Discrimination against skinny/fit women

I work at a gym and I workout there a lot and I get so excited when I see bigger women working hard. I get tempted to talk to them and try to help them and give them tips that helped me. I was never huge, but that doesn't mean I never felt self conscious or uncomfortable like them. I feel like since I've had some success with my weight loss and I have so much knowledge I just want to share it with anyone who will listen to me blabber on...
I still get slightly envious when I see super fit women, but at the same there workout out and working just as hard as I am. I hate the people who are naturally super skinny

Okay, so I have been fat and I have been thin, and/or fit. I have found that there are two types of discrimination. Discrimination from skinny people (mostly women) against fat women and the contrary - fat women against skinny women.

I will tell ya, I have a new appreciation for women who have looked good their entire life. Having been on both sides of the discrimination, I have found that skinny women are far more tolerant of overweight women then the other way around. These days, heaven forbid should I want to cross the road and a heavy set woman is driving my way. She'd just assume run me over then let me cross. OR, if I am walking into a building behind an overweight woman, she'd just assume let the door hit me in the face than hold it. Things like this keep happening and happening to me. Although, when I was fat, I had a small degree of this from skinny women, the contrary far out weighs those experiences. I have had women say, very seriously, "I hate you" or "You B*&^ch" because of my weight loss. Thoughts and experiences on the subject?

The phrase is "as soon". As in "She would as soon run me over". Maybe it was your brain they were trying to put out of its misery.

How incredibly rude.

I guess elementary forum skills would have eliminated your double post. Perhaps you should take the time to consider your own mental acuity, rather than poking sticks at someone else's.

Lesson to take from all of this:

SOME people are *kitten*, no matter what their (or your) weight.

Case in point above.

I have a fast metabolism so I have been thin my whole life, which only further proves that ED's are not a choice because somehow I developed Anorexia.


I want to mention that I went into recovery and gained to a healthy weight of 123lbs (I'm 5'5").
I am thin by medical definition yes,
and last week I had somebody throw a cheeseburger at me.

I was also told by a complete stranger who was respectfully, overweight, that I should 'eat a bucket of cristco' because I was 'disgusting to look at'.



I'm not underweight, I'm not overweight, I'm perfectly healthy so discrimination must exist because this happens more often than you'd think... =\

I LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!

I used to weigh 282 pounds and iv got down to 166, with a large-build and at 5'10 i look okay, i do not look ill or like i have an ED or anything, my BMI and BF are in healthy ranges and my family all say how much healthier i look after losing all the weight. Ive started running and doing weights and carried on my healthy eating because my goal weight is 150.

some of my friends however have totally changed their attitudes towards me. Ive known some of these girls 7 or 8 years and have been best friends all that time. when i was morbidly obese, i never got any comments made about how i looked or my choices in food. HOWEVER, it is a totally different story now.

I am constantly told how horrible i look and that i look like im about to 'snap' which is ridiculous. my best friend in particular tells me how ill i look on a regular basis and criticises my food choices and exercise choices. she herself is quite overweight, she wears the same size clothes that i used to wear when i was 282, im not sure of her weight, i would never ask as it is a sensitive issue for some people.

i dont know why my friends think they now have the right to critisize my appearence and be judgemental of my food choices, when i was morbidly obese, they never did, they used to tell me they liked my dress/hair and things rather than put me down.

I would never dream of critizising their diets or appearence in the way they do with me, no matter how much/little they weighed so i dont understand why they do it to me.

surely they must realise i have problems with my body image, otherwise i wouldnt have put so much effort into losing all of this weight so why they think its a good idea to make horrid comments on my appearence, ill never know.

Get new friends

I've experienced this a little. I lost about 15 pounds in 2 months by changing my diet and stepping up my workouts/running. I think it bothered some of the people in my life, like it was too fast for "them" to handle. While I enjoyed the "you look great" "wow, look at you!" comments at first. I started getting some that sound like they were concerned for me: "I think you're anorexic" "you don't need to lose another pound, you looked fine before- why did you want to lose weight?!" Well, that's nice that they were happy with me being unhealthy, tired, unhappy, and worn out, but I'm much happier in my healthy state and they can get used to it!
It's like how they "deal" with the difference in you. They have to say SOMETHING, so they end up saying something rude and hurtful. I would pick one friend to confide in that will really hear your feelings and maybe they can be happy for you? I confided in a few of my close friends that are very supportive and I felt better immediately. Now they are my biggest supporters and cheer for me at each goal met! Haters are gonna hate! You look and feel good and that's all that matters! Good luck and keep working towards your goal!

I'll be totally honest, I judge the skinny girls because I would rather be thin than fat.. pure jealousy when it comes to that BUT I also judge fat girls.

I'm not sure why I do considering I am one and though I am working on it I am still morbidly obese. Sad but true.

