JUST FRIENDS!
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"No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive."
^^^^^^^^ this. Very well said lol.0 -
to q point gut no3.
^^^^^ this. Very well said !!!
(I miss quoted my last post lol).0 -
I would like to know everyone's opinion on whether a man and a woman can "just be friends". I mean with "no benefits". Just like two women can be friends or two men can be friends.
I have a male whom is a very good friend. So, obviously, I do think a man and woman can be just friends, in fact "best friends."
What is your opinion?
My male friend, told me just last week, that I was beautiful. I have no doubt he meant it, as he "tells it like it is" so to speak. I also find him attractive. He has an SO and so do I. We are still best friends and I feel like we always will be.0 -
It's funny that in this thread, almost every guy is saying its not possible, and almost every female is saying it is possible. This is because for females, it is possible for them to have a guy friend. However, every guy, in the back of his mind, wants to bang his "friend". Its just the reality of the situation. He may never act on it, and they may grow old as friends, and she may never know about it, but he wants to bang her.0
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most times it is possible, but if a guy sees you in that light no.0
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Yes, it's possible. Virtually every friend I've ever had has been male and it's only become a problem once. It seems like guys don't think it's possible until they see it happen for themselves. My boyfriend flipped out the first time I made a few friends at work and hung out with them at my apartment (we were drawing and animating cartoons); it wasn't until he came over the next time and met them that he realized (much to his surprise) that there really wasn't anything about it that wasn't entirely platonic and innocuous. So long as the friendship isn't just a guise for sexual attraction, then there's no requirement that the attraction has to be there.
As to some of the comments here about how women think it's possible but men don't, if a man views all relationships with women as something sex-based or at least sex-related, then of course he won't think it's possible; if he allows for the option of a platonic friendship, then there's no reason it can't happen. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I simply don't have much (if anything) in common with other girls/women and it's been that way my whole life. I just don't "get it" and don't think or act how I'm apparently supposed to. Sadly, a lot of women in my experience tend to pounce on that and treat me like crap.0 -
Gender doesn't come into it re putting partner first; it is a balance between friendship and relationship.0
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Nope... Not in my experiences anyway...0
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of course, my best friend is a guy0
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I think that typically in a heterosexual female-male friendship one of the people would really lke to be more than friends...unless both are in committed, happy relationships...and even then I think the thought of the relationship becoming more flits in and out of at least one persons mind periodically. At least that has been my experience.
[Very true/quote]0 -
Not possible, I wanna bang every guy friend I've ever met....0
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I think its hard for guys to be just friends, not to say it doesnt happen but by and large Ive rarely met a guy who spends time around a woman who didnt have some kind of sexual or romantic thoughts about her, so I would think there has to be some kind of unique case by case variable in there that leads to being truly only friends0
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They absolutely can!!
I've had my best friend for 20 years now, and it never crossed our minds to have that kind of benefit. He is like my brother!
PS: we are both attractive and have happy relationships0 -
I think it's possible, though it hasn't happened for me. My guy friends tend to be gay or "like" me. I have a few straight guy friends, but I'm not close to them.0
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This is one of the funniest post I've read in a while. The vast majority of men and women clearly think different. That is a fact! It is interesting one person pointed out guys don't ask this question. One woman cheekily asked "don't you want to be my friend?" Which made me smile as I'm sure 90% of men would say yes lol. In reversing the tables slightly, as the question was posed by a woman, if a woman was married or in serious relationship and her partner had several female friends that he went out boozing with regularly as guys would with the guys would most women get concerned? Put another spin on it, if a guy went out with the guys regular most women would either be happy for their own time or pissed by being left out, but introduce female friends, attractive ones or not into the frame then it isn't really a matter of having friends but the class of friend and the type of friendship. Thus you can have male/female friends but once in a relationship things change for most couples. Some may argue you should take me as you found me, and some may crave the attention of female friends at the risk of pissing of their girlfriend or wife which is simply a matter of balance and respect for a partner. But if single there is no harm in having 100 male friends or female friends but once in a relationship as with any friend male or female it is a matter of balance and respect for your partner.
i thought guys were all about 'bros before hos'...
Hmm no, irrespective of gender, there has to be the right balance between friendship between male friends and female partner. Saying bros before hos isn't too respectful towards women and suggest men inherently put their mates before women or even an assertion of men seeing women as hos which is wrong lol some maybe but not all
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Apparently all of my guy friends are not what they seem. :huh:0
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I think that typically in a heterosexual female-male friendship one of the people would really lke to be more than friends...unless both are in committed, happy relationships...and even then I think the thought of the relationship becoming more flits in and out of at least one persons mind periodically. At least that has been my experience.
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From past experience I always find that when a man and woman get too close one or the other ends up developing deeper feelings.0
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Typically friends ends up being a scenario that one is attracted and the other is not.....or what hauteP1nk described holds true also \m/0
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It depends from the person, But if I have to say about myself: NO:) If my male friend is physically attractive and I like him...gradually I will develop feelings for him. I tried to have before male friends, never work out with me!:-) But good luck to all of you:)0
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most of my life all my friends have been male. i'm a "one of the guys" type of girl, so it's never really been an issue, except maybe with jealous significant others.0
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Its been said that no man can be friends with a woman they find attractive.....
so I am wondering about can a woman be friends with another woman if she finds her attractive?0 -
I think it is possible but rare
I think the norm would be for the man or woman to have feelings/physical attraction and for one party to want more....
but again, i think it is possible..0 -
It's possible, but not so easy sometimes. Especially when there is a history between the two. lol0
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From past experience I always find that when a man and woman get too close one or the other ends up developing deeper feelings.
Not really. Most of my friends are guys, and we've managed to keep on the "friend" level for many many years. I'm happily married and they are good friends with my husband too. I'm friends with their wives/girlfriends as well. You set boundaries just like you do with other friendships and abide by them. My guy friends and I go out to action movies together with my husband or without sometimes and have a great time. Just like my girl friends and I go shopping together and have a good time.0 -
unless the guy is gay- i honestly don't think it is possible. one of my best friends is a guy but he is gay, so it never gets weird. i would like to say it's possible but i really don't think it is.0
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One of best mates is a guy. We became mates when were both single (never any romance bewteen us) and have remained really close now that we both have partners.
Whilst my fella is friends with him, his girlfriend says things like "I can't believe you're leaving me to spend time with another woman" etc etc which is annoying - chill out love, all we're doing is insulting one another, watching sci-fi and talking about how great he thinks youuuuuu are!0 -
You know what?? Yeah. Technically, yes. It is very possible a man & women can be friends without the benefits and whatnot.0
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yes they can be friends , but there MAY be some sort of sexual tension from time to time.. but we are all adults here0
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If there is no sexual tension, then yes, it is possible.0
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