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The word "gross"...

Elizabeth_C34

Has no place on MFP to describe any person.

Please stop using it, even if you find someone too thin, too fat, too muscular, too flabby, unattractive, etc. It's hurtful, rude, and unnecessary. In fact, it's best to avoid using words like "gross" and "disgusting" to describe ANYONE. People open themselves up on this site by posting their real pictures all the time. It's rare that we look like models or hunks. There are all different body types here: thin, tall, short, heavyset, curvy, obese, muscular, etc. Inevitably, you'll see people you don't find attractive, perhaps several such people. It's part of being on a fitness/weight management website. When that happens, please try to avoid using nasty language like this to describe them. They are human beings just like you and deserve to be treated with respect regardless of their body shape or size.

Please think about what you type and if you would like to be called those things before you post about someone else.

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Elizabeth_C34

It is ok to say it about yourself though right ?

LIke I was a disgusting, slothful, gross, fat ugly pig. Now I am just ugly and less fat.

No, because that's a lie.

And also- as others have said- let's not use abusive expressions about anyone else OR ourselves. I am inclined to say bad things about the way I look, on a "so that nobody thinks I don't realise it" basis, but my sensible daughter pointed out that it really is counterproductive! If we beat ourselves up we just feel more rubbishy.

Exactly. Counterproductive and also not true.

Elizabeth_C34

yeah i saw that 'gross' today... good on you. totally agree.

Yup yup!

LPS1986

Can I just be best MFP friends with anyone and everyone who responded positively/awesomely/not grossly to this message?

kayl3igh88

SOOO cute!!!

Jules2Be

It is really mean spirited if you think about it, particularly if you are striving to achieve something. Why do people feel the need to do that? Sorry honey, but you are NOT killing MY joy!

This is a place where people should not ever be ridiculed for physical traits. period. If someone does not agree or share the same goals that person could just say they dont prefer this or that.

Anyhoo OP is a sexy curvy scoop of deliciousness.

tabulator32

The necessity of the word "gross" is grossly over-rated.

Jules2Be

The necessity of the word "gross" is grossly over-rated.

:flowerforyou:

jasper186

Totally agree, if you can't say something that will help.......LOG OFF!

stevewynjones

If I have 144 friends, can I call my most recent one "gross" or can I at least say I have a "gross" friend(s)?

Otherwise, I completely and totally agree with you.

beat me to it...... NICE!

BellydanceBliss

dont talk about yourself that way!!! 137 lbs lost amazing work and you arent ugly.

It is ok to say it about yourself though right ?

LIke I was a disgusting, slothful, gross, fat ugly pig. Now I am just ugly and less fat.

Nope. Not yourself either. Imagine someone looking at you after you lost 137lbs for motivation and hearing you say that about yourself.

But it is stressful being the source of inspiration to people... Expectations to perform like a circus monkey lol

BellydanceBliss

BUMP

Bahet

People need to think before they speak (or type). That person you called "gross" for being extremely overweight may have already lost 50 lbs and was feeling rather proud of herself until you came in with your ugliness. I'd like to think no one here is stupid enough to believe that telling someone they are gross, disgusting, etc is actually going to motivate them. But either there are people that stupid or there are just some truly mean people who may look good on the outside but are pretty gross and disgusting on the inside.

The same goes for those who are showing off their new bodies. Maybe you think a woman with muscles is gross. So what? What do you think will happen if you post to tell her that? Do you think she'll agree with you and start trying to lose that muscle? Do you think she'll be hurt by your comments? Do you feel better about yourself by trying to knock someone else down?

I am simply amazed the way the mods operate here. You can call someone gross, disgusting, practically deformed, etc and they say nothing. But dare correct their spelling or grammar and all hell rains down. How does that make any sense at all???

Back2Basic

This is the place to open ourselves up and be vulnerable. Definitely not the place for judgements :drinker: ps this is water... cuz I need to drink more of it!

Elizabeth_C34

People need to think before they speak (or type). That person you called "gross" for being extremely overweight may have already lost 50 lbs and was feeling rather proud of herself until you came in with your ugliness. I'd like to think no one here is stupid enough to believe that telling someone they are gross, disgusting, etc is actually going to motivate them. But either there are people that stupid or there are just some truly mean people who may look good on the outside but are pretty gross and disgusting on the inside.

The same goes for those who are showing off their new bodies. Maybe you think a woman with muscles is gross. So what? What do you think will happen if you post to tell her that? Do you think she'll agree with you and start trying to lose that muscle? Do you think she'll be hurt by your comments? Do you feel better about yourself by trying to knock someone else down?

I am simply amazed the way the mods operate here. You can call someone gross, disgusting, practically deformed, etc and they say nothing. But dare correct their spelling or grammar and all hell rains down. How does that make any sense at all???

You said it better than I could. Totally agree. It's just completely unnecessary.

Elizabeth_C34

Anyhoo OP is a sexy curvy scoop of deliciousness.

*blush*

Pammie1000

Bump

ChrisRN75495

Nobody needs to call names, here or anywhere. Kudos for this thread!

ChrisRN75495

Totally agree, if you can't say something that will help.......LOG OFF!

YES, YES, YES!!

Elizabeth_C34

The necessity of the word "gross" is grossly over-rated.

LOL Indeed.

mrsred79

Totally agree, if you can't say something that will help.......LOG OFF!

YES, YES, YES!!

WERD!!

Elizabeth_C34

dlwyatt82

Can I use it to describe myself? (Yes, I am a wiseass.

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Elizabeth_C34

Can I use it to describe myself? (Yes, I am a wiseass. )

NOPE!

TrophyWifeSass

NOT GROSS.

and you rock btw

Sass

Elizabeth_C34

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NOT GROSS.

and you rock btw

Sass

Definitely NOT gross. You are gorgeous.

Bentley2718

It is ok to say it about yourself though right ?

LIke I was a disgusting, slothful, gross, fat ugly pig. Now I am just ugly and less fat.

Nope. Not yourself either. Imagine someone looking at you after you lost 137lbs for motivation and hearing you say that about yourself.

Why are people automatically responsible for other people's motivation? If someone wants to be down on themselves, that is their business. If someone else finds this demotivating, I'm sure they can find someone who wants to be motivating/inspirational to follow instead.

Elizabeth_C34

It is ok to say it about yourself though right ?

LIke I was a disgusting, slothful, gross, fat ugly pig. Now I am just ugly and less fat.

Nope. Not yourself either. Imagine someone looking at you after you lost 137lbs for motivation and hearing you say that about yourself.

Why are people automatically responsible for other people's motivation? If someone wants to be down on themselves, that is their business. If someone else finds this demotivating, I'm sure they can find someone who wants to be motivating/inspirational to follow instead.

You make a good point, but I really think the use of certain language needs to be curbed here when talking about body types. You're not just talking about yourself. You're doing it PUBLICLY. There's a difference between calling yourself gross and disgusting on your profile and putting pics up of yourself on here and calling yourself that. It's equivalently saying someone who looks like you is also gross and disgusting.

LorinaLynn

Love this post!

Rae6503

How about food? Cottage cheese IS gross.

Elizabeth_C34

How about food? Cottage cheese IS gross.

LOL yes, food is fine. Just not people.