Ladies: Three Day Rule?
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really? Three day rule? So that's why I was always left wondering if the guy had a good time for a couple of days?
I wouldn't wait MORE than three days if you want to arrange another date. But I don't think there's anything wrong with calling the next day or afternoon to say you had a nice time and hope to do it again soon. The same night is a bit creepy though.0 -
Wow, really interesting getting a female perspective on this as I've often wondered myself. I think there's definitely legs in the 'keep them mean...' saying but judging from the female's perspective it isn't overly appreciated (some number deletions after two days, ladies really!?)
To play devils advocate, if a guy does wait three days then calls doesn't it make it all the more worth it when the call actually comes through? That's the whole idea isn't it?
As for me, I usually go with gut instinct, if I've had a nice date with a lady I will usually send an appreciative text to say thank you that night and not necessarily leading anywhere, just guage the response from the lady and go from there. The 'let me know you're home safe' is a good one also, as it sets up an opening for a dialogue and timeframe without implying anything too much.
I think the advice to go with gut instinct is pretty good, if you had a real connection you'll know if it feels right to text sooner - just don't be over eager or call/text too much.0 -
Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.
Yep.0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...0
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Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...
True.
I need to found a cult or some such thing.
Any volunteers for High Priestess / Lead Handmaiden?!
...no, not you Rich. We both know it didn't work out well last time mate.0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...
True.
I need to found a cult or some such thing.
Any volunteers for High Priestess / Lead Handmaiden?!
...no, not you Rich. We both know it didn't work out well last time mate.
Alas, Kitties cannot be restricted to the confines of any sort of organized religion0 -
I once met a guy who called me so often my friends said he was a stalker... they were really worried! He freaked me out a bit too, it was like everytime I opened my door he was standing there... He asked me to marry him every day for about 2 months, 6 weeks after I met him!
Eventually I caved in
So persistence pays off... we've been married 8 years and have 2 lovely kids.... and he still calls or texts me several times a day Wouldn't change him for the world... so I say, GO AHEAD AND RING HER 0 -
maybe in your experience it does. i think it differs person to person.
i loved it! if guy number 1 and guy number 4 had waited 48-72 hrs to call me, i probably would not have gone out with them again. i was into them, and i liked that they were interested and wanted to keep in touch. i think i would have been turned off if they had appeared to have better things going on than talk to me again.
i think the reason it would rub me wrong is that, prior to that first date, there is often daily or every other day contact ( trying to set something up, get a feeling for the other person). then, after the date 2-3 days with NO contact? it screams to me, " i was interested til i went out with you, then after meeting you i changed my mind. now, i'm calling because i have no better prospects on the horizon...." at least that's how i take it.
Noooo anything sooner wreaks of being desperate-Ty48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty
We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!0 -
there is a male relationship coach that blogs online and offers free enews letters. i have been reading his stuff for several months now and i find it very eye opening. since he's a guy he approaches everything from a guys point of view, but he works FOR women!!!! he is a woman's dating coach!!!
he talks about this kind of stuff, and way more. it does help to see how the mind of a man works :-)0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...
True.
I need to found a cult or some such thing.
Any volunteers for High Priestess / Lead Handmaiden?!
...no, not you Rich. We both know it didn't work out well last time mate.
Alas, Kitties cannot be restricted to the confines of any sort of organized religion
Semi-organised?
Anarchistic Handmaiden in Chief...!0 -
In dating, does the three day rule apply or is it ok to call or text her sooner? Never gave it much thought but now I'm curious what you think.
If you feel like calling or texting, call or text - preferably a call. Hubs asked me for my number on a Saturday and called me the next day for a date. If it's the right person, there is no such thing as too soon to call/text, IMO. The three day rule is just another stupid dating "game" that people play.0 -
Rules are over rated. Especially that one. If you like her, let her know!0
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All that is meant to do is make it seem like you aren't desperate, which for *most* women is a turn off. If you can avoid coming off that way, calle whenever you want. I personally think waiting exactly three days and calling sounds just as desperate as calling 5 minutes later, since it's not like folks haven't heard of the rule by now.0
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Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.
I agree!! If you went on a date, got a number, etc... CALL HER!! She will think you aren't interested if you don't!0 -
Three days is too long. I would think the guy didn't have any interest if he waited that long. I would expect a call the next day if I thought things went well.0
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If you want to talk to someone, DO IT! Don't wait. If she likes talking to you, she wants you to call and will be more upset if you don't.0
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If she doesn't want you to call her for three days, or is freaked out by you calling the next day, then I'd say move on to the next girl. You shouldn't have to play games.0
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Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.
Completely agree
My dating days are long over with and since I'm probably as old as your Mom (but a COOL Mom), I'd say DO THIS!!
Call her, go ahead, what are you waiting for?? She'll love it.......0
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