Help ladies before I punch someone... PLEASE

I had anxiety problems too so my doc wrote me scrip for Ativan/Lorazapan...at first I took it when I felt anxious then I realized that if get a good nights sleep my anxieties disappear...so now I take one every night right before I go to bed, I sleep great, wake up feeling fine and have no more anxiety issues....

I often go through the same things... I'm a single parent with very little support at home. I have twin 7 year old boys one of which is a special needs child. I drive an hour to work and an hour home everyday and workout 7 days a week. I have to be chef, coordinator, fashion consultant, hair stylist, hygenist, maid, tutor, worker, driver, exercise machine, laundry attendant and so much more for my boys. Add in my mother who lives with us. She does nothing..... she's there when my kids get home from school, but she spends her time off in her room watching tv and checking on my kids to make sure they aren't breaking stuff. She doesn't cook, doesn't clean, only washes her own clothes but won't fold them and leaves them in the dryer. She works but spends a lot of her money on crap and her cigarette habit. So, it's like having a third really, really grown child in the house who makes a huge mess.

For me, exercise is key... so is my nutrition. If I don't eat well enough, I'm tired and cranky and all stabby feeling and such. If I don't workout at least some everyday, I get the same way. My caffeine intake is closely monitored so I can get some sleep at night which is very important. I also started listening to hypnosis tapes at night. They help me to relax and fall asleep and they are also kind of weight focused... moreso life-motivational, but you get that idea. I was offered medication and took some for a while, but I felt like the meds just made me not give a crap whether or not my life was good or bad. I didn't like that. So, I'm med free and doing things to take care of myself as best I can.

In all honesty, the first thing I would lose is the couch potato boyfriend. You seem to have enough stress in your life. Get rid of some of it. He's good for at least, what, maybe 180lbs of it?? Then you need to re-analyze and re-prioratize. How much time and energy is the "side business" using up, and how much actual income is it bringing in? You have enough on your plate. Before I turn to meds or anything, I would simplify and see where you are then.

This. I had to do it too. but i'm so much happier now. i lost 235lbs over night lol

If punching people is wrong, I don't wanna be right. It kind of sounds like your boyfriend is asking for it.

My moods have drastically improved since taking a B-complex vitamin (includes B12). A doc recommended it to me years ago for PMS and I only now got around to taking it.

However, no supplement or vitamin, no tipz&trikz will be able to give you the necessary catharsis of removing stressful people and things from your life.

St. John's Wort. If your not taking any meds, this would help you with your anxiety and stress. I too am a single mother, and when my daughter was young and I was severely stressed out, this is what I tried and found it helped tremendously.
Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

I was just about to recommend that! I take St. John's Wort every day and it has really improved my over all mood. I too have zero patience.

This sounds like a cheaper alternative to depression meds and I assume it doesnt have all the crazy side effects?.?. I may try this to see if it helps. Thank you

St. John's Wort has lots of drug interactions. Speak with a pharmacist or physician before you start it.
Just because it's herbal doesn't mean it's safe/the right one for everybody and has no side effects.

i had a simlar problem, being a single working Mom who takes cares of a household (and all of its bills herself). I found myself getting stressed and yelling a lot more than i like to admit.
Since i really started making more time for exercise and eating right my moods have been way better and things dont get me stressed as much. I say set an exercise schedule and cut out processed foods and junk foods from your diet and you will feel much better.

Definitely take some St. John's Wort. Also, if you are interested, I can suggest some essential oils/aromatherapy stuff that would help a ton. Message me if you are interested in that.

Ok so this is what works for me--I pray, get on my knees and pray and cry and tell God everything that is going on, not that he doesnt already know! but it works everytime for me cuz by the time I get done crying and talking, I ask for his help, then I tell him thanks for listening and for even allowing me to experience what I'm going thru because I know someone out there is worse off than me.

I didn't read all the comments so I don't know if this has been said. It seems scary but if your bf is sub-par, remember there are a TON of fish in the sea!!! Go find a better man! Have an honest talk with yours, if he won't change, trade him in! Can you really say that your bf's laziness isn't the source of a LOT of your anxiety? Been there, hon.

Have you had recent blood work done? Vitamin and mineral deficiencies can cause crazy mood swings and anxiety. Get your levels checked and make sure you are getting everything you need!

In need of opinions and please only serious ones. I have crazy mood swings (not just because I am a woman) and absolutely NO PATIENCE. Being a single parent is insanely hard to do sometimes add a bf that only gets off the couch to ask if I need help when I am half way done with everything I need to do, a full time job, a full time side business (the bf’s but we both run it), and all the other issues life randomly throws in your face, I don’t handle stress or change well. Anyway I have been to a couple different docs. One wants to try me on a bagillion different depression meds, which haven’t worked. They either make me so tired that I am sleeping my way through work or they interfere with other meds I take. End result I told her she was just pissing me off because she is treating me for depression which is not my issue—its ANXIETY lady good grief. So the next doc said diet and exercise, and cutting out some things. Ok doc, I exercise daily or at least 4 times a week, I cut out school to focus on my kid and work, and my diet is not bad overall. NONE of this has helped! Do any of you have any suggestions on what may help because I am at my whits end here…..:grumble:

Are you on any kind of hormonal therapy or birth control? Several kind of BC made me CRAZY... depressed, angry, even suicidal for a while. My hubby and I split for a while because of it! Once I switched to something that worked better for me it all went away. But if you are on birth control taking St. John's wort can make it ineffective. :grumble:

St. John's Wort. If your not taking any meds, this would help you with your anxiety and stress. I too am a single mother, and when my daughter was young and I was severely stressed out, this is what I tried and found it helped tremendously.
Hang in there. :flowerforyou:

I was just about to recommend that! I take St. John's Wort every day and it has really improved my over all mood. I too have zero patience.

This sounds like a cheaper alternative to depression meds and I assume it doesnt have all the crazy side effects?.?. I may try this to see if it helps. Thank you

St. John's Wort has lots of drug interactions. Speak with a pharmacist or physician before you start it.
Just because it's herbal doesn't mean it's safe/the right one for everybody and has no side effects.

That's why I stated it if she wasn't taking any meds. Thanks for making that point because I probably didn't make that clear. I'm not being sarcastic, I just realized reading your post that I didn't state it clear enough because it's very true that it can and does interact with prescription drugs. :flowerforyou:

grab a pillow and scream as loud as you can. Also, find a quite place, and then blast your favorites music and dance... Works to relieve stress for me.
I hope you find what you are looking for.

This is probably going to be the most UNpopular advice, but I'm gonna tell you what has helped me the most. Before I do... let me tell you, that I do know what it's like to have stress in your life. I am a single mom of three kids. I have been married to a bipolar drug addict whom I had to get a restraining order on and then he died about six months later. During all this time, I attended to college while raising three kids on my own and working. I've been married again and am now going through a divorce. I am facing unemployment. My bills are piled up to the ceiling because I was out of work for five months when my husband left.

Not a pity party. Just want you to know that I know stress. Did I mention I'm also a middle school teacher? LOL

Anyway.. I can hold my head high. I can make it through the day. I can still smile. I can get up in the morning with a positive attitude.

And do you know why?

Because I gave my life to God. I have a relationship with Jesus Christ. And I give him my struggles on a daily basis. He is my strength. He is my source.

I don't take any kind of medication except for vitamins. I am now trying to eat healthy and exercise. But the thing that makes the biggest difference in my life is my faith in God.

cognitive behavioral therapy.