Ladies - If a doc said this to you...
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Wow...isn't 'reporting him to the insurance company" a bit extreme? And it also sounds a bit self-involved to think him losing his train of thought actually had to do with the special powers of her shaved lady parts? C'mon people...these guys look at them ALL DAY LONG. I highly doubt it had anything to do with her shaving skills...I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.
As for the male-only doctor opinion...a lot of women feel that way (which is fine), but are you assuming your doctor couldn't possibly ever be a lesbian then?0 -
most woman are shaved, and a lot are pierced.
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I'd be flattered!
He sees those things everyday - so hers must have been special.
That's what i would do. I had a doc that was giving me an exam and said "so, what religion are you?" I had to stop for a sec and think "Do different beliefs have different vaginas???" I just answered.."Umm, im sorry, what?" And he said, "oh, i was just making conversation" . LOL, I also had one tell me (a woman this time) "you have a BEAUTIFUL cervix" ...LOL, thanks i guess.0 -
I probably would've come back with something like, "yeah that happens to me too whenever I see a bald cat"...but then, I'm weird, LOL! :laugh:0
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Yes. Assume the worst, jump to conclusions, and contribute to what has made doctors' fees so high: frivolous lawsuits and the outrageous amounts that docs have to pay to protect themselves from them. :huh:I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.0 -
I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.
Ummm...I don't really understand your statement. His loss of thought could of been from a number of things...it doesn't necessariliy mean that he was distracted by her pheonominal PuCat. I think you're being a bit harsh...I mean seriously...are you the lady at work that is filing sexual harrasment charges because some guy compliments your shirt???? He didn't sexually assault her in any way! We've all done things at work at one point or another that was embarrassing...in fact...once I walked all the way down the hallway with my skirt tucked into my panties...but I wasn't sexually assaulting anyone and that's waaaay more inappropriate than a doctor losing his train of thought.0 -
Did I say I was going to file a lawsuit? No. I said I would file a complaint with my insurance company. Just so they were aware he behaved in an inappropriate manner and there is something on file.
Yes. Assume the worst, jump to conclusions, and contribute to what has made doctors' fees so high: frivolous lawsuits and the outrageous amounts that docs have to pay to protect themselves from them. :huh:I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.0 -
You would be totally right if there were reason to believe that there was something sexual going on. But I just don't see it. It's funny because that's the initial reaction someone might have, but to really believe it you'd have to have a very high opinion of yourself...I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.0 -
I'd be flattered!
He sees those things everyday - so hers must have been special.
That's what i would do. I had a doc that was giving me an exam and said "so, what religion are you?" I had to stop for a sec and think "Do different beliefs have different vaginas???" I just answered.."Umm, im sorry, what?" And he said, "oh, i was just making conversation" . LOL, I also had one tell me (a woman this time) "you have a BEAUTIFUL cervix" ...LOL, thanks i guess.
I actually had the cervix thing happen to me! She said that it was perfectly placed (cause some women's cervix's go straight back or some at an angle...we are all different). Then she said...its really a beautiful location! :laugh:0 -
Did I say I was going to file a lawsuit? No. I said I would file a complaint with my insurance company. Just so they were aware he behaved in an inappropriate manner and there is something on file.
Yes. Assume the worst, jump to conclusions, and contribute to what has made doctors' fees so high: frivolous lawsuits and the outrageous amounts that docs have to pay to protect themselves from them. :huh:I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.
See it's people like you who have turned US healthcare into what it is. Doctors constantly living in fear of having a frivolous complaint/lawsuit slapped on them, because you took offense to something that is clearly innocent, hence, my original comment...0 -
Did I say I was going to file a lawsuit? No. I said I would file a complaint with my insurance company. Just so they were aware he behaved in an inappropriate manner and there is something on file.
Yes. Assume the worst, jump to conclusions, and contribute to what has made doctors' fees so high: frivolous lawsuits and the outrageous amounts that docs have to pay to protect themselves from them. :huh:I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.
I hate to tell ya this, but you would want to complain to the office manager. The insurance company could really give a rats *kitten*.0 -
Well this didn't happen to me, like I said it was on a page and thought it was funny and wanted to share. I didn't assume it had anything to do with shaving at all. Infact my response was "I'd probably say something like "Yeah porn start material right?" Just cus I'm a joker when it comes to things like this. But even if it was just a brain fart, you gotta admit, it would be just a little awkward to hear lol.0
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I would have to laugh with him. He's only trying to ease the tension in the first place. That would be funny..