I definitely find curvier women more attractive than the Bratz dolls types but when they're my weight (272) wearing hip huggers and tight shirts part of me is like GOOD FOR YOU for having the confidence to wear that but the other part is just disgusted and then I turn that disgust toward my self.

I stand in a mirror and see on myself all the flaws I've pointed out on someone else.

It's a vicious cycle and I'm working on being less judgmental and self critical.

All takes time.

You're an idiot. Read the entire thread genius, and then comment. I typed the thread from my phone and thanks to auto correct, word predictor, and fat fingers I botched the phrase along with the "then" and "than". It didn't happen twice. And you, my friend, are a classic example why people suck. Clearly your life sucks. I would be happy to give you a hug

Well said, no clue while people bother mocking people with grammatical or spellchecker errors. It's so low class.

Read the entire thread genius, and then comment. I typed the thread from my phone and thanks to auto correct, word predictor, and fat fingers I botched the phrase along with the "then" and "than". It didn't happen twice. I would be happy to give you a hug

Well said, no clue while people bother mocking people with grammatical or spellchecker errors. It's so low class.

I imagine it's people who disagree but can't figure out how to articulate why.

Okay, so I have been fat and I have been thin, and/or fit. I have found that there are two types of discrimination. Discrimination from skinny people (mostly women) against fat women and the contrary - fat women against skinny women.

I will tell ya, I have a new appreciation for women who have looked good their entire life. Having been on both sides of the discrimination, I have found that skinny women are far more tolerant of overweight women then the other way around. These days, heaven forbid should I want to cross the road and a heavy set woman is driving my way. She'd just assume run me over then let me cross. OR, if I am walking into a building behind an overweight woman, she'd just assume let the door hit me in the face than hold it. Things like this keep happening and happening to me. Although, when I was fat, I had a small degree of this from skinny women, the contrary far out weighs those experiences. I have had women say, very seriously, "I hate you" or "You B*&^ch" because of my weight loss. Thoughts and experiences on the subject?

I've been fat my whole life. I don't discriminate against thin women at all. I envy them for taking better care of themselves than I have and look up to them for motivation to keep myself working so hard. Of course I do get discriminated against but I am positive some if not most of the time it's just my low self esteem biting me in the behind. I don't think it's any one group of people discriminating.. It's just whoever feels like being a mean grumpy butt in my opinion . I never let the door slam in someones face although it does slam in mine sometimes. Woman saying those things to you are obviously just because they are jeleous it's perfectly fine to flaunt and be proud of what you have accomplished congrats.

I don't have a skinny frame, more curvy/semi-toned, but I am personally sick of hearing the discrimination against skinny/fit women. I especially hate, "go eat a burger" or "real women have curves". Every time someone, female or male, bashes skinny women, I just think, "You're showing your insecurities, right now." You have to be not happy with yourself, to lash out & tear another person down, I feel. If you loved yourself, you would be trying to give others positive reinforcement and help uplift them. Whenever someone makes those comments around me, I have no problem telling them I find their comment uncalled for.

Dr. Phil once did a show about how extremely obese and extremely ugly people received avoidance from people. I was so moved by the ridiculousness of this plea for sympathy for fat and unattractive people given how nasty THEY (fat and unattractive people) are toward good looking and thin people that I wrote Dr. Phil asking him to do a show that uncovers how badly fat and unattractive people treat thinner and good looking people. I explained that as a good looking and thin women, I had enough hatred and nastiness thrown my way for absolutely no reason other than jealousy on the part of the hater that I could assure him he would have oodles of juicy footage and plenty to work with for the show WHEREVER he took his cameras and both ugly and good looking females were present. I've never seen a Dr. Phil show yet on the jealousy and hatred toward thinner good looking women. Its a shame because this hatred that fat and ugly people have toward good looking and fit folks needs to be exposed and acknowledged. Fat and ugly people at work make my life hell out of jealousy. Fatties and uggs make sure of it. Its a rare day that I leave the house and am not given the evil eye by multiple females, judged for being too skinny (I"m not skinny, I'm simply not fat), or am told something irrational about my appearance or conduct by some stranger female who doesn't even know me. I once applied for a job and was told by the fat and ugly hiring lady that I probably didn't need to work because my boyfriend took care of (I didn't even HAVE a boyfriend.) Insane and of course I didn't get the job. I can't count how many female friends I've lost because they were uncomfortable around me or suspicious of my intentions or infused with rage when men would strike up conversations with me in her presence. I've finally wised up after so many years of disrespectful and abusive treatment from fat and ugly women to stay away from them. They all present so sweet and kind of the surface, but they all eventually show their true colors. I try to limit my focus for friendships now to women who do not have weight issues and who appear to be comfortable and happy to live in their own skin and who don't sit around sizing up and leveling others. These women are not easy to find. Sad truth.

It's easy to not be bothered by them when you're not taking the brunt of them on a daily basis. And what is "People are people"?