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  • maddmaddie
    maddmaddie Posts: 160 Member
    There are many types of love. But the most "complete" love has 3 aspects. Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment.

    Passion = Infatuation
    Intimacy = liking
    Commitment = empty love

    Intimacy + Passion = Romantic love (people who are dating, no commitment)

    Intimacy + Commitment = Companionate (usually stalkers! lol)

    Passion + Commitment = Fatuous Love (relationships/marriage commited without forming a friendship. Usually don't last).

    Intimacy + Passion + Commitment = Consummate love (is the most ideal type of love between two people)
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    There are many types of love. But the most "complete" love has 3 aspects. Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment.

    Passion = Infatuation
    Intimacy = liking
    Commitment = empty love

    Intimacy + Passion = Romantic love (people who are dating, no commitment)

    Intimacy + Commitment = Companionate (usually stalkers! lol)

    Passion + Commitment = Fatuous Love (relationships/marriage commited without forming a friendship. Usually don't last).

    Intimacy + Passion + Commitment = Consummate love (is the most ideal type of love between two people)

    Makes sense, so Lust and Passion are pretty much the same.... so you can be in Love with more than two people but can only have 'complete' love with one.. Thanks!
  • Judanjos
    Judanjos Posts: 87
    ^^ Haha, totally didn't see that someone else posted the same thing!

    :) And to think there were so many pics to go with that quote. You know what they say..great minds think alike lol ...however this kind of relationship situation totally sucks.

    I love that pic :love:

    So what side have you been on? falling in love with two people, or being the 'first' one? just wondering.

    And yes, it does suck. Been there, done that.

    Both. I've been the one who fell for another...and left. I have also been left. Trial by fire thing. I don't know when I'll repair from it if ever but I know who I am now and who I need and don't need. Like I said sucks but makes you stronger.
  • mustangbass
    mustangbass Posts: 18 Member
    True Dat!
  • meljane1992
    meljane1992 Posts: 16
    The outcome to this question flucturates on the person i have no idea about the relationship or committment in this scenario but i have been in this situation dating a guy for 2 years and i got a new job, met new people and ended up falling inlove with my current bf i couldnt help the feelings i knew were there and seeing him 5 days a week i knew i wanted to spend my life with him because i knew id be happier, im not a spontanious person but i took a chance at love and im lucky enough it went my way. fingers crossed it goes your friends way aswell!

    All i know is people go through life not loving at all, so be grateful =)
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    Hmmm. When you're married and you think you start to develop feelings for someone else, it's really comparing apples and oranges.

    Let's say you're in a down period of your marriage, even if temporarily. Then you meet someone or know someone who's becoming a little more special to you, because you can talk about important things.

    You're not cheating, but you're noticing that you like to be around that person. The attention is fulfilling some sort of craving or need you have... that right now, your spouse can't or won't meet.

    Or maybe it's just a little excitement you're after, even though your spouse tries hard to give you everything you need.

    I honestly think this is the more likely scenario rather than "falling in love" with someone other than your spouse. You spend time with someone who doesn't ask about the laundry, dinner, the bills, the kids, and so on. It's seems very appealing at first.
  • ExplorinLauren
    ExplorinLauren Posts: 991 Member
    This ? is for those of you who are married or in a committed
    relationship. Is it at all possible to love or be in love with more
    than one person? Let's say you're happily married & you meet
    someone, initially you're just friends but slowly you gain feelings
    for this person. Does your love change for your spouse? Have any
    of you experienced that?


    My husband and I developed and eventually got together from an affair. I was married to my ex, and he was married to his ex...and she was my best friend since 6th grade.
    My ex husband (who I was with when I met my current husband) was not someone I truly wanted to be with. Plain and simple. We got together young, and I think I was A. on a mission to prove we COULD make it and B. we had children together.
    In this regard I think it is possible to be in love with more than 1 person. But its a diff kind of love. For instance, I was in love with my ex, I had been with him for 10 years, we had kids, he knew me, I was comfortable. It was comfortable normal love.
    But my current husband... was a diff kind of love. It was amazing, sexy, sultry, passionate, leave every insecurity you have at the door,hit me hard, knew he was my soulmate, cant live with out you... kind of love. And in this regard no... you can not be in love with more than one person if your HAPPILY married.

    The key is happiness. No one in this world could ever make me cheat on my husband. Nothing in this world would keep us apart. No one on the planet was made for me...besides my husband. I didn't feel that way before with my ex , and thats why I was able to do what I did.

    I wouldn't trade anything I have now for all the power, money or anything else in the entire world. I think listening to your heart is the most important thing in life... you only have one life. Live it like you mean it.
  • ifyouknew
    ifyouknew Posts: 68 Member
    I wouldn't say it's impossible, but it has never happened to me. In my past, not-great relationships, I would sometimes fall for someone else. But since I've been in my current, great relationship (x11 years) I have never once felt the slightest twinge of attraction for anyone else. I only want the one I've already got. (Maybe after 20 or 50 years that will change, though I hope it doesn't!)
  • gdr1976
    gdr1976 Posts: 460 Member


    My husband and I developed and eventually got together from an affair. I was married to my ex, and he was married to his ex...and she was my best friend since 6th grade.
    My ex husband (who I was with when I met my current husband) was not someone I truly wanted to be with. Plain and simple. We got together young, and I think I was A. on a mission to prove we COULD make it and B. we had children together.
    In this regard I think it is possible to be in love with more than 1 person. But its a diff kind of love. For instance, I was in love with my ex, I had been with him for 10 years, we had kids, he knew me, I was comfortable. It was comfortable normal love.
    But my current husband... was a diff kind of love. It was amazing, sexy, sultry, passionate, leave every insecurity you have at the door,hit me hard, knew he was my soulmate, cant live with out you... kind of love. And in this regard no... you can not be in love with more than one person if your HAPPILY married.

    The key is happiness. No one in this world could ever make me cheat on my husband. Nothing in this world would keep us apart. No one on the planet was made for me...besides my husband. I didn't feel that way before with my ex , and thats why I was able to do what I did.

    I wouldn't trade anything I have now for all the power, money or anything else in the entire world. I think listening to your heart is the most important thing in life... you only have one life. Live it like you mean it.

    This!!
    I know someone going through this right now.
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