll look too intense - You can't wait 24 hours without talking to a girl?
    Day two - you'll look too desperate - Have you been thinking about her for two days straight?
    Day three - you'll look needy - Even after not talking for two days, you still want to call her?
    Day four - you'll seem too indecisive - Why did you wait too long? If you weren't interested, why call now?
    Day five - you'll seem too nonchalant - Obviously she's waiting, but why let her know you care?
    Day six - you'll seem too presumptuous - Yeah, let her wait because you're the bomb and she should know it.
    Day seven - you will rest. Because of all the crap you have created.

    If you can't tell by now, I'm being sarcastic. Seriously, just call her whenever you feel is the natural time to call. Just don't show up on her doorstep at 12am on day three, with dead roses and your mascara running yelling her name on the top of your lungs. Or maybe you should - who knows.
  • MrLeeParker
    MrLeeParker Posts: 49
    You watch too much "how I met your mother", lol

    Haha I'm watching that episode as I type this. Keep your voodoo mind reader magic out of my mind :)
  • buttons235
    buttons235 Posts: 13
    I would agree with everyone else who says call when you're ready.

    If I was the girl and we'd just been on a date, it'd be nice to get a simple text a coupel hours later saying that you had fun and you'd like to do it again sometime. Then a call a day or two later.

    With technology these days and the invention of texting, things naturally move a lot quicker I think.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.

    That's what I think but I actually know people, men and women, who swear by it.

    Well if she's one of those, you don't want to hang with her anyway.
  • Apryl546
    Apryl546 Posts: 909 Member
    I say call as soon as you want.
    I personally go by if he doesn't text or call within a certain time frame (given he didn't say he would be extremely busy the next few days) I would think he didn't like me as much and move on.

    I've had PLENTY of guy friends be like.. "man I really liked you back so and so, why didn't we ever try and go out?" Well.. You never hinted or showed initiative!
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    Go with gut instinct.
  • lilstarz2284
    lilstarz2284 Posts: 28
    If the date went well and you really liked her, call her the next day. If you wait three days, she is going to think you aren't into her, and when you finally do get around to making the call, she will have already turned into the psycho "why didn't you call me?" chick, all because you wanted to play games.

    If the date was okay and you're open to seeing her again but you weren't blown away and may be thinking about making plans with someone else, it's okay to wait a day or two longer and give it more thought.

    Completely agree!
  • boomboom011
    boomboom011 Posts: 1,459
    if you like her call her now!
  • clairegogogo
    clairegogogo Posts: 215
    Don't play games, just go with your real feelings. :)
  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
    i say call whenever you want. i will say, the last four guys i went on dates with, all asked for another date at the tail end of the date, or called when driving home.............

    i have yet to have a guy wait three days.
  • missprincessgina
    missprincessgina Posts: 446 Member
    Don't call too soon. I had a guy call me an hour after our first date , freaked me right out.

    I kinda agree with the statement above. I wouldn't call right after the date or even the next day. There is a lot to be said about a little mystery or anticipation. I'd give it 2 or 3 days. If you are just starting to talk or date, I think 2 or 3 days in between in appropriate. It is really up to you and how you feel about the situation. For me, the longer the guy waited to text/call/email the more I was interested!
  • xPOOKiEx
    xPOOKiEx Posts: 156 Member
    Call when you like :) Don't stalk her by calling every hour and texting between to see what she's doing if you aren't serious lol.

    Girls loooove subtle things :) Lets her know you care but you aren't smothering her too early on hehe.


    Good luck!
  • IndyInk
    IndyInk Posts: 212
    Call as soon as you want. Don't call a million times, though. Once or twice is good. I've had a few who didn't get the hint even when I didn't pick up the sixth call in 24 hours.
  • Tybalt71
    Tybalt71 Posts: 1,064 Member
    48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty
  • DesignGuy
    DesignGuy Posts: 457 Member
    I know you asked for ladies, but . . .

    If a woman likes you, she likes you. If not, who the hell cares. Move on man. You'll give yourself a heart attack worrying about all sorts of BS.

    Be yourself.

    Profit.

    Only rule you need: don't be desperate, be a man.
  • MiniMichelle
    MiniMichelle Posts: 801 Member
    That rule DRIVES ME NUTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    If you like her, call her. Tell her. Show her. Its really soooooo simple!!!!!
  • AsaraFuriosa
    AsaraFuriosa Posts: 293 Member
    He called me the next day. Long enough for me to get excited and want him to call, but not so soon that I would've thought him to be creepy. We will be together 8 years in September and married for 4 years. :heart: He is also my best friend :smooched:
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.

    I agree, but, I would wait a day. Don't want to seem "too" anxious. Otherwise go for it!
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty

    We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    The rules are used to manipulate someone into thinking you're desirable. You know what's desirable? People who aren't manipulative. Call when you want to call, and be honest: "hi, I had fun with you, and couldn't wait to talk to you again." Is there a person in this world who wouldn't take that as a compliment?

    Couldn't have said it better myself. Perfect!! :)
  • Coryd2012
    Coryd2012 Posts: 132 Member
    dont wait three she will think you are un interested
    call on first or second day
  • superdonna
    superdonna Posts: 57 Member
    Be youself. I would like a man to call me sooner than three days. It says "not excitied to talk to you."
  • Tybalt71
    Tybalt71 Posts: 1,064 Member
    48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty

    We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!
    Noooo anything sooner wreaks of being desperate-Ty
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    You'll never win.

    Some will say call the next day.
    Some will say that's too soon
    Some will say 3 days is too long.

    Do what you feel like doing.

    This lol.

    I never knew there was a rule. Every serious relationship I've ever had in my life...I called the girl 15 minutes after I left her house...just to let her know what a good time I had and that I couldn't wait to talk to her again. Sometimes that led to an all night conversation, sometimes it led to me going back to her house lol.

    When it mattered, it was never a bad thing though.
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty

    We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!
    Noooo anything sooner wreaks of being desperate-Ty

    No... it really doesn't. If the girl likes you then it won't matter. If she doesn't, she will find a way out of the call and/or 2nd date and then you will know what's up.
  • JessieArt
    JessieArt Posts: 275 Member
    Forget any "rule" you may have heard. Make your own rule. If you want to call, do it. I personally hated waiting for the guy to call. I married the guy that called the next morning and invited me to come hang out that afternoon.
  • crazyellybean
    crazyellybean Posts: 999 Member
    Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.

    Amen! ...
  • funsiiz
    funsiiz Posts: 246 Member
    Call
  • thepanttherlady
    thepanttherlady Posts: 258 Member
    Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.

    That's what I think but I actually know people, men and women, who swear by it.

    Personally, if I don't hear from the person for 3 days it tells me either they're not interested enough in me or they're into "games" which is what I feel a lot of these dating "rules" are.

    Sadly, some "adults" forget they're out of high school.

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