Ladies - If a doc said this to you...

I don't understand the people who are saying "Well she should be flattered!" Hell no she shouldn't. If she(or you!) wants to laugh it off, that's her right. But I would immediately ended the appointment, found a new GYN, and reported him to my insurance for what I feel is inappropriate behavior. Then again, I absolutely refuse to have any male doctors.

Yes. Assume the worst, jump to conclusions, and contribute to what has made doctors' fees so high: frivolous lawsuits and the outrageous amounts that docs have to pay to protect themselves from them. :huh:

Did I say I was going to file a lawsuit? No. I said I would file a complaint with my insurance company. Just so they were aware he behaved in an inappropriate manner and there is something on file.

Another oldie but goodie we can all relate to!

I was due for an appointment with the gynecologist late in the week.

Early one morning, I received a call from the doctor’s office to tell me that I had been rescheduled for that morning at 9:30 am. I had only just packed everyone off to work and school, and it was already around 8:45 am.

The trip to his office took about thirty-five minutes, so I didn’t have an time to spare. As most women do, I like to take a little extra effort over hygiene when making such visits, but this time I wasn’t going to be able to make the full effort. So, I rushed upstairs, threw off my pajamas, wet the washcloth that was sitting next to the sink, and gave myself a quick wash in that area to make sure I was at least presentable.

I threw the washcloth in the clothes basket, grabbed some clothes, hopped in the car and raced to my appointment.

I was in the waiting room for only a few minutes when I was called in. Knowing the procedure, as I’m sure you do, I hopped up on the table, looked over at the other side of the room and pretended that I was in Paris or some other place a million miles away.

I was a little surprised when the doctor said, “My, we have made an extra effort this morning, haven’t we?” I didn’t respond.

After the appointment, I heaved a sigh of relief and went home.

The rest of the day was normal: some shopping, cleaning, cooking, etc. After school when my six year old daughter was playing, she called out from the bathroom, “Mommy, where’s my washcloth?” I told her to get another one from the cupboard.

She replied, “No, I need the one that was here by the sink, it had all my glitter and sparkles saved inside it.”



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Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!

BAHAHAHA!!!

Well I guess it's better than being a guy and having the Doc ask "Is it cold in here?" when you take your pants off!

Same mentality. It boils down to you being one of those people that rather than speak up and clarify the situation, walks away and makes a stink about it later.

Logically, do you really think that a doc -- someone that has the cloud of lawsuits and liability hanging over their head constantly -- would be stupid enough to risk their hard-earned education, licensing and livelihood to make an offensive comment? Are you familiar with "Occam's razor"? In a a nutshell, it's: "Other things being equal, a simpler explanation is better than a more complex one." Another version is: "When you have two competing theories that make exactly the same predictions, the simpler one is the better."

Which version is the simpler, and more plausible one?

a) The doc was making a lewd remark about the patient's vulva, or
b) It was an innocent remark, having nothing to do with the patient's vulva?

Life's much more pleasant when one doesn't assume the worst of everyone. The only exception? When driving -- assume that everyone is a ****head and drive defensively.

Sure, there is the possibility that the remark was entirely innocent. We all have moments where we "forget what we are doing" and announce it. But in the middle of such a sensitive exam is absolutely not one of those moment. And maybe my response is colored by personal experience and the desire to get out of bad situations as fast as possible. There are women who carry weapons on them when they run, just as an example. Do they get judged by the community at large for assuming the worst? No.

Even if it was an entirely innocent remark it still would have made me so completely uncomfortable that it's unreal. I'm no saying "Oh I'm so hot even my doctor is hitting on me!" I'm saying that it's better safe than sorry. I can think of dozens of articles I've read over time of doctors assaulting their patients(interestingly enough usually dentists).

I'm going to ask that you try to think about this situation from the mind of a survivor of sexual assault.
ETA: And just so we're clear, even if the doctor was a woman, it still would have made me uncomfortable and I'd have the same responses I did if it were a man.