I had a breast reduction... Yes a reduction. I was rather large. Well, my first visit after the surgery was hilarious.. My doctor said, lets see how things are going, when he moved the paper shirt back and says to me.. "um, I didnt reduce these just for you to layout in the sun with a skimppy top on".. my reply... now that I can , I will!! I wasnt embarassed.. he was actually being honest.0 -
Another oldie but goodie we can all relate to!
I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist late in the week.
Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor’s office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am. I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am.
The trip to his office took about thirty-five minutes, so I didn’t have an time to spare. As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn’t going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash in that area to make sure I was at least presentable.
I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, grabbed some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.
I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in. Knowing the procedure, as I’m sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away.
I was a little surprised when the doctor said, “My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven’t we?” I didn’t respond.
After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home.
The rest of the day was normal: some shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. After school when my six year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, “Mommy, where’s my washcloth?” I told her to get another one from the cupboard.
She replied, “No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it.”
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I'd be freaked out. But then again, the idea of a male gyn freaks me out, lol. Hell...having a GYN at ALL freaks me out. I'm weird, lol.0
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Logically, do you really think that a doc -- someone that has the cloud of lawsuits and liability hanging over their head constantly -- would be stupid enough to risk their hard-earned education, licensing and livelihood to make an offensive comment? Are you familiar with "Occam's razor"? In a a nutshell, it's: "Other things being equal, a simpler explanation is better than a more complex one." Another version is: "When you have two competing theories that make exactly the same predictions, the simpler one is the better."
Which version is the simpler, and more plausible one?
a) The doc was making a lewd remark about the patient's vulva, or
b) It was an innocent remark, having nothing to do with the patient's vulva?
Life's much more pleasant when one doesn't assume the worst of everyone. The only exception? When driving -- assume that everyone is a ****head and drive defensively.0 -
Another oldie but goodie we can all relate to!
I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist late in the week.
Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor’s office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am. I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am.
The trip to his office took about thirty-five minutes, so I didn’t have an time to spare. As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn’t going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash in that area to make sure I was at least presentable.
I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, grabbed some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.
I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in. Knowing the procedure, as I’m sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away.
I was a little surprised when the doctor said, “My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven’t we?” I didn’t respond.
After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home.
The rest of the day was normal: some shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. After school when my six year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, “Mommy, where’s my washcloth?” I told her to get another one from the cupboard.
She replied, “No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it.”
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OMG!! ROFL!!! this is great...0 -
I don't go to male GYN because from my own experience they are ROUGH! One time I was laying there and he went to put that duck thing in me and when it wouldn't go in he started twisting and shoving and I screamed "Hey that hurts!" and he apologized and was more gentle after that. I felt like he was treating my vagina like it was a hole in the ground and not something sensitive and full of nerves. Jeez.
And yeah that was totally inappropriate what he said and she should have corrected him right then and there.0 -
Another oldie but goodie we can all relate to!
I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist late in the week.
Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor’s office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am. I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am.
The trip to his office took about thirty-five minutes, so I didn’t have an time to spare. As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn’t going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash in that area to make sure I was at least presentable.
I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, grabbed some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.
I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in. Knowing the procedure, as I’m sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away.
I was a little surprised when the doctor said, “My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven’t we?” I didn’t respond.
After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home.
The rest of the day was normal: some shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. After school when my six year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, “Mommy, where’s my washcloth?” I told her to get another one from the cupboard.
She replied, “No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it.”
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I'm sitting at work and I really couldn't help but laugh out loud!!!!!!!!! TOO FUNNY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!0 -
Sure, there is the possibility that the remark was entirely innocent. We all have moments where we "forget what we are doing" and announce it. But in the middle of such a sensitive exam is absolutely not one of those moment. And maybe my response is colored by personal experience and the desire to get out of bad situations as fast as possible. There are women who carry weapons on them when they run, just as an example. Do they get judged by the community at large for assuming the worst? No.Same mentality. It boils down to you being one of those people that rather than speak up and clarify the situation, walks away and makes a stink about it later.
Logically, do you really think that a doc -- someone that has the cloud of lawsuits and liability hanging over their head constantly -- would be stupid enough to risk their hard-earned education, licensing and livelihood to make an offensive comment? Are you familiar with "Occam's razor"? In a a nutshell, it's: "Other things being equal, a simpler explanation is better than a more complex one." Another version is: "When you have two competing theories that make exactly the same predictions, the simpler one is the better."
