Online Dating.. ugh

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sallywilson06
sallywilson06 Posts: 269 Member
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Yes I went there.. If you don't want to listen to me vent I suggest you stop reading now..!!!

I am currently on an online dating site and had the courage to message a guy in my area that seemed like we had similar interests, we talked for about 3 days straight.. then he tells me.. No Offense, but you're not fit enough for me to date. He likes girls that are super sporty and athletic.. which I am not.

I got huffy but decided at least he was honest with me and I told him that I am trying to lose weight and that I have struggled with it my whole life. I decided to keep talking to him with no intentions of dating but just talking to for fitness advice and chatting.. He wasn't all that bad..

After I got done at the gym last night he was texting me asking how my workout went and I told him I'm going to get in the shower.. "He's like wait for me...!! " so I told him he would NEVER see my A** naked because he dismissed me the way I am now. Then he was like Ohh what if I whip you into shape..??

I guess I am just annoyed, he tells me that I am very pretty and that he was happy that I messaged him but wouldn't date someone like me because I'm not in the best of shape..

Has anyone else gotten this sort of stuff from being on there?
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  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,022 Member
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    I don't think it's wrong that he only wants to date very fit women. That's a personal preference, and everyone has some. But he is a jerk for basically saying "I won't date you, but I'd bang you in the shower."

    You should joing the Single Peeps group. Lots of experienced online daters there.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/282-single-peeps
  • chachita7
    chachita7 Posts: 996 Member
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    you should have responded - "you can whip me in to shape for someone who values who I am regardless of what I look like"
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
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    I had someone message me once and ask if I had any friends he could write to. :huh:

    I wouldn't correspond with that guy anymore, by the way. He doesn't deserve your time. You are too sweet of a girl.
  • KCoolBeanz
    KCoolBeanz Posts: 813 Member
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    Since you kept on corresponding, he's going to just keep it up at his convenience. You don't need that garbage. Find someone who digs you for who you are :-)
  • daveclrk58
    daveclrk58 Posts: 258
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    Sorry that happened to you. Not a very nice thing to do at all. There is nothing wrong with you, so don't sweat him. Keep on, keepin' on!!
  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
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    To be honest, I'd feel the way you mentioned. I would let him know he's friend zoned with no hope of ever getting promoted. I mean really, would you want to be in a relationship and always have it in the back of your mind.. what if something happened and I gained weight.. would he be out the door? Plus, I agree with the quote that's been blasted on all social networks from Marilyn Monroe.. if you can't handle me at my worst, you sure as he(( don't deserve me at my best.
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
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    Apparently you live in Vancouver, BC? I hear this kind of stuff from my single friends pretty often! You are good enough to text with, possibly good enough for a booty call at some point, but not good enough to date. He'll message you flirty things when he's lonely, but that's about it! It has nothing to do with your body or how fit he likes his women - he's a player. Delete his texts, number and block his dating profile. Save yourself the mind games. :flowerforyou: (You are very pretty by the way)
    Another tip that I swear by even though it sounds old fashioned - if a guy likes you, he'll make the effort and message/text/call/see you. I wouldn't ever message men first. They'll be flattered probably, but you want someone who is actually interested in you! Don't settle for "he wasn't all that bad..."
  • thomassd1969
    thomassd1969 Posts: 564 Member
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    I did have a guy tell me this but he was a marathon runner and wanted someone similiar. He told me after we email a couple times just to be honest with me. I didnt take offense to it but yours is somewhat different.
  • sallywilson06
    sallywilson06 Posts: 269 Member
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    Apparently you live in Vancouver, BC? I hear this kind of stuff from my single friends pretty often! You are good enough to text with, possibly good enough for a booty call at some point, but not good enough to date. He'll message you flirty things when he's lonely, but that's about it! It has nothing to do with your body or how fit he likes his women - he's a player. Delete his texts, number and block his dating profile. Save yourself the mind games. :flowerforyou: (You are very pretty by the way)
    Another tip that I swear by even though it sounds old fashioned - if a guy likes you, he'll make the effort and message/text/call/see you. I wouldn't ever message men first. They'll be flattered probably, but you want someone who is actually interested in you! Don't settle for "he wasn't all that bad..."


    Thanks, Yea he's asked me to hang out with him a couple of times and I have distanced myself from him since he said what he said and still he keeps e-mailing and texting daily.. I guess I just don't get it.
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
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    You played hard to get is what happened...
  • KCoolBeanz
    KCoolBeanz Posts: 813 Member
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    The bottom line, is that if you're getting a "skeezy" feeling from him, trust your gut.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
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    If he can't get accept you right now he doesn't deserve you. I am sorry you met someone like that.
  • jad54
    jad54 Posts: 192
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    You should try this site. Lots of keepers here.

    http://www.meet-an-inmate.com/


    In all seriousness, good luck on your journey. That guys sounds like a guy that thinks he has game, but in reality (where most of us reside), he turns to internet porn on the reg.
  • daveclrk58
    daveclrk58 Posts: 258
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    Apparently you live in Vancouver, BC? I hear this kind of stuff from my single friends pretty often! You are good enough to text with, possibly good enough for a booty call at some point, but not good enough to date. He'll message you flirty things when he's lonely, but that's about it! It has nothing to do with your body or how fit he likes his women - he's a player. Delete his texts, number and block his dating profile. Save yourself the mind games. :flowerforyou: (You are very pretty by the way)
    Another tip that I swear by even though it sounds old fashioned - if a guy likes you, he'll make the effort and message/text/call/see you. I wouldn't ever message men first. They'll be flattered probably, but you want someone who is actually interested in you! Don't settle for "he wasn't all that bad..."


    Thanks, Yea he's asked me to hang out with him a couple of times and I have distanced myself from him since he said what he said and still he keeps e-mailing and texting daily.. I guess I just don't get it.

    He's holding out hope that you'll be a booty call. Nothing more. Delete him off your list, off your phone, and out of your life!
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
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    Good for you. If he doesn't like you now, then why give it up to him?

    Try craigslist casual encounters. Lots of legit people who are far less judgemental on who responds to ads.
  • gympamela
    gympamela Posts: 188 Member
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    Been there, done that. I have been told Im too fat, not pretty enough, dont make enough money Etc etc....hang in there and dont let yourself become a booty call :) HUGS
  • GB333
    GB333 Posts: 261 Member
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    Yikes! He sounds like trouble. I think I would cut communication with him.

    But stick with it - online dating does work. I met my husband on eHarmony! (I highly recommend eHarmony over the rest, as well. They are worth the more expensive price!)
  • TexanThom
    TexanThom Posts: 778
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    Just goes to show you.....Fools are everywhere.
  • lcashy
    lcashy Posts: 34 Member
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    There are decent men out there on dating sites. Imet mine on one, nearly 4 years ago. Now we are engaged to be married. Sometimes you have gotta kiss frogs before you find your Prince Charming. As a previous poster said though, go with your gut instinct xx
  • RikanSoulja
    RikanSoulja Posts: 463 Member
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    I see what he did there. He said your not fit enough to date but never said you weren't fit enough for other activities.

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