Online Dating.. ugh
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I don't think it's wrong that he only wants to date very fit women. That's a personal preference, and everyone has some. But he is a jerk for basically saying "I won't date you, but I'd bang you in the shower."
Agree. He can have a personal preference for women who are more fit. It's like the guys on here that have personal preferences for women with more cushioning, and who don't hit the gym as hard as they do. It's just a preference, and nothing more.
The joking about the shower thing though sounds like he wouldn't mind keeping you open as an option when he's bored for a casual meet up fling now and then. Been there, done that. Casual flings aren't all that bad, if you're truly okay with it never going anywhere long-term, but it sounds like you want something more. If that's the case, then it might be more worth your while to just stop talking to him, because he's already told you his interests, which don't include you and your current lifestyle.0 -
i would use THAT as motivation! get fit...then say screw you. or just say screw you to begin with. lol either way works, the first option may be a more fun. i've always used ex boyfriends, or guys that i want to impress as motivation to work harder. NOT saying that my fitness is for other people, im absolutely doing it for myself, but its a nice little push0
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I don't think it's wrong that he only wants to date very fit women. That's a personal preference, and everyone has some. But he is a jerk for basically saying "I won't date you, but I'd bang you in the shower."
^^^^^ Totally agree with this!!!! (and on a side note, I get the impression that you are still texting him, etc. in the hopes that he WILL change his mind. That maybe when you DO lose the weight, he'll be interested. I would cut your losses w/ this guy and find someone that appreciates you for YOU...a few extra pounds or NOT.
Best of luck. I can sympathize, as I'm on a few of those sites. It gets old FAST, that's for sure!! 0 -
being that you are from van.. and it is a dating site... and your age.. i am pretty sure i know which one.. and the one is basiclly a hook up spot for *kitten*.. sorry... there are the rare ok guy on there but i find.. not alot are there.. i have meet a couple of great guys on it.. but majority are about the sex.
You are a beautiful person.. and this jerk is looking at you like a back burner.. keep her there till i find someone or she is "at his standard"
honestly hun.. just tell him no and walk away... there are plenty of guys in van that are not douches (although we have our fair share of them... )
I wish you luck in this dating scence in van.. it is a tough one.. best of luck to you!!!0 -
I think you're gorgeous.
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I tried online dating. I ended up marrying him. though the first thing he did say to me when we met was "you look better in pictures". i didnt use a dating sight. i used craigslist lol which is NOT a conventional way of meeting people. But weve been married 3 years next month. he's adopting my 4 year old,and we have a two year old together.
some men are set in there ways about "Weigh" on woman. but doesnt mean they still wont sleep with them. pretty messed up in my opinion.0 -
sounds like he wants a "booty call" from you and that's it. No friendship and no serious relationship so I would RUN from him for sure.0
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What's with guy's these days? Bang in the shower then tell them they are not datable. lol Seems like I'm always paying for the stupid crap these idiots do. Good guys are out there you just have to look.0
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My friend is on match.com. She is about 4'11 on a good day, and she's very upfront about it. Some dude started messaging her telling her he thought they would click, but he couldn't date someone so short. WTH??
Edited to add that you are a beautiful girl, and shouldn't even friend people like that. I have a son that is about your age and would genuinely like a girl like you. Nice guys are out there, I promise. I'm married to one, gave birth to two of them!!0 -
I met a TON of really creepy or mean people who said awful things when I tried that.
I finally met my current boyfriend which made it worth it. He's so sweet =]
Don't even bother with people who make comments like that because even if you have no intention of dating him, what kind of a jerk he must be to even say that.0 -
I got a good one the other day. A guy messaged me on a dating site and i knew i shouldnt have opened the message when the subject line was "Yo", but i did.... he wasnt local, looked stoned in his profile pic and seemed like a total d0uche! He eventually asked me if my pics were current and i said that they were pretty current. He replied "Oh." I asked, "Why Oh?" He said, "Well your profile says that you've lost like 90lbs. I was hoping those were your before pictures because you're still a fatass"
I mean damn dude....
