Frustrated with friend...warning it's a rant.

It's good to have a friend like you!
Share the information and let her figure how much she wants to take in! Peace!

It sounds like she doesn't actually want to loose.
As we all know, the journey is scary. Wouldn't it be great if we could just loose without the possibility of failing? hah
Let her know you're there for her any time she needs it, and that she is welcome to come to you if she ever wants advice.
However, I would slow down or stop with all the websites. Maybe she feels like you're trying to show off? (Like, "Look! I can do it! Why can't you?!") I know that is not your intention at all, but I've been in your friend's shoes many times, and sometimes it feels that way.
Weight loss is something you really have to decide on yourself. And start yourself.

I feel your frustration. My best friend and I joined this site a little over a year ago and while I have stuck with it and reached my goals, my best friend made excuses. Now it seem like she does everything in her power to sabatoge me so I will be right back with her.

Stay stong just keep talking with her and encouraging her to reach her goals, some day something will click and she will be ready for your support.

Its been my experience that when some one lashes out like that, when you get down to the meat of it, they are afraid of something. Usually they are afraid they are going to lose something they have or they are not going to get something they want. I would hazard a guess to say, she's afraid she won't be successful at weight loss. Then what does she do. Of course she is going to lash out at you. Not only are you her friend, but you are being successfully at your weight loss.

Yep...she might be scared to fail or scared that she won't be as successful as you have been.

You can take it as a progress marker. To her eyes you have achieved your goal, the journey finished. You may have many miles to go in your mind, but it's good to have that outside perspective...even if it was a bit backhanded.

She on the other hand is still at the fork in the road. She may think she's ready, but her feet have yet to trod down the path. She hasn't made that mental shift needed to truly commit to the journey. In her uncertainty she'll dismiss the success of others, marginalize their advice, even to the point of being petty or cruel because acknowledging them highlights her own failure.

She doesn't know that she hasn't failed-she can't have because she hasn't really begun. She doesn't yet realize that she has to own her life, her health, and her decisions and start moving, one step at a time, down the path of progress. Your advice and offers can help point her in the right direction, but ultimately it's up to her.

Be patient with her if you can. You are collateral damage in her internal struggle. If it gets too wearing you may have to wish her well and cut your losses. I hope she'll make the turn and realize what a good friend you've been.

Edit: Sorry for the long post. I got a bit introspective about my own behavior before and since

I agree with what everyone else is saying, and wanted to add that sometimes, being fat is comforting to folk. I was that way for a while. It was easier for me to say everything in my life sucked because I was fat than it was saying I had to woman up and start changing my life. I was also afraid of attention I'd get if I *did* lose all that weight.

It sucks, I know, because I've been on both sides. I had a girl I was supposed to be work out buddies with, we hung out a few times because our husbands were buds. Eventually she dropped the whole workout plan. I offered to pick her up, switch up the routines, talked about food journaling...and it just pissed her off more, because she projected my happiness and enthusiasm as condescension and mockery.

Just do what you are doing, and make it clear you won't judge her if she chooses to come with, or back out. Either she'll be inspired by your commitment and success, or she'll walk.

Good luck.

I completely understand why she wouldn't want to work out with someone who is already skinny. For a long time I was afraid to meet anyone fitness oriented because I feared the embarrassment of being too slow to keep up, or how ridiculously fat I would look in comparison to them. When I finally managed to bring myself to get a work out buddy, I weighed almost 100 pounds more than she did. The difference is that I did it anyway. You know what they say, if it's important you will find a way, if not you will find excuses. Clearly, this is not a priority for her. You've done the best you could, but you can't want it for her :flowerforyou:

I work with someone that is always complimenting me. Wow you always eat so healthy and it looks so good. Your getting so skinny. I wish I could do what you do. I never bring it up. I just drop little encouraging lines like "yes you can" When we both have the same days off I invite her to go hiking. When she doesnt show I just tell her I missed hanging out with her. One day she said "I am afraid your going to make fun of me because your so fit and Im so flab". I am far from fit. What a compliment that she sees me fit. How sad that she thinks I would make fun of her. We had a long talk about it. She told me she didnt think I really would make fun of her but was afraid. Fear can do 1 of 2 things. Fight or flight. I can encourage her to face her fears, but until she is ready she wont. Encouraging positive comments go a long way. She has started asking me when Im going next. I know one day she will show up.

Let her stay fat, you can't force anyone to do anything, when people are ready they will reach out for help till then gotta let them be.