JUST FRIENDS!

i can't speak to this in "general"

but i KNOW beyond any shadow of doubt...that i cannot be just friends....i can behave myself if need be and at the request of the other party....but i'm far too sexual to be "just friends"

me, somebody, and who

lol

hmmmmm...i may want to remain silent here.....if i say it's you, somebody, and who....will i risk deletion?....if not

ABSOLUTELY...lol

I personally, don't think I could ever just be friends with a guy. Mine's just fear, I'm scared to be alone with a man, other than my husband or a family member. It's a long story....

My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years. We've never dated each other and never had "benefits" with each other... wouldn't even want to (and yes, that's true for both of us). We've both been in relationships and we're respectful of the relationship when the other is dating someone and that makes it work. He's never dated someone who has had to resent me, and I've never dated anyone who resents him. No, I don't think it always works, but it does for us.

of course they can.

I don't know. I have mixed feelings about this. I am pretty sure that I could be just friends with a man if that man would allow us to be just friends. However, in my experience with this, I have never done it successfully. Every time I think I'm just friends with a man... I find out that he has different feelings for me.. whether it be wanting a relationship or wanting a more sexual relationship...

When I was younger, I was friends with guys... but the older I get, it just seems more complicated. They all want to throw sex in the pot and ruin the friendship or end up falling in love with me. lol

Yes, it is very possible! I have been "just friends" with many women over the years (and still am). I have secretly wanted to bang quite a few of them but managed not to act on it for one reason or another and remained friends. True story......

this is kinda what i meant....i can do it....but i secretly think otherwise and have EXCELLENT self control

The sex always gets in the way. Just ask Harry and Sally. Or watch this guy interviewing college kids.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA



That being said, I have way more guy friends than girl friends. :laugh: So much less drama and easier to hang around with.

One of my best friends is a married man. I'm really good friends with his wife also. No animosity there or any reason to be jealous. Many of my friends are male. Many are female too. All I really care about is whether they are good people whose personality meshes with mine or not.

"No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive."

i have tons guy friends n there is no benefits....

This is one of the funniest post I've read in a while. The vast majority of men and women clearly think different. That is a fact! It is interesting one person pointed out guys don't ask this question. One woman cheekily asked "don't you want to be my friend?" Which made me smile as I'm sure 90% of men would say yes lol. In reversing the tables slightly, as the question was posed by a woman, if a woman was married or in serious relationship and her partner had several female friends that he went out boozing with regularly as guys would with the guys would most women get concerned? Put another spin on it, if a guy went out with the guys regular most women would either be happy for their own time or pissed by being left out, but introduce female friends, attractive ones or not into the frame then it isn't really a matter of having friends but the class of friend and the type of friendship. Thus you can have male/female friends but once in a relationship things change for most couples. Some may argue you should take me as you found me, and some may crave the attention of female friends at the risk of pissing of their girlfriend or wife which is simply a matter of balance and respect for a partner. But if single there is no harm in having 100 male friends or female friends but once in a relationship as with any friend male or female it is a matter of balance and respect for your partner.

This is one of the funniest post I've read in a while. The vast majority of men and women clearly think different. That is a fact! It is interesting one person pointed out guys don't ask this question. One woman cheekily asked "don't you want to be my friend?" Which made me smile as I'm sure 90% of men would say yes lol. In reversing the tables slightly, as the question was posed by a woman, if a woman was married or in serious relationship and her partner had several female friends that he went out boozing with regularly as guys would with the guys would most women get concerned? Put another spin on it, if a guy went out with the guys regular most women would either be happy for their own time or pissed by being left out, but introduce female friends, attractive ones or not into the frame then it isn't really a matter of having friends but the class of friend and the type of friendship. Thus you can have male/female friends but once in a relationship things change for most couples. Some may argue you should take me as you found me, and some may crave the attention of female friends at the risk of pissing of their girlfriend or wife which is simply a matter of balance and respect for a partner. But if single there is no harm in having 100 male friends or female friends but once in a relationship as with any friend male or female it is a matter of balance and respect for your partner.

i thought guys were all about 'bros before hos'...

my long term male friends are gay So yes!

My other male friends, when I used to have a bunch eventually turned and always made a move at some point... or admitted at one point they were interested in me... so IDK... I wonder if they try to be friends initially to hook up and when that doesn't happen they reside to the friend zone.

Now my male friends are also married and friends with my husband so... idk I'm sure a lot of guys and girls can just be friends with no chance of being a couple.

I believe 100% men and women can be just friends. It doesnt matter if one thinks the other is attractive or if they both think each other is attractive. Friends are friends and thats that. It doesnt have to go beyond that.

^^THIS^^

I have several close male friends that I've known for years. My husband doesn't trip on us and neither do their wives. To see us interact you would know that friends is all we've ever been and all we'll ever be.

Nope.


One or the other eventually feels something more. I'm done with those games. No female friends that I'd consider "effable" in the bedroom.