Where's my forever alone meme when I need it?0 -
I got a good one the other day. A guy messaged me on a dating site and i knew i shouldnt have opened the message when the subject line was "Yo", but i did.... he wasnt local, looked stoned in his profile pic and seemed like a total d0uche! He eventually asked me if my pics were current and i said that they were pretty current. He replied "Oh." I asked, "Why Oh?" He said, "Well your profile says that you've lost like 90lbs. I was hoping those were your before pictures because you're still a fatass"
I mean damn dude....
Where's my forever alone meme when I need it?
OMG...you have GOT to be kidding! What an absolute JERK!! Hope you came back w/ a helluva one-liner and deleted his *kitten*!0 -
What a tool, I mean props for being honest and all but now it sounds like he's just keeping you on the hook.0
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I don't think it's wrong that he only wants to date very fit women. That's a personal preference, and everyone has some. But he is a jerk for basically saying "I won't date you, but I'd bang you in the shower."
^^^^^ Totally agree with this!!!! (and on a side note, I get the impression that you are still texting him, etc. in the hopes that he WILL change his mind. That maybe when you DO lose the weight, he'll be interested. I would cut your losses w/ this guy and find someone that appreciates you for YOU...a few extra pounds or NOT. Best of luck. I can sympathize, as I'm on a few of those sites. It gets old FAST, that's for sure!!
This just happened yesterday.. actually last night! Haven't talked to him today though.0 -
I got a good one the other day. A guy messaged me on a dating site and i knew i shouldnt have opened the message when the subject line was "Yo", but i did.... he wasnt local, looked stoned in his profile pic and seemed like a total d0uche! He eventually asked me if my pics were current and i said that they were pretty current. He replied "Oh." I asked, "Why Oh?" He said, "Well your profile says that you've lost like 90lbs. I was hoping those were your before pictures because you're still a fatass"
I mean damn dude....
Where's my forever alone meme when I need it?
What a freaking JERK!! Wow thats terrible. I have gotten the chubby comments but that it just freaking ignorant as hell!0 -
Been there done that on the online bit.
I give him props for at least telling you he doesn't have interest, though the reason behind is far too superficial.
In my experiences, it's been 2 dates that go great, but then never another response. Seriously, not sure what is worse, what you experienced in someone that was at least open and honest about what they like, or the pure lack of respect in saying the truth and using someone for a night out.0 -
Sorry to say this, but really don't take this online dating too seriously! If this guy is bothering you (as in you don't like his comments and stuff,), just stop texting/talking to him!
Other messages you get that bother you, just delete and move on. I have found people tend to be a little more bold when messaging someone they haven't met before.
Just take it as a factor of doing the whole "online dating" thing and move on. It's really not that big of a deal.
I hope I don't sound snarky at all, but have been online dating more than I'd like to admit, LOL, and have grown to have a pretty thick skin from it. It's just not that serious. However, one day you may just find the man of your dreams and it will be all worth it in the end
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Sounds a bit egotistcal to me, maybe it's a good thing your're not going to date him.
If that's what you're wanting to call it, then I guess I'll consider it the same. But there's reasons as to why I choose to date fit/active people. It fits w/ my personality now and my lifestyle now.0 -
I met my hubby online in july 2006 and when I met him in person in july 2007 he said "you're smaller than I thought." LOL :P I had an eating disorder before I met him online so when we got married in November 2007 he ALWAYS made sure I ate which made me gain weight. I am losing weight now and when I tell him how it is going he is very supportive.
Forget that guy because you need a guy who will accept you for who you are! You're beautiful!!!!0 -
No Offense, but you're not fit enough for me to date. He likes girls that are super sporty and athletic.. which I am not.
Yep, men are strange enough, some of them even looking for dating with models http://top4vip.com/dating/
But how you get along with each other counts at last.0
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