My therapist was right

amymeenieminymo
amymeenieminymo Posts: 2,394 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
She said you know you're getting too fat you your underwear no longer fits. I had to buy a new bra today, my bra now has three hooks instead of two :(

This will be my new motivation when I wake up in the morning for the gym...".your bra has three hooks, get out of bed and go to the gym"!
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  • Jazzyjules71
    Jazzyjules71 Posts: 150 Member
    I dream of a 2 hook future! I am currently on the four hook with an extender plan! :). One more thing to add to the "what I'm looking forward to when I lose weight list."
  • ttxqiu
    ttxqiu Posts: 27
    My bra has three hooks and I wear a 36B. Do bras usually only come with two hooks?
  • Nastasha915
    Nastasha915 Posts: 124 Member
    My bra has three hooks and I wear a 36B. Do bras usually only come with two hooks?

    Ive seen them both ways. I'm a 38C
  • jenn_may
    jenn_may Posts: 154 Member
    When I was skinny my bra had 3 or 4 hooks. That is why I am getting a reduction when I get to a decent weight.
  • TheMissingSock
    TheMissingSock Posts: 89
    Just this week I had to buy new bras because mine were getting roomy!

    you can do it - just think, brand new underthings!!!
  • Papillon22
    Papillon22 Posts: 1,160 Member
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.
  • Graciecny
    Graciecny Posts: 302 Member
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.
    ^^ yeah, that!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    What therapist comments on your undies?

    And FYI - my bra will always have three hooks. It's not evidence of my juicy fantasticness. It's just support for Mary Kate & Ashley...
  • LilRedRooster
    LilRedRooster Posts: 1,421 Member
    My bra has three hooks. Granted, it's a nursing bra, so I think they assume if you're nursing, you must need all the hooks you can get. Even at a B cup..

    Actually, my sports bra has three hooks as well. I kinda like it. Makes me feel all awesome and secure.

    I'm surprised your therapist said something like that, though. Maybe I've had good counselors in the past, but I can't see any of them commenting on stuff like that..
  • amymeenieminymo
    amymeenieminymo Posts: 2,394 Member
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.

    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Yah, smaller bras would be ok with me, too.
  • CollisionofNova
    CollisionofNova Posts: 98
    I've actually seen an A cup bra with four (FOUR!) hooks. And then a D cup with one. I scratched my head at that.

    But my indicator is if the ladies are sitting on my stomach while wearing a bra when I'm sitting, I've got an issue.


    *looks down*

    damn. Still got an issue.
  • rabetts
    rabetts Posts: 31
    What therapist comments on your undies?

    And FYI - my bra will always have three hooks. It's not evidence of my juicy fantasticness. It's just support for Mary Kate & Ashley...
    Fantasticness= my new favorite word. LMAO Thank you!
  • ALH1981
    ALH1981 Posts: 538 Member
    30C
  • dolldreams
    dolldreams Posts: 245 Member
    I think it's an indicator of the quality or sometimes just the style of the bra. Higher qualiy bras tend to have more adjustment features and have metal hooks and adjusters rather than plastic. Then again, even some high end bras only have two hooks when they are meant to be a sexier style.
  • iwantahealthierme13
    iwantahealthierme13 Posts: 337 Member
    I never correlated bra hooks with my weight, thanks! :(

    mine has 3 but I am also a G cup hella scared of reduction surgery so hopefully MFP gets these babies down. LOL
  • lengirl75
    lengirl75 Posts: 153 Member
    Just this week I had to buy new bras because mine were getting roomy!

    you can do it - just think, brand new underthings!!!
    I agree!!
  • stablesong
    stablesong Posts: 224
    I wear a 32C and mine always have three hooks. I think it's just a variation in the manufacturer. I've never seen anything without three hooks, though, in any size. Sometimes I prefer for the band to be a little looser or tighter depending on what I'm wearing and how I'm feeling.

    Good for you, though, find motivation wherever you can!
  • clover5
    clover5 Posts: 1,640 Member
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.

    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.

    Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?
  • LinsenNRoses
    LinsenNRoses Posts: 284 Member
    Well I had to buy those stupid bra extenders!!!! How horrible is that!!
  • TrishJimenez
    TrishJimenez Posts: 561 Member
    She said you know you're getting too fat you your underwear no longer fits. I had to buy a new bra today, my bra now has three hooks instead of two :(

    This will be my new motivation when I wake up in the morning for the gym...".your bra has three hooks, get out of bed and go to the gym"!

