Need support and motivation after miscarriage

I have never been through something like this, but God Bless everyone who has! I am sorry for all your losses.

I have been through a similar experience and lost two pregnancies last year at weeks 7 and 6 respectively. I first took some time to allow myself to grieve. I then decided to take the last year to really focus on mental healing and then recovering physically by being active and eating in a healthy, balanced manner. I can attest to the difficulty of going through this- you go through a huge range of emotions and they come back when you least expect them to. My advice would be to: 1. believe that this is NOT your fault- some studies show up to 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage (often women don't even know they were pregnant) for a huge array of reasons. 2. The time you spend now on allowing yourself to grieve and process these losses will go a long way in helping you recover mentally and physically. Remember to be good to yourself. 3. If and when you're ready to try again, you will hopefully already be in a healthy routine as a result of caring for yourself. This can only help you in a future pregnancy. I wish you all the best-

This is great advice. I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I lost two babies last year. Both babies died around 8 weeks but for the second one, we had seen a good heartbeat and had a due date (which was just last week) but the baby died about 3 days later. I didn't know until I started spotting at 11 weeks. It is so heartbreaking and I know how difficult it is not to believe there was something you could have done differently. I still struggle with that, honestly. Please be good to yourself and stay close to your husband during this difficult time. ((Hugs)) to you.

Awww sweetie, first please don't blame yourself. We don't know why these things happen. I too lost my little one at 7 weeks and it was very difficult, but I allowed myself to grieve. I cried, screamed and cried some more, but time eases the pain. Don't try to move on too fast, give yoursel the time you need. Everything is in God's master plan, and I know that I have a sweet little one waiting to meet me in heaven, just as you do. My prayers are with you.

I am sorry for your loss. My cousin just lost her child also.

I lost my baby last week. I was 13 weeks. I'm going to read over your responses because I'm in need of the same support. I'm so sorry for your loss. This has been the most terrible experience of my life. My body is confused and thinks I have a baby in my arms. The weight is a painful reminder. There are so many factors that go into miscarriage and 8 weeks was surely a coincidence. There's no week that makes it more likely, just the further you go the less likely. This wasn't your fault just like it wasn't my fault. Our babies were meant to be born straight into perfection.

I love this last sentence. It brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing it.

I'm so sorry to hear about everyone's losses. It helps me somewhat to know that it is so common but at the same time I'm sad that so many others have gone through this heartbreak. :brokenheart:

Amen. There is always a greater plan than we may ever understand. I have stopped needing to know the "why" of it. But I still feel the loss. I am so sorry to all who have had to endure it.

Hello everyone. My heart goes out to you all and would love to be friends with you on here. I had my first miscarriage 3 weeks ago at just 6 weeks. I am a very calm logical person who knows that these things happen and that it just means something wasn't quite right but wasn't so prepared for the tide of emotions I have felt these past 3 weeks.

I used to be a member here and rejoined today as I want to focus on my health and have experienced weight gain of around 7lb since the miscarriage which i know is just my hormones doing their thing and my body getting back to normal. I also may not get on here all the time and not sure if i have the motivation to log every morsel of food right now but I feel that I can at least work on my health 1 day at a time to feel better physically.

I am over 200lb and also an older mum to be so I know what it is like to wonder if any of these factors affected the pregnancy but I also know people in similar situations who have had healthy pregnancies which is very comforting.

We kept the pregnancy and miscarriage very private so it has been hard pretending I am feeling normal but I am getting there! Seeing all the posts here has been very comforting to me and I wish us all much health and happiness in the future whatever it brings x

I have had 2 first trimester miscarriages and 1 2nd trimester loss in which I delivered my baby boy and he died in labor. First, I am sorry for your loss. IT IS ALWAYS a tough process to go through. I recommend grief counseling right away to deal with your loss. I would also go and see a reproductive endocrinologist to see if they can help. I recommend getting testing for autoimmune disorders and clotting disorders. I also recommend getting testing for PCOS (Polycycstic Ovarian Syndrome). A good reproductive endocrinologist and check bloodwork and see if you are ovulating properly (a problem with PCOS) and they will be able to advise on if you are getting quality eggs. I will send baby dust your way and wish you luck in your search of finding out what is going on. Just be positive and get the grief counseling. If you are an emotional eater, this will be the first place to start. Again, I am sorry about your loss of your baby.

I am so sorry. A miscarriage is a true loss. (I've been there, too.) I know that part of your grieving and sadness is trying to understand and "figure it out". Please don't blame yourself, though. It's normal to have those thoughts, but you just have to keep talking to other people and to yourself - reminding yourself of what's true. There's such a huge spectrum of reasons for miscarriage, from things that can never be diagnosed, to issues that can be treated.

Praying for your comfort,