Which version is the simpler, and more plausible one?
a) The doc was making a lewd remark about the patient's vulva, or
b) It was an innocent remark, having nothing to do with the patient's vulva?
Life's much more pleasant when one doesn't assume the worst of everyone. The only exception? When driving -- assume that everyone is a ****head and drive defensively.
Even if it was an entirely innocent remark it still would have made me so completely uncomfortable that it's unreal. I'm no saying "Oh I'm so hot even my doctor is hitting on me!" I'm saying that it's better safe than sorry. I can think of dozens of articles I've read over time of doctors assaulting their patients(interestingly enough usually dentists).
I'm going to ask that you try to think about this situation from the mind of a survivor of sexual assault.
ETA: And just so we're clear, even if the doctor was a woman, it still would have made me uncomfortable and I'd have the same responses I did if it were a man.0 -
If it were my doctor, I'd laugh and joke with him. Then again, I've been with my doctor for many years & I've got a great repoire with him. In fact, I have a girl friend who goes to him too & she tells him she tidies up for him. :laugh: I would say, however, it depends on the doctor. If you get a creepy & uncomfortable feeling, then leave. There are plenty of doctors, male and female, to choose from.0
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Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!0
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Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!
BAHAHAHA!!!0 -
Depends...is he hot?
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Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!
BAHAHAHA!!!
OMG...that's awesome!0 -
Another oldie but goodie we can all relate to!
I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist late in the week.
Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor’s office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am. I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am.
The trip to his office took about thirty-five minutes, so I didn’t have an time to spare. As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn’t going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash in that area to make sure I was at least presentable.
I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, grabbed some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.
I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in. Knowing the procedure, as I’m sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away.
I was a little surprised when the doctor said, “My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven’t we?” I didn’t respond.
After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home.
The rest of the day was normal: some shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. After school when my six year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, “Mommy, where’s my washcloth?” I told her to get another one from the cupboard.
She replied, “No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it.”
Via http://www.divinecaroline.com/22324/41669-washcloth#ixzz1uTxBgwiv
OMG I laughed at that!!! :laugh:0 -
Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!
And here we have today's winner, LMFAO!! :laugh: :laugh:0 -
I had a GYN tell me i had the "prettiest one he had ever seen" uhhh yeah
i never went back.0 -
Sure, there is the possibility that the remark was entirely innocent. We all have moments where we "forget what we are doing" and announce it. But in the middle of such a sensitive exam is absolutely not one of those moment. And maybe my response is colored by personal experience and the desire to get out of bad situations as fast as possible. There are women who carry weapons on them when they run, just as an example. Do they get judged by the community at large for assuming the worst? No.Same mentality. It boils down to you being one of those people that rather than speak up and clarify the situation, walks away and makes a stink about it later.
Logically, do you really think that a doc -- someone that has the cloud of lawsuits and liability hanging over their head constantly -- would be stupid enough to risk their hard-earned education, licensing and livelihood to make an offensive comment? Are you familiar with "Occam's razor"? In a a nutshell, it's: "Other things being equal, a simpler explanation is better than a more complex one." Another version is: "When you have two competing theories that make exactly the same predictions, the simpler one is the better."
Which version is the simpler, and more plausible one?
a) The doc was making a lewd remark about the patient's vulva, or
b) It was an innocent remark, having nothing to do with the patient's vulva?
Life's much more pleasant when one doesn't assume the worst of everyone. The only exception? When driving -- assume that everyone is a ****head and drive defensively.
Even if it was an entirely innocent remark it still would have made me so completely uncomfortable that it's unreal. I'm no saying "Oh I'm so hot even my doctor is hitting on me!" I'm saying that it's better safe than sorry. I can think of dozens of articles I've read over time of doctors assaulting their patients(interestingly enough usually dentists).
I'm going to ask that you try to think about this situation from the mind of a survivor of sexual assault.
ETA: And just so we're clear, even if the doctor was a woman, it still would have made me uncomfortable and I'd have the same responses I did if it were a man.
I can sympathize more with this perspective...but just so we're clear...those women carrying weapons are also not going to the police because a man smiled at them or said hello while they were jogging. Its okay to be a bit more sensitive if you are a sexual assault survivor...that is when you request a nurse with you at all times so you're never a lone with anyone and if something "inappropriate" happens...you be sure to let the dr know you're sensitive to comments like that and would appreciate if they kept it more professional..perhaps change doctors if you're still uncomfortable. But you don't go putting a man's whole career at risk on what could have been an innocent comment/mistake.0 -
I wouldn't worry really probably just really bad timing or something haha0
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