    I think the 3 hook thing has to do with how big your cup size is. I have been a 34DDD since I was 18 and I only weighed 135 at the time. So.....I dont really know what my point was anymore lol :) to hungry. Waiting for hubby to get home so we can eat dinner since the kids are with the grandparents tonight anyways..........
  • ttxqiu
    ttxqiu Posts: 27
    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.
    Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?
    It's pretty normal to have the same therapist for years, especially if you're trying to manage chronic depression or anxiety without drugs or are recovering from a disorder or a survivor of abuse. Frequency of appointments can vary, from several times a week to once a month just to check in. And once you find a good therapist that you get a comfortable vibe from -- which is NOT easy, especially if you're queer or trans* -- you want to hold on to them.
  • led6777
    led6777 Posts: 268
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.

    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.

    Only you can be the judge of whether the comment was appropriate or not. Clearly you feel it was appropriate and said in a light-hearted manner not in specific regard to any one individual, just sort of as a mantra or joke. Don't allow anyone to shape your perception of your therapist. (Although I'm pretty sure you already do this and don't need this advice lol.)
  • led6777
    led6777 Posts: 268
    your therapist said that??? I find that disturbing, to say the least.

    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.

    Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?

    Why does it matter to you? The thread is about bra hooks...
  • amymeenieminymo
    amymeenieminymo Posts: 2,394 Member
    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.
    Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?
    It's pretty normal to have the same therapist for years, especially if you're trying to manage chronic depression or anxiety without drugs or are recovering from a disorder or a survivor of abuse. Frequency of appointments can vary, from several times a week to once a month just to check in. And once you find a good therapist that you get a comfortable vibe from -- which is NOT easy, especially if you're queer or trans* -- you want to hold on to them.

    This! I suppose some people benefit from the initial "7 free sessions" that an insurance company might typically offer, but I don't understand the original comment that seemed judgmental about seeing a therapist for years. Sometimes one might need to go once a month (or more frequent) if dealing with something, but then you might not feel the need to go but twice a year....hence a several year relationship with a therapist. And once you find a therapist you like and click with it would make absolutely no sense to switch to a different one later.
  • clover5
    clover5 Posts: 1,640 Member
    She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.
    Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?
    It's pretty normal to have the same therapist for years, especially if you're trying to manage chronic depression or anxiety without drugs or are recovering from a disorder or a survivor of abuse. Frequency of appointments can vary, from several times a week to once a month just to check in. And once you find a good therapist that you get a comfortable vibe from -- which is NOT easy, especially if you're queer or trans* -- you want to hold on to them.

    This! I suppose some people benefit from the initial "7 free sessions" that an insurance company might typically offer, but I don't understand the original comment that seemed judgmental about seeing a therapist for years. Sometimes one might need to go once a month (or more frequent) if dealing with something, but then you might not feel the need to go but twice a year....hence a several year relationship with a therapist. And once you find a therapist you like and click with it would make absolutely no sense to switch to a different one later.

    I did not intended to judge, although I see now how it might seem that way. I once saw a counselor for a couple years. At that time, I started to feel like I was paying her bo be my friend. I think it's fair to hold a therapist to a professional standard. When talking to a client who wants to lose 60 pounds, a professional therapist shouldn't make comments like - you know you're fat when you need a three hook bra. Friends, however, do make exactly that kind of faux pas, and later need to return and apologize. Like I am about to do.

    I do sincerely apologize if I have hurt your feelings and/or increased your woes.

    Good luck on your weight loss journey.
  • verdammtwenig
    verdammtwenig Posts: 48
    My therapist would totally say something like that. I really appreciate that my therapist is like a real person.

    I've despised all the therapists in the past who have every hair in place, sit up straight and tall as a pin, would never say anything even remotely offensive ever...
  • Travelfixer
    Travelfixer Posts: 137 Member
    She said you know you're getting too fat you your underwear no longer fits. I had to buy a new bra today, my bra now has three hooks instead of two :(

    This will be my new motivation when I wake up in the morning for the gym...".your bra has three hooks, get out of bed and go to the gym"!

    Hahaa too funny!:laugh:
  • sparkle126
    sparkle126 Posts: 132 Member
    omg this post as got stupied... well done lass for having motivation to go to the gym. every1 as something to get there *kitten* in to gear even if it is bra hooks :tongue:
  • Hickyvikki69
    Hickyvikki69 Posts: 371 Member
    i suppose to be a 36dd but i still feel comfortable n my 38dd and it is a double